Self mutilation?!
Question: Self mutilation!?
Please dont judge me!.!.!. This is a serious question!.!.
I like to hurt myself!.!. Like cutting, or putting saftey pins through my skin!.!. Or punching walls or scraping my knuckles!.
Is this bad!? And what should I do to help it!?
Oh, and im not doing it because I think my life is horrible, or that im "emo" or anything!.!.!. I just like it!.
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I like to hurt myself!.!. Like cutting, or putting saftey pins through my skin!.!. Or punching walls or scraping my knuckles!.
Is this bad!? And what should I do to help it!?
Oh, and im not doing it because I think my life is horrible, or that im "emo" or anything!.!.!. I just like it!.
Once again, please dont judge me or make fun of meWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I can really relate to you!. I have been cutting myself for a very long time!. I love the feeling also!. There is some depression and other things going on in my life that play into my cutting, but over all, I LOVE the feeling!.
It can be very difficult though!. Scars that may stay on the skin for a very long time, or infections!. And there is always the risk of cutting too deep!. I did that and ended up in the emergency room!. Self mutilation is very addicting, but very dangerous!.
What is the most difficult, would have to be when people find out about the cuts!. It is always humiliating!.
I know that self harm is SO addicting and it feels like you can't live without it, but you have to!. If you keep cutting, it will consume your life, it consumed mine and I will have scars on me forever to remind me of the moments!. Bruises don't last as long as cuts, but they are still dangerous, and will lead to worse things!.
I am seeing a therapist!. I know that you don't feel depressed or anything, but there has to be something going on, and your therapist could help you figure that out!. Mine was very helpful!.
Here are some ideas from my therapist to do instead of cutting or bruising!.
Get rid of any sharp objects around that you have access to
Go to a public place
Read a book/magazine
Journal (identify the trigger)
Take a shower
Listen to music
Take a walk
Draw/Color
Watch TV!.
Get grounded (I'm not sure I understand that one :P)
Visualize your safe scene
Talk to a parent or friend
Dunk your face in cold water
Pray ( if your religious)
Play sports
Make crafts
Get on the computer (stay away from triggering web sites)
Talk into a tape recorder
Shred paper
Hold ice cubes in your hands until they melt and then use warm water
Call your therapist
Make a no-harm contract with yourself or someone you trust
Clean the house
Take a bubble bath
Do relaxation exercises
Do deep breathing exercises
Go shopping
Wear a rubber band around a wrist and snap it tightly when the urge arises
Make marks (washable red marker) where you want to hurt yourself (sometimes self-injurers like the sight of blood)
Hope that helped, it helped me!
Best of luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
It can be very difficult though!. Scars that may stay on the skin for a very long time, or infections!. And there is always the risk of cutting too deep!. I did that and ended up in the emergency room!. Self mutilation is very addicting, but very dangerous!.
What is the most difficult, would have to be when people find out about the cuts!. It is always humiliating!.
I know that self harm is SO addicting and it feels like you can't live without it, but you have to!. If you keep cutting, it will consume your life, it consumed mine and I will have scars on me forever to remind me of the moments!. Bruises don't last as long as cuts, but they are still dangerous, and will lead to worse things!.
I am seeing a therapist!. I know that you don't feel depressed or anything, but there has to be something going on, and your therapist could help you figure that out!. Mine was very helpful!.
Here are some ideas from my therapist to do instead of cutting or bruising!.
Get rid of any sharp objects around that you have access to
Go to a public place
Read a book/magazine
Journal (identify the trigger)
Take a shower
Listen to music
Take a walk
Draw/Color
Watch TV!.
