I am a snob?!
Question: I am a snob!?
I am 16!. I'm quiet and shy and not really outgoing unless I am with my close friends and family then I am talkative!. But when people meet me they often think I am a snob or pissed off at them!?!? One of my friends later told me that when she first met me she "thought I was snobby!." One time I was at summer camp just sitting with people at a table and this boy sat down next to me and said "You looked like you didn't want me to sit down or something!." i was thinking to myself wtf!? i didn't even think that!? i was just looking at him!? I was wondering why some people are quiet and people think "oh!. that person is just shy" but when they see me they think "oh!. she is such a snob!." i am very very nice to everyone i know and do alot of favors for people and i'm kind and considerate and respectful!. etc!.!. can someone help me figure out why people think this and what can i do to change!? thank you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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You may have a little social anxiety which is very common!. You will improve with age believe it or not!. When I was your age I was given the snob card as well!. You may carry your emotions in your face!. Any expression that you make reflects how you feel that day!. Its annoying for me because if I am having a bad day EVERYONE knows!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
People used to say that about me and they still might I just now ignore them!. They said this because in the hallways I always used to listen to music or read or focus on eating instead of conversation and people said that I was a snob because I wasn't welcoming their company!. I just decided that it's okay if they don't want to sit with me and I didn't care what they thought!. As for changing it I don't know what you can do sorry but I hope some of this helped!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Facial expressions could be the problem!.
I have friends who have been through this and it was due to their facial expressions and body language!. People don't think about their facial expressions!. Strangers typically distinguish another's feelings or personality through body language and facial expressions!.
Take extra effort and make sure to smile when you meet people!. Shake their hand or be the first to introduce yourself!.
Open up your circle and invite people to talk to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Facial expressions could be the problem!.
I have friends who have been through this and it was due to their facial expressions and body language!. People don't think about their facial expressions!. Strangers typically distinguish another's feelings or personality through body language and facial expressions!.
Take extra effort and make sure to smile when you meet people!. Shake their hand or be the first to introduce yourself!.
Open up your circle and invite people to talk to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I guess you could have said Hi or acknowledged the guy who sat down!. I'm the same way, but I tend to frown when I'm out in public!. Maybe just make more efforts to maybe smile a little, or give a nod!.
Oh D= Well screw him then! xDWww@Answer-Health@Com
Oh D= Well screw him then! xDWww@Answer-Health@Com
body language, facial expression,especially the eyes, and overall demeanor are the most communicative aspects that youngsters often forget to keep in check!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
this happens to me all the time!. People are like scared to talk to me because they think i will be rude or snobby!.
just be as nice as possible and keep a smile on your face!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just be as nice as possible and keep a smile on your face!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
it could be the look on your face!.!.!. try to smile more!Www@Answer-Health@Com
do you look snobby!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe be more outgoing and friendly towards people and not shy, people are taking your shyness the wrong way!. Maybe the boy liked you or just needed a friend and wanted to sit next to you and you were just shy and he was nervous and took your shy body language the wrong way and maybe it would have made him more comfortable if you were more outgoing or maybe more welcoming body language!. Perhaps if someone seems nervous, recognize this and give them a smile or something to make them feel more welcome!. You aren't intentionally being a "snob" people are just taking it that way!. There was probably a time in your life where you were nervous and needed a friend, or some place to sit in the cafeteria, or a date for the dance, everyone goes through those times where they feel a bit alone and possibly afraid and fear rejection and it makes innocent, meaningless things seem "snobby"Www@Answer-Health@Com
Adolescent males cannot interpret facial expresions in the same way as adults!. There brains are not completly developed and they often misinterpret your motives!. I have a friend who is extreamly shy and people still misinterpret her even though she is in the adult world!. For shy people, I recomend smiling a lot!. This may seem dumb, but it gives a sweet vibe to people and you can be quite and smile at the same time!.
I know that this may be difficult for a shy person, but ask "What is your name!?" and say "My name is ______"!. Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know that this may be difficult for a shy person, but ask "What is your name!?" and say "My name is ______"!. Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound a lot like me!. I'm 23 and people still think I'm a snob when I'm actually shy and take a while to warm up to people!. Some people are more understanding of those of us who are shy but more outgoing people, who never feel shy themselves, just don't get it!. Just be yourself, you may find you'll get less shy as you get older!. It takes all types to make the world go round, there's nothing wrong with being shy!. Just be yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com