Am I suicidal??im 14.?!


Question: Am I suicidal!?!?im 14!.!?
I hate my life!. I hate my face, my body, I hate everything about myself!. I hate my nose!. Im too skinny!. Really pale!. Before when I got depressed I used to cut myself!. But I dont do that anymore, cause that doesnt help!. When Im depressed I dont eat like at all!. I've gone without eating for 2 days with nothing but juice or water!. I like to stay up in my room all day and stay by myself, I like it better that way!. Im a very smart girl though in school!. I'm very social and I have a best friend too!. Shes perfect, literally!. Perfect face, body, reputation!. Nothing goes wrong with her!. & guess I'm kinda jealous at points, but I will never tell her that cause shes a really close friend and I dont want to idk, it will just ruin our friendship!. Boys that I like, like her and its really hard!. Like I know SO many people who have it so good in life and wish I was one of them!. I've had depression problems for about 4 yrs now!.!.!. But nobody really knows it cause I hide it so good!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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hi there! well thanks for sharing all that^^!. Depression is !.!.!.well a *****-i speak from experience!. and the thing about it is it's not something you can handle on your own-I've found that you really don't believe your own self, no matter how hard, unless others help to drill it in your head that your perfectly fine the way you are!. I think you could become suicidal, but that's up to you-keep in mind that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem!. I think you should get help from a psychologist, or if even just a good friend who you feel comfortable with who you can just talk to-and not worry so much about whether they're judging your every move!. hiding doesn't help-it'll make you feel safe for a while but it doesn't fix anything!. It's good you stopped cutting-it really doesn't help, just leaves you with bad reminders!.And about your friend-NOBODY IS PERFECT!.No matter how amazing she may seem!.!.!.what you have to do is look at yourself in the mirror, just force yourself to, no matter how ugly you may think you are-because that's when you'll slowly find the beauty in yourself, and accept who you are, and be okay with the fact that you aren't perfect(cause remember no one is!.) You know, I'll tell you this now- you can get through this-but you have to find even the smallest drip of strength in you to tell yourself you can, and that you WILL OVERCOME!. I think you just need someone to talk to, to help you realize some stuff!. I'm an open and willing candidate if you'll let me-send me a message if you need someone to listen to you-and to help!. I don't think it's good enough for me to just try to give a suggestion for everything in a few sentences in this answer!.^_^'
God Bless^^
and by the way i'm your age-well just turned 15-and to say to some of the other people who answered-with all due respect, people don't understand sometimes that depression, like many other illnesses, doesn't care what colour, what gender or especially what age you are!. It's not always as simple as something being "just another teenager who's taking things overboard" a person can be chronically depressed as a teenager, and by no fault of their own!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You have it good!. I think you just worry to much and should loosen up!. By not caring what people think , Don't go regretting things you did, because You'll just take two steps back instead of moving forward!. You should also try getting out more , staying in your room thinking of reason why you hate yourself will mess you up even more!. Go out forget about all that kinda stuff!. Stop envying other people and try to envy yourself!. like i siad you'll only take two steps back instead of moving forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

First don't kill yourself not the answer! You have a great life don't ruin it and i am sure someone likes you!. Keep your personality positive because it will show in your looks! If your depressed tell someone your mom or dad or best friend because it will get worse and i am sure you don't want to leave your best friend because she cares about you!.

Hope it helps :)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

ditto, find something that makes your happy

theres much more to life than this!. Once you get over this phase your going to be glad you made the right choice

look on the bright side of things make friends, and most importantly be happy!.
-i've been through this too and i've gone over it so you canWww@Answer-Health@Com

Well i don't really think your suicidal!.!.!.!.because of the fact that you said that you don't want to die!. But the problem is that you have thought about it, but death is never the answer, girl your 14 your LIFE is barely beginning!. Yes, their is always going to be that perfect looking girl or perfect looking guy, but you never know they might have some of the same problems as you!. Nobodies perfect!!! but that's life!.!.!.!.!.!.!.hang in there it will get better!!! =]Www@Answer-Health@Com

ya you should find someone you can talk to!. It doesnt have to be one of those doctors that try to make you talk to a stuffed animal of a puppet(lol) but just someone you can trust and talk to!. Maybe someone who understands what you going through!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I hear ya!. Everybody thinks im perfect but i cry at night and so silently that no one notice!. I know what ur going through!. you Just have to find something that makes you happy!. Something you can do to escape life sometimes when it gets tough!. No matter how much we fake it we have to build up confidence in ourselves before were trully happyWww@Answer-Health@Com