Get grounded (I'm not sure I understand that one :P)
Visualize your safe scene
Talk to a parent or friend
Dunk your face in cold water
Pray ( if your religious)
Play sports
Make crafts
Get on the computer (stay away from triggering web sites)
Talk into a tape recorder
Shred paper
Hold ice cubes in your hands until they melt and then use warm water
Call your therapist
Make a no-harm contract with yourself or someone you trust
Clean the house
Take a bubble bath
Do relaxation exercises
Do deep breathing exercises
Go shopping
Wear a rubber band around a wrist and snap it tightly when the urge arises
Make marks (washable red marker) where you want to hurt yourself (sometimes self-injurers like the sight of blood)
Hope that helped, it helped me!
Best of luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ok, here is the deal!. It doesn't sound like you're self-mutilating for a destructive psychological reason!. It sounds like you've figured out that doing so can release endorphines and you like the endorphines!. This is kinda like taking pain pills or something!.
I would obviously urge you to see a health professional regarding this!. You can even see your family doctor as a first step!.
Here is somethign that might help you give up the behavior right away: did you know that exercising can do the same thing (biologically) as cutting yourself!? Next time you're thinking about cutting yourself, try doing 100 push ups instead!. You'll get the same (or better) high!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would obviously urge you to see a health professional regarding this!. You can even see your family doctor as a first step!.
Here is somethign that might help you give up the behavior right away: did you know that exercising can do the same thing (biologically) as cutting yourself!? Next time you're thinking about cutting yourself, try doing 100 push ups instead!. You'll get the same (or better) high!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wanting to hurt yourself is not healthy!. When you hurt yourself, your body releases endorphins to help relieve the pain, which means that over time you can become addicted to hurting yourself and need to hurt yourself worse to keep getting the same "rush" of endorphins!.
One way to stop hurting yourself in ways which will cause permanent scars is to put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it whenever you feel like hurting yourself!. This is only a temporary solution however and you really need to get to the root of why you feel the need to hurt yourself!. Talking to a therapist may help you if you can find one that you feel comfortable with!.
I wish you all the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
One way to stop hurting yourself in ways which will cause permanent scars is to put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it whenever you feel like hurting yourself!. This is only a temporary solution however and you really need to get to the root of why you feel the need to hurt yourself!. Talking to a therapist may help you if you can find one that you feel comfortable with!.
I wish you all the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hm, well it is bad to hurt yourself!. But I know what you mean when you say you like it!. I like it too!. Well actually I use my self harm for another reason altogether, but that's a story for another time!. Anyways this is a dangerous behavoiur dear!. Try keeping your hands busy by writing, or painting your nails or something!. Or running!.Running gives you almost the same feeling!. Also try talking to someone!. A therapist can be helpful, if they understand why you hurt yourself!. And try some websites!. Teenhelp!.org, which is down now but should be up in a day or so, teencentral!.com, and there's a lot of teen help sites and forums!. Try thoses!.And yahoo groups, there's several for self injury!. Just focus on something else, or try to!.I know how hard it is!.Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
you are not bad, but this behavior can hurt you (through infections, blood loss) and usually means something is really bothering you!. it's really important to find a counselor you can talk to about it!. someone close to me started doing it, and she really benefitted from finding a therapist and talking about what was on her mind!.
sometimes it's due to anger that you feel towards others or towards situations, but that you don't feel like you can express!. for other people, it's about feeling numb!. if could be related to sexual feelings that are uncomfortable for you!. for others, it's a real addiction to the biochemicals self-harm produces!. or it could be boredom, and there could be some really empty places in your life that need to be filled with activities that would make you feel more involved, more excited about life!.
life is tough!.!.!.esp!. if you're a teenager!.!.!.and what you're doing is more common than most people realize!. but you may be troubled by the scars when you're older!.
it's often people who are sensitive, deep-thinking, emotional who do this, and you deserve to be taken seriously, and treated with care!.
please get help!. it's difficult to figure this out on your own, and you need a trained, caring ally to help you figure out why you're doing it, and what's missing from your life, or what needs changing so that you won't do it any more!.
you can find resources online as well, but it'd be great if you could find a counselor, a live person near you to help!.
