Getting better, help?!
Question: Getting better, help!?
I'm 15, I've been depressed for around a year now!. It's been up and down greatly and recently been at it's worst!. In November, I started drinking and smoking weed!. By February I was drinking and taking drugs most days even in school!. My parents and teachers found out and I had to stop!. After that, I realised how much it had worsened my depression!. I saw a counselor and then decided to leave it because I hated talking!. I stayed sober until two weeks ago, I went to the park with some friends and got weed and vodka!. I didn't realise how intolerant I'd become to alcohol because I hadn't drank for months!. I got alcohol poisoning and stayed in hospital for a week, I had to get reviewed by CAMHS (children and adolescent mental health services)!. I was a bit better for a short while after that until Friday when, at the spur of the moment, I took an overdose!. I swallowed 7 paracetamol, 8 co-codamol and 15 aspirin tablets!. I went to school and felt dizzy and couldn't keep my eyes open!. EveryoneWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I've been where you are and I've suffered the consequences!. You are only fifteen and I know that it sounds patronising, but you're so young with so much ahead of you!. You're realised that the drinking and drugs aren't helping, that's good, but you are still turning to them in times of need!. It sounds like you would benefit from talking therapy and hopefully learning some new coping strategies!. At the moment, when you have a hard time, it seems like you just panic and cope in the only way you think of!. It's a fact that most people who take an overdose once don't stop at that, it's a recurrent activity in many people!. You were obviously feeling really bad at the time and were probably not thinking straight, but you need to find other ways to deal with your emotions!.
When I was 13, my Dad died and my Mum started beating me and my siblings!. She was an alcoholic and didn't care about any of us, it was horrible!. I started drinking and taking drugs and by the time I was 14, I was a heavy drinker/smoker and a heroin addict!. I ended up in hospital many times from injuries when I was drunk and from my Mum hitting me!. I changed as a person, I started stealing off family and friends and lying to everyone!. The people who I cared about most started to give up on me because I just betrayed them!. When I was 16, my girlfriend got pregnant and my son was born not long after my 17th birthday!. Two weeks later, his Mum left us and I was made a single Dad!. At that point, I realised what I was doing and that I had to change!. I decided I wanted to get clean and I kept trying but giving in and starting all over again!. At this point, I had developed schizophrenia and depression along with PTSD and I had attempted suicide lots of times!. I overdosed on heroin, paracetamol and aspirin!. All it got me was a stay in hospital with lots of throwing up!. In the end, I was admitted into hospital because I was considered a risk to myself and those around me!. I hate to be sedated because I was so violent, I just wanted to die!.
So I do know what it is like and I know how hard it is when people don't understand fully!. You need to tell yourself that you can do it, if you're convincing yourself that you can't then the chances are you won't!. The healthy eating and exercise is a really good idea because having good physical health will make you feel overall better!. Running will also give you a chance to think and take time away from everything!. The fact that you are considering these things shows that you have motivation and want to get better!. Go to all your appointments and just open up as best as you can, no matter how long that might take you!. It can be quite scary when you're opening up and knowing that you're emotions are being analysed, but the end result is you being better!. It would be good for you to go out more with friends who are a good influence, take up some new activities and just spend more time doing things!. It will give you less time to sit and think about everything getting you down!. Stay strong and don't let things bring you down, I bet you're stronger than you give yourself credit for!. The most important thing is talk to someone!. If you feel like taking an overdose, if things get that bad, talk to a friend or family member!. Sometimes just writing your feelings into a notebook can help, it's like a release and then you can read it back and realise it's probably not as bad as you thought!.
It's so hard to watch someone you love be so upset and not know what to do to help them!. Your parents will be scared and just wanting to help you!. Don't hide from them, believe in yourself and try new things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I was 13, my Dad died and my Mum started beating me and my siblings!. She was an alcoholic and didn't care about any of us, it was horrible!. I started drinking and taking drugs and by the time I was 14, I was a heavy drinker/smoker and a heroin addict!. I ended up in hospital many times from injuries when I was drunk and from my Mum hitting me!. I changed as a person, I started stealing off family and friends and lying to everyone!. The people who I cared about most started to give up on me because I just betrayed them!. When I was 16, my girlfriend got pregnant and my son was born not long after my 17th birthday!. Two weeks later, his Mum left us and I was made a single Dad!. At that point, I realised what I was doing and that I had to change!. I decided I wanted to get clean and I kept trying but giving in and starting all over again!. At this point, I had developed schizophrenia and depression along with PTSD and I had attempted suicide lots of times!. I overdosed on heroin, paracetamol and aspirin!. All it got me was a stay in hospital with lots of throwing up!. In the end, I was admitted into hospital because I was considered a risk to myself and those around me!. I hate to be sedated because I was so violent, I just wanted to die!.