Ur not suicidal until you attempt to kill yourself!. but surely
like talk to a friend that is close to you and just for the note shrinks and doctors do nothing but **** Ur life up even more trust m i have depression and bipolar dysfunction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

think of the people i love like ur friends and i try to think about what could b around the corner thank happy and think about ur originality and its not worth it thank that u can b a verrrry impotent person and how u saved the polar bears or somethingWww@Answer-Health@Com

Think about the people who love you, who actually care!. Talk to someone about it!. someone thats really close!. I cant really change your mind!. Its mostly your choice!. If This Didnt Help call 1-800-suicide or log on to www!.save!.org !.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i feel your pain
my friends are perfect and my life sucks
you're not the only one

once you get away from your situation everything will be fine
you can email me if you want :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com

ditto!.!.!.

MAXX,
The Fighter

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If I was you I would go tell my mom and get some help nobody had to know but you and your mom!. It could get bigger without even nowing and something really bad could happen!. HURRYWww@Answer-Health@Com

wow this sickens me, maybe you should stop being so self-centered and think about all the other people in the world who are much worse off than you!Www@Answer-Health@Com

you need to talk to somebody!. get help!Www@Answer-Health@Com

tell someone
youll be glad you didWww@Answer-Health@Com

If you WANT to die, you're suicidal!. It's as simple as that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes you are!.
suicidal is just a term meaning that you want to die!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You know i used to feel a bit like that way back in high school!. My teeth are not normal!. Its like the teeth of a puppy, that what they say!. physical appearance is well what people rely on!.But You are smart, and what important is what's inside you!. Just be yourself, don't get intimidated that much!. Walk with your chin high, You are beautiful!.!.!. Put that in your mind!.!.!. Beauty is not just physically!. Boys will like you as what you are!.!. Just think of those people who are disabled, can't walk, deaf!.!.!. You are normal!.!. Try eating normally, eat what you want!. Have plenty of fruits and veggies!.!. It will make your skin glow!.!.!. Go girl!
P!.S God loves you!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

sweetie, i suffered from depression for the same EXACT reason!. tho taking my life, or having it taken, never crossed my mind!.


and, i know people are going to tell you "you'e fine!. make a list of the things you like about yourself instead of focusing on the bad"
and the truth is!.!.!. it doesnt really work unless you put your all into it!. i'm still doubting myself often, but i'm feeling better!.

you're 14!. so try playing with makeup and hair and clothes, to find something perfect for you!.
ask your bestie for tips on how to make you look better!.

it's strange that you started at 10 tho!. depression may run in your family!? try not to hide it too much!. drop a hint or 2!. sometimes help from the ones we love is ow we become saved!.

like i said, i kno mostly what you are feeling!. but dont worry, just let your personality shine through!. i know you will find your way!. and i didnt get my first bf til late 15, so dont put too much thought into "boys"Www@Answer-Health@Com

i had many of the same thoughts when i was younger!. and i was always friend with the prettiest girls in school!. noys loved them, but payed no attention to me!. they were gorgeous!. the major difference between them and you is self confidence!. i never had any, but i hid my self-hate well!. i thought i was too fat, because my friends were a size 0, and i wore a size 4!. i hated my nose because it had an irregular bump on it!. i'm pasty pale, and i had dull red hair!. i hated everything about myself!. i gained self confidence by surrounding myself with people who made me feel good about myself!. and i am definatly not suggesting you cake your face with make-up and go out looking like a slut, but i began wearing eyeliner and mascara, and it really boosts my appearance!. also, you think you are too skinny, but don't eat!? if you think you are too skinny perhaps you should work out some!? and maybe eat some protein bars and shakes that help gain weight!? i am also very smart in school!. that is what is most important for your future, so don't ever risk your education for anything!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I am retired now!.

When I was a Lecturer in Music and developed a depressive episode, I would force myself to get out of bed early so I could go to the mirror and practice smiling, etc!., in order to hide my symptoms from everybody!.