good luck!. I think you are brave and wise to seek answers here, and I hope that you find help!. I'll be thinking of you, and wishing the best for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sometimes it's due to anger that you feel towards others or towards situations, but that you don't feel like you can express!. for other people, it's about feeling numb!. if could be related to sexual feelings that are uncomfortable for you!. for others, it's a real addiction to the biochemicals self-harm produces!. or it could be boredom, and there could be some really empty places in your life that need to be filled with activities that would make you feel more involved, more excited about life!.
life is tough!.!.!.esp!. if you're a teenager!.!.!.and what you're doing is more common than most people realize!. but you may be troubled by the scars when you're older!.
it's often people who are sensitive, deep-thinking, emotional who do this, and you deserve to be taken seriously, and treated with care!.
please get help!. it's difficult to figure this out on your own, and you need a trained, caring ally to help you figure out why you're doing it, and what's missing from your life, or what needs changing so that you won't do it any more!.
you can find resources online as well, but it'd be great if you could find a counselor, a live person near you to help!.
good luck!. I think you are brave and wise to seek answers here, and I hope that you find help!. I'll be thinking of you, and wishing the best for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I do the same thing!.
I started with cutting myself when i was younger and then it esculated into pulling nails off and bashing myself up!.
I know that the majority of the people who answer this thread will say that you should get professional help!. I think that's a good idea, but i wouldn't know since i havn't reached out for help yet!.
Generally focousing your harmful thoughts on something more constructive (writing, art, music) !.!. or destrctive (tearing up paper, screaming into pillows, drawing on yourself with red pen)
Also join this forum:
www!.recoveryourlife!.com
It really helped me and the people are so nice!.
my email is in my profile if you ever need to talk to someone who knows what its like!.
You're not alone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I started with cutting myself when i was younger and then it esculated into pulling nails off and bashing myself up!.
I know that the majority of the people who answer this thread will say that you should get professional help!. I think that's a good idea, but i wouldn't know since i havn't reached out for help yet!.
Generally focousing your harmful thoughts on something more constructive (writing, art, music) !.!. or destrctive (tearing up paper, screaming into pillows, drawing on yourself with red pen)
Also join this forum:
www!.recoveryourlife!.com
It really helped me and the people are so nice!.
my email is in my profile if you ever need to talk to someone who knows what its like!.
You're not alone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
perhaps you like the main because it takes your mind off other things!? you could be trying to block out other things by focusing on the pain!. you should talk to someone!. i'm not saying a therapist, but maybe a close friend!? waht helped me was actually talking to people over the internet who i didn't know, because then you can be completely honest without fear of people judging you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Emotional conflict, hidden and sometimes forgotten, lies below the level of consciousness which at times will surface and cause a violent twist of character, which when acted upon can alter a life permanently for the worst!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you need to talk to a therapist or a dr its not good to cut no matter the reasonWww@Answer-Health@Com
Is this bad!? Of course its bad! Get help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
GET SOME HELP NOW!Www@Answer-Health@Com
As a former self harmer, I can tell you that it's a hard thing to stop!. THe cycle is viscious and it is extremly addictive!. Like you I started out with a few cuts here and there, slapping myself, that kind of thing!. However within a year my self-harm esculated to cuts that were (at times)3 inches wide!. I never got stiches for these, so as you can imagine my scars are huge!. I also began burning myself!. I would steal my dad's cigarette lighter and burn the ends of my fingers, sometimes I also used to burn my breasts!. I burn them because they are very sensitive so he pain became even greater!.
This self-harm went untreated for 4 years!. At the end of this time period I was in such a bad place in my mind and I didn't know what to do with myself that I tried to kill myself!. Thankfully my friend come over and found me, she called an ambulance and they saved my life!. In some ways it was one of the best things I ever did!. The hospital put in phychiatric wards and I recived help!. It was a very rough road and many of the days I was there I wanted to curl up and die!. But I didn't!. I was in there 4 months and at the end of this time I came out a stronger person!. Yes I have scars, yes I can never forget, but I turned my life around!. For that, I'm proud!. I was never proud of myself before, now I am!.