So I do know what it is like and I know how hard it is when people don't understand fully!. You need to tell yourself that you can do it, if you're convincing yourself that you can't then the chances are you won't!. The healthy eating and exercise is a really good idea because having good physical health will make you feel overall better!. Running will also give you a chance to think and take time away from everything!. The fact that you are considering these things shows that you have motivation and want to get better!. Go to all your appointments and just open up as best as you can, no matter how long that might take you!. It can be quite scary when you're opening up and knowing that you're emotions are being analysed, but the end result is you being better!. It would be good for you to go out more with friends who are a good influence, take up some new activities and just spend more time doing things!. It will give you less time to sit and think about everything getting you down!. Stay strong and don't let things bring you down, I bet you're stronger than you give yourself credit for!. The most important thing is talk to someone!. If you feel like taking an overdose, if things get that bad, talk to a friend or family member!. Sometimes just writing your feelings into a notebook can help, it's like a release and then you can read it back and realise it's probably not as bad as you thought!.
It's so hard to watch someone you love be so upset and not know what to do to help them!. Your parents will be scared and just wanting to help you!. Don't hide from them, believe in yourself and try new things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Levi,
sit and ask yourself why you feel like you do at such a young age!. You have to try not to mix with the people who get you into drink and drugs, I know this is going to sound like I am preaching to you but if I had my time over again I would study like hell at school and get all the qualifications I could so that I could do the job I want when I left!. Drink and drugs make you more depressed so you are getting into a cirlce of depression that you wont get out of!.
Yo need to go back to when your problems started find out why you started feeling depressed you dont give us any idea why you are doing all these things!. Your parents must be out of their minds with worry can you imagine what it would be like for them if you had died!. You need to get some help to get off the drugs and drink and start to sort your life, luckily you are only young and you can do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sit and ask yourself why you feel like you do at such a young age!. You have to try not to mix with the people who get you into drink and drugs, I know this is going to sound like I am preaching to you but if I had my time over again I would study like hell at school and get all the qualifications I could so that I could do the job I want when I left!. Drink and drugs make you more depressed so you are getting into a cirlce of depression that you wont get out of!.
Yo need to go back to when your problems started find out why you started feeling depressed you dont give us any idea why you are doing all these things!. Your parents must be out of their minds with worry can you imagine what it would be like for them if you had died!. You need to get some help to get off the drugs and drink and start to sort your life, luckily you are only young and you can do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Consider possibly changing the type of people you hang around with if they are constantly smoking weed and drinking alcohol!.!.!.!.it does make a difference your friends influence you alot even if you don't realise it!.
I would also advise getting out and about alot in my experience staying in makes you more depressed!.!.!.
you could possibly join a gym with a swimming pool etc and change your eating habits!.!.!.this gives you something to focus on while you are getting yourself back on your feet!.
Listen to inspirational music that is quite happy to cheer you up!.!.!.it really does make a difference
Try to hang around with people that generally make you feel happy even if you dont see them much at the moment try and see them more!.
Get in touch with friends you have lost over the years usually this gives you a boost!.
Set things for yourself to look forward to such as concerts etc!.
Keep busy!!!! eventually you will get into the hang of life again and start to feel happierWww@Answer-Health@Com
I would also advise getting out and about alot in my experience staying in makes you more depressed!.!.!.
you could possibly join a gym with a swimming pool etc and change your eating habits!.!.!.this gives you something to focus on while you are getting yourself back on your feet!.
Listen to inspirational music that is quite happy to cheer you up!.!.!.it really does make a difference
Try to hang around with people that generally make you feel happy even if you dont see them much at the moment try and see them more!.
Get in touch with friends you have lost over the years usually this gives you a boost!.
Set things for yourself to look forward to such as concerts etc!.