Does that sound like a smart thing to do!?

It most certainly wasn't! But I guess my pride was intact!.!.!.

I read up on the question of Affective Mood Disorder, diagnosed myself, and, through a regime of physical exercise, managed to rid myself of depressive episodes when they appeared!.

Those long periods of mental anguish, including the very real possibility of suicide (!), were totally unnecessary, and were in place only because of my gigantic ego!

At 14, don't be too proud to seek help!! You sound intelligent and very sensitive!. Why do you 'hate' yourself!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Please do not kill yourself its the wrost thing to do my oldest brother did and that a first class ticket to hell !. please get in a base church talk to people in there (like the Pastor,1st Lady etc) !. then just fix yourself up really nice go shopping i went threw the same thing n now i had Jesus in my life that helps me !.Please make it threw this for you can be an example for someone else !.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Listen, i am just going to put it like this, even the most gorgeous person can be unhappy with how they look, it's natural not to like somethings about youself that most other people would find beautiful, don't think like that, you know this really gets me when someone is always willing to throw their life in God's face and say, " here, i don't like what you created", please stop that, you know what's the worst part!? that there are people all over the world in really, really bad shape, there missing body parts, they have these terrible diseases that have no cure, but yet, they want to keep living, think about that, how strong are those people, that are completely diformed and still love life, you should love life, and if you don't like something about yourself!? work on it, if you feel you're too skinny, go get some vitamins to help you gain healthy weight, ect!.!.!.!.!.!.!.so talk to you're family and tell them how you feel, but don't ever think of dying because life is the most precious gift in the world!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

First I just want to tell you that no matter how perfect people appear, its not the entire story!. If someone is absolutely drop dead gorgeous, there's another side to it!. Being really pretty is very hard for some people when they are young because of the boys who only go after them for their bodies, they tend to have relationship problems, get used a lot, and have a lot of people make genuine theories of their entire personality based off of their looks!. They struggle a lot with infinite problems based off of their looks!. So I just don't want you to think that your best friend, or anyone else, is at all perfect (cliche, I know, but its very very true)!. Actually, girls who are really pretty are something like 5 times more likely to commit suicide than others!. When they are older, their looks don't get them anywhere anymore, and they realize that a lot of people only sucked up to them because of how pretty they looked!. So, in some way, you actually have an advantage!.
You should seek some medical advice, and definitely some therapy!. I'm 14 too, and I went through a stage of being really depressed and I started to hurt myself!. My mom made me go to a therapist, and I was so relieved to feel like there was always someone who I could get advice and help from without worrying who they will tell or if I will be in trouble!. So I highly recommend that!.

Just so that you know, my best friend and I are the same way!. I don't know if you would reconsider telling your bff, but I do think its important for her to be sensitive to!. She might already suspect it, too, and she might be a little bit worried as to why you won't tell her yourself!. Also, it will lift a LOT of weight off of your chest to let her know!. While your on topic with something related - like she's saying how a friend is being mean to her, and you say she's jealous!.!.just be like I admit too though, I mean its really hard for me sometimes not to be jealous of you!. But I do my best to not act on it because i love you so much!.
Just connect it into a relative conversation somehow, and very casually!. Chances are (I know it was true for me) that she will be jealous of you for whatever reason (maybe for your personality and your way of getting attention or your intelligence or grades)!.
But the most important thing is that you need to tell someone before things start to get more serious!.
Talk to your doctor or parents and therapist about the eating disorder, too!.
As for the depression, this all should help, but sometimes your doctor might prescribe you an appropriate medication for you to treat depression (my mom takes it, and it works so well)!. Ask someone about it!.
You should also try to get involved in something you really enjoy doing, and can be really good at and take pride in!. Like a sport (help you build muscle and get your energy out) or something artistic or musical!. Something you can do by yourself, or just to help you with your self-esteem, and also to give you something to work on!. I also really suggest that you do do some sort of exercise!. it could help you a lot!. (I have ADD, and sometimes when I don't have a pill to take, I will exercise, and i swear it is almost just as good!.)

I wish you the best of luck, and I really hope that this helps you!. Just try and get some kind of medical attention, and they will help you out a lot!. You can get through this!.

Much much love and hope-Hayley~<3Www@Answer-Health@Com





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