I guess what I'm trying to tell you with my story is that this is not a good way to go!. When I started I hadn't a clue what I was doing!. I cut myself acidentally whilst slicing bread one day and it felt good, so I did it more often!.
Do you have a close friend to talk to or could you open up to your family!? I know it seems like talking will do no good right now (trust me, I've been there) but it does!. It's amazing how getting these negative thoughts and feelings out of yourself can truly make you feel better!.
I suggest you either seek proffestional help or speak with a school councelor!. Whilst you are not seriously harming yourself at the moment, the intention is there and WILL get worse, I promise!.
This explains a little more:
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=XM_QIYc-V!.!.!.
http://www!.selfharm!.org!.uk/default!.aspa
Good luck!. E-mail me if you EVER wish to talk to someone or have too many feelings bottled up inside!. Life IS out there!.
- God Bless!.
A!.
EDIT:
Tips to stop self-harm:
- Write down all your feelings
- Tell yourself, if I still feel like cutting in another 10 mintues, I will do it!. Wait for the 10 minutes then try to do it over and over until the urge is gone
- Run your hand/arm under lukewarm water!. NOT hot!.
- Wrap a rubber band around your arm and snap it everytime you feel you need to cut
- When you get an urge to cut get a red pen and draw on yourself where you would usually cut
- Sing, dance, scream, watch TV, eat some fruit, call a friend, go out running, KEEP YOURSELF BUSY!.
These are just a few of the tips my therapist told me, I still use practically all of them to this day, and no doubt I will for the rest of my life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This self-harm went untreated for 4 years!. At the end of this time period I was in such a bad place in my mind and I didn't know what to do with myself that I tried to kill myself!. Thankfully my friend come over and found me, she called an ambulance and they saved my life!. In some ways it was one of the best things I ever did!. The hospital put in phychiatric wards and I recived help!. It was a very rough road and many of the days I was there I wanted to curl up and die!. But I didn't!. I was in there 4 months and at the end of this time I came out a stronger person!. Yes I have scars, yes I can never forget, but I turned my life around!. For that, I'm proud!. I was never proud of myself before, now I am!.
I guess what I'm trying to tell you with my story is that this is not a good way to go!. When I started I hadn't a clue what I was doing!. I cut myself acidentally whilst slicing bread one day and it felt good, so I did it more often!.
Do you have a close friend to talk to or could you open up to your family!? I know it seems like talking will do no good right now (trust me, I've been there) but it does!. It's amazing how getting these negative thoughts and feelings out of yourself can truly make you feel better!.
I suggest you either seek proffestional help or speak with a school councelor!. Whilst you are not seriously harming yourself at the moment, the intention is there and WILL get worse, I promise!.
This explains a little more:
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=XM_QIYc-V!.!.!.
http://www!.selfharm!.org!.uk/default!.aspa
Good luck!. E-mail me if you EVER wish to talk to someone or have too many feelings bottled up inside!. Life IS out there!.
- God Bless!.
A!.
EDIT:
Tips to stop self-harm:
- Write down all your feelings
- Tell yourself, if I still feel like cutting in another 10 mintues, I will do it!. Wait for the 10 minutes then try to do it over and over until the urge is gone
- Run your hand/arm under lukewarm water!. NOT hot!.
- Wrap a rubber band around your arm and snap it everytime you feel you need to cut
- When you get an urge to cut get a red pen and draw on yourself where you would usually cut
- Sing, dance, scream, watch TV, eat some fruit, call a friend, go out running, KEEP YOURSELF BUSY!.
These are just a few of the tips my therapist told me, I still use practically all of them to this day, and no doubt I will for the rest of my life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com