How do you get over abuse?!
Question: How do you get over abuse!?
ive lived with a few different relitives all treated me differently but all of them abused me, i didnt understand and it took me a while to realize what they did really was abuse, im kinda messed up over it!.
im 16 and im not sure i can get over it!. im ususaly happy but what they did left a very bad and large impact on me, and i dont think i can get over it!.
i have spoken about it to my best friend and that helped, a lot actually, but still!. can you really get over that kind of stuff all together and forget about it!?!?!?
i wasnt abused physicaly, it wasemotional and i was neglected to the point of death!.!.!. and that really hurts that the people who were supose to care!.!.!. didntWww@Answer-Health@Com
im 16 and im not sure i can get over it!. im ususaly happy but what they did left a very bad and large impact on me, and i dont think i can get over it!.
i have spoken about it to my best friend and that helped, a lot actually, but still!. can you really get over that kind of stuff all together and forget about it!?!?!?
i wasnt abused physicaly, it wasemotional and i was neglected to the point of death!.!.!. and that really hurts that the people who were supose to care!.!.!. didntWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I feel strongly that any type of abuse CHANGES someone at that moment in time!. Something is stolen, changed, altered, taken away, or chipped when someone experiences abuse!.
That being said, I don't feel it should be approached as "getting over it"!. That almost implies forgetting about what happened, and I am not sure that is possible for you (or anyone else, really)
I think you need to find ways to come to terms with it (understanding what happened and how it's affected you, learning to accept that, possibly forgiving (but not necessary) and learning how to move on so you can live a fulfilling life)
Forgetting about abuse or repressing it tends to cause more problems in the future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That being said, I don't feel it should be approached as "getting over it"!. That almost implies forgetting about what happened, and I am not sure that is possible for you (or anyone else, really)
I think you need to find ways to come to terms with it (understanding what happened and how it's affected you, learning to accept that, possibly forgiving (but not necessary) and learning how to move on so you can live a fulfilling life)
Forgetting about abuse or repressing it tends to cause more problems in the future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am so sorry you are going thru this!. Honestly, it is something you can never forget about but you can get help to understand it better!. As much as I hate therapy, it seriously works and you should ask either your school councilor about getting help or another family member to take you to a doctor to ask for help!. Good Luck!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You never forget!. All you can really do is accept that as a part of your life!. It happened, and nothing can change that!. What needs to be done, though, is you need to focus on the present and the future!. Don't let something from a long time ago effect what you want to do with the rest of your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Seek some counseling!. Talking to a counselor or therapist will really help!. I have been abused in the past!.!.!. i know i need to talk to a therapist about it because it still effects me to this day in all sorts of ways!. A therapist will teach you coping skills!. Talk to your main doctor about it first and he or she will help guide you in the right direction and give you a list of good therapists and counselors!.
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I am so sorry for your emotional abuse and your neglect!. It doesn't "go away" without professional help!. You need to see a therapist who can help you work through the feelings that you have been left with!. It will be hard work, but you can do it!. You are a survivor! Good luck and God speed! kjlWww@Answer-Health@Com
The best cure is to get out from under those type of people!. When you are old enough move out quickly and never look back!. Eventually the memories will fade and you will live a normal life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that you get over physical abuse alot quicker than you get over emotional abuse!. If you were verbally abused then usually ( my experience) the words play over and over in your head!. When someone hits you it hurts for a little while but you do forget the pain eventually!. But emotional abuse always stays on your mind!. What you have to do is rise above it and rise above the people that did this to you!. They are still abusing you today because you are allowing them to steal your happiness!. Only YOU can make YOU happy!. You are letting them win by allowing them to still bring you down and make you feel like you are not worthy!. You are worthy!. You are a good person and deserve to be happy and will be happy if you allow yourself to be!. What happened in the past is just that!.!.!.!. it is in the past!. you can't change it so you need to try to let go of it!. Trust me I know it is much easier said than done!. The people that you depended on the most to take care of you let you down and I am sorry you went through that but you will soon be an adult and you will be responsible for making your life everything it can be!. You can be anything you want to be and don't let anyone tell you any different!. Hope that helps!. I know it sounds like a bunch of crap but its not!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do you get over abuse, no I don't think so, but you can learn to live with it!. I was molested between the ages of 3-8 then raped at 14!. I felt like my family was nowhere to be seen when I needed them and it hurt!. So I somewhat understand what you are feeling!. So I don't think you will ever get over the abuse, but I promise you will get past it!. I have had years of therapy and medications, but I am finally able to talk about my past and know that it wasn't my fault!. And it's not your fault either, it's theirs!. I really hope you will consider talking to your friend more about this, possibly even a counselor at school, or anyone that you trust, just so you can talk about this so it's not weighing down on you!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com