I feel clastrophobic and worried and at the moment am not in a position to see a!
Question: I feel clastrophobic and worried and at the moment am not in a position to see a doctor/counciler!?
im 17 and ive just had a fairly serious issue that my parents werent to happy with!.!. so fair enough i was grounded!.!. ive been in for a few weeks now (school holidays so i havnt even left the house for school) and my parents are barely talking to me!.!. my step mum refusing to almost completely!.
now i feel clastrophic in my own room im stressed and scared just lying in bed, i cant sleep, and it feels like an extreme homesickness only this time with the urge to be with other people
i cant sleep because every time my mind isnt focused on something, i keep replaying the events over and over in my head and am trying to think of ways to go about dealing with the problem and who to talk to but i cant think of anything that will make my parents understand im trying to repent they dont seem to see it!. i feel that i cant wait weeks/months for them to notice and come around because its starting to get unbearable not even being able to be within my own house/room without feeling like thisWww@Answer-Health@Com
now i feel clastrophic in my own room im stressed and scared just lying in bed, i cant sleep, and it feels like an extreme homesickness only this time with the urge to be with other people
i cant sleep because every time my mind isnt focused on something, i keep replaying the events over and over in my head and am trying to think of ways to go about dealing with the problem and who to talk to but i cant think of anything that will make my parents understand im trying to repent they dont seem to see it!. i feel that i cant wait weeks/months for them to notice and come around because its starting to get unbearable not even being able to be within my own house/room without feeling like thisWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
It's hard to give advice without details of the situation you're dealing with, but I'll try my best!.
Everyone makes mistakes and chooses to do the wrong thing from time to time!. Your parents (father, step-mother), are not saints and they have made mistakes that they too have had to overcome!. I do not believe that they are not speaking to you because of what you have done!. It is more likely that they just don't have the right words to say!.
Maybe your parents just need to hear the right words before they can come up with right words of their own!. Words that express the remorse you feel for what ever it is you have done, words that let them know, that you know why it was the wrong thing to do, and words that assure them that you will not be repeating the actions!. I'm quite sure you have already apologized, most likely more than once, but perhaps detailed explanation of why you believe you will not be repeating the offense, and expressing your understanding of the consequences, will help them believe that you truly are "repenting!."
My suggestion to you (again not knowing the situations makes this hard), is to try to break the ice yourself!. Don't seclude yourself in your room!. Come out and let your parents know that you consider yourself to be part of the family!. If need be come out and ask bluntly for forgiveness, and acceptance back into their daily routines!.
Now you've probably noticed that i've only suggested things that you yourself can do!. And I haven't made recommendations or suggestions of what i think your parents should do!. The reason for this is that, in the position that you are in, you can only act for yourself!. You can not tell your parents that they should be responding in such and such a way!. This would not have a favorable response in most cases!. It's like that old saying "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink!." Even if you know how your parents should be responding, you can't force them to be appropriate!. Remember they too have flaws!. The best you can do, is make improvements on your end and hope that they follow suite!.
And chin up!. This groundation will not last forever :o) you'll soon be looking back at it all, and be glad it's in the past!. Look forward and the future will come faster, try not to dwell on the here and now, for soon it will come to pass!. I think that once you break the ice with your parents and regain their acceptance you will be able to sleep better!. Focusing on the future and making future plans of action will also help you clear your mind and ease you into slumber!.
I wish you all the best of luck and will keep you in my prayersWww@Answer-Health@Com
Everyone makes mistakes and chooses to do the wrong thing from time to time!. Your parents (father, step-mother), are not saints and they have made mistakes that they too have had to overcome!. I do not believe that they are not speaking to you because of what you have done!. It is more likely that they just don't have the right words to say!.
Maybe your parents just need to hear the right words before they can come up with right words of their own!. Words that express the remorse you feel for what ever it is you have done, words that let them know, that you know why it was the wrong thing to do, and words that assure them that you will not be repeating the actions!. I'm quite sure you have already apologized, most likely more than once, but perhaps detailed explanation of why you believe you will not be repeating the offense, and expressing your understanding of the consequences, will help them believe that you truly are "repenting!."
My suggestion to you (again not knowing the situations makes this hard), is to try to break the ice yourself!. Don't seclude yourself in your room!. Come out and let your parents know that you consider yourself to be part of the family!. If need be come out and ask bluntly for forgiveness, and acceptance back into their daily routines!.
Now you've probably noticed that i've only suggested things that you yourself can do!. And I haven't made recommendations or suggestions of what i think your parents should do!. The reason for this is that, in the position that you are in, you can only act for yourself!. You can not tell your parents that they should be responding in such and such a way!. This would not have a favorable response in most cases!. It's like that old saying "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink!." Even if you know how your parents should be responding, you can't force them to be appropriate!. Remember they too have flaws!. The best you can do, is make improvements on your end and hope that they follow suite!.
And chin up!. This groundation will not last forever :o) you'll soon be looking back at it all, and be glad it's in the past!. Look forward and the future will come faster, try not to dwell on the here and now, for soon it will come to pass!. I think that once you break the ice with your parents and regain their acceptance you will be able to sleep better!. Focusing on the future and making future plans of action will also help you clear your mind and ease you into slumber!.
I wish you all the best of luck and will keep you in my prayersWww@Answer-Health@Com
my doctor told me i was depressed, stressed, filled with anxiety!. i stayed in my room for a year!. i am an adult and had i repeat had the same problems i found doctors and i motivated myself you go in a different direction!. it worked!. you are 17 you are a young womem not a kid anymore!. make them talk to you!. there could end up being a lot of problems in your life later!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As a parent, I know that we can freak out and be unfair!. We struggle with the responsibilities and demands!. We love our children but we have to think of what is best to make them into a great adult so that they can handle life!.
That said, I suggest you write them (or maybe even email) them a letter!. Explain to them what you feel about the "serious issue", what you have learned, and what you think that they want you to understand!. If you can communicate to them clearly, you may be able to open up discussions about how to get past the emotional stress!. I am NOT saying getting out of punishment! That is not gonna happen and shouldn't!. You have to face consequences in life, we all do and we learn from them more than any other situations in life!.
I am sure that you dad loves you very much and if you are truly struggling with anxiety issues and emotional turmoil, he will want to help you!. Just remember that helping you doesn't mean giving in to you or letting you have what you want (to see other people)!. It means helping you deal with your problems in a responsible way!.
God's best to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That said, I suggest you write them (or maybe even email) them a letter!. Explain to them what you feel about the "serious issue", what you have learned, and what you think that they want you to understand!. If you can communicate to them clearly, you may be able to open up discussions about how to get past the emotional stress!. I am NOT saying getting out of punishment! That is not gonna happen and shouldn't!. You have to face consequences in life, we all do and we learn from them more than any other situations in life!.
I am sure that you dad loves you very much and if you are truly struggling with anxiety issues and emotional turmoil, he will want to help you!. Just remember that helping you doesn't mean giving in to you or letting you have what you want (to see other people)!. It means helping you deal with your problems in a responsible way!.
God's best to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com