Keep busy!!!! eventually you will get into the hang of life again and start to feel happierWww@Answer-Health@Com
I know you said you hated talking about your problems but maybe that's what would be best for you!. I know it sounds cliche but being able to openly talk about whats bothering you and have someone listening and not judging you is just what you need!. Maybe the counselor you had wasn't the right match for you!. I would seek out someone else and start from there!. I hope you realize how serious the overdose was and how lucky you are that you are still alive!. Even when you feel like things are bad and can't possibly get worse, life is never bad enough to make you think you have to harm yourself or end your life!. If you are on the road to getting better and leading a happier life, then I suggest maybe finding friends that will help support this happier life!. The one's you were with a couple weeks ago certainly arent' helping you by letting you drink and use weed!. Friends are supposed to help you and make you stronger, not bring you down!. I truly hope that everything works out for you!. Take care and find someone that you can relate to to talk with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well first off I know what your going through and I know you might feel like you are the only one but I too just didnt want to live anymore and I'm 15 too!.!.!.I self-harmed llloooaadds and started smoking and drinking with friends insetead of school!
I know exactly how you feel and you think its never gonna get better!.!.!.my mum had to like take scissors, needles, razors away from me so I wouldnt cut but I ended up just smashing glass up on the floor and shredding my skin with that!.
I know it feels like your never gonna get over this and everyone is against you but I promise it iwll get better!.
I finally realised what I was doing to myself and how it wasn't solvin anything!. !. but I was so convinced that it was maikning my emotional pain go away by having physical pain and its only now I realise that that wasn't the case!
I was given a councellor and like you I didn't want to talk, I still dont talk to anyone about how I feel!. !. but its definatly the best thing to get things out in the open!. I promise!.
Still after an argument I stil cut myself with a needle or someything but its not half as bad as it was!.
The best thing for you to do is to ease off bits one at a time don't try and give up drinking and weed all at once just gently and gradually take lesser doses and in 6 months you might be off them for good!.
The same thing with the counselor graadually build up your confidence to talk about little things then maybe they can get to the root of the problem!.
Well done for looking for help!.!.!.because that in my case was the hardest step!.!.!.actually realising I had a problem!.!.
But you will be able to get better and as regards to the running and the diet I think you should focus on getting yourself better but in the long-run running would be a great idea!. It would help keep your mind off things and maybe make some new friends because one of the things I found was theat I needd an out-let because I never did any sports the only way for me to blow off steam was to hurt myself or drink but I now play guitar and am really getting into music which helps keep my mind off it!
I wish you all the best and if you do feel like you need alcohol or weed to get you through a certain part of the day , talk to someone!. !. !. I know that sounds kinda cheesey and your probobly sick of hearing it now but I promise it works!
Get well soon!
xWww@Answer-Health@Com
I know exactly how you feel and you think its never gonna get better!.!.!.my mum had to like take scissors, needles, razors away from me so I wouldnt cut but I ended up just smashing glass up on the floor and shredding my skin with that!.
I know it feels like your never gonna get over this and everyone is against you but I promise it iwll get better!.
I finally realised what I was doing to myself and how it wasn't solvin anything!. !. but I was so convinced that it was maikning my emotional pain go away by having physical pain and its only now I realise that that wasn't the case!
I was given a councellor and like you I didn't want to talk, I still dont talk to anyone about how I feel!. !. but its definatly the best thing to get things out in the open!. I promise!.
Still after an argument I stil cut myself with a needle or someything but its not half as bad as it was!.
The best thing for you to do is to ease off bits one at a time don't try and give up drinking and weed all at once just gently and gradually take lesser doses and in 6 months you might be off them for good!.
The same thing with the counselor graadually build up your confidence to talk about little things then maybe they can get to the root of the problem!.
Well done for looking for help!.!.!.because that in my case was the hardest step!.!.!.actually realising I had a problem!.!.
But you will be able to get better and as regards to the running and the diet I think you should focus on getting yourself better but in the long-run running would be a great idea!. It would help keep your mind off things and maybe make some new friends because one of the things I found was theat I needd an out-let because I never did any sports the only way for me to blow off steam was to hurt myself or drink but I now play guitar and am really getting into music which helps keep my mind off it!
I wish you all the best and if you do feel like you need alcohol or weed to get you through a certain part of the day , talk to someone!. !. !. I know that sounds kinda cheesey and your probobly sick of hearing it now but I promise it works!
Get well soon!
xWww@Answer-Health@Com