Please someone help me........please?!

Hey, I`m glad you`re seeking help on this!. I`m very sorry you were sexually abused!. What`s important to remember is that no matter what the circumstances of the event, it is absolutely not your fault!. I think it`s very common that one who is violated both feels like they are at fault and grows an unhealthy attitude about sexuality because of the experience, particularly if it`s one of your first!. Being turned on is most likely your subconcious both trying to fully process what happened and deal with natural sexual urges that have been complicated by it!. You deep down, and because you`re also seeking professional help, want to and can get past this and make sex decisions in the future based on your choices and your comfort zone!.
As far as freezing up with your shrink goes, that can be a case of not wanting to fully deal in the waking world!. It could also be that specific person!. Therapists and patients need to be the right fit, and keep searching if you think that`s the problem!. I`m sure it`s difficult to have to explain these things all over to the newest canidate, but just like the loved ones you`ll have in the future, investment in the right one will be exactly what you`re looking for!.
About medication, I wonder if you constantly feel sad or upset!. If this is the only thing that truly hits you on this level that means it`s situational!. Medication is easily prescribed and often unnessecary!. You need meds plus therapy if you are impacted either for no reason or by many things most people aren`t as affected by!. I have a feeling you`re deeply troubled because of your abuse and once you conqer those feelings your day to day will be a lot better and you won`t need medication!. However, if you feel that`s not the situation, please get prescribed and also continue therapy -- the combination is what makes these things better!.
I hope you find some solace about this!. Please take stock of the ones who love you and can be trusted and continue to reach out!. Most importantly, remember that any sexual urge is nothing to be ashamed of, it`s actions that count!. Please find a way to deal with this and live your life the best you can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Wink, as you work through these things they do get better!. I agree with you that you need to be on some medications to help you with some space to get through the memories!. At times, as we are going through what has happened, we relive some of it!. You seem to be doing this through dreams which is not uncommon at all, even though I know its difficult!. Do not let the numb feelings bother you, many times we have to go to that numb place in order to talk about things initially!. Bless you hun, you are not alone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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the same thing has been happening to me lately i was raped a few yrs ago by a 'friend' but very heavly intoxicated and he slipped in that date rape drug anyway i never really remembered much then all of a sudden started getting dreams or flashbacks bits and pieces of what happened it'll get better keep seeing ur therapist it helps to talk really

good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

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Make sure your therapist knows that this is going on!.
Therapy takes time and it brings all your feelings to the surface!.
You have spent a considerable amount of time burying these feelings so yo have to give the same amount of time to figure this all out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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You'll get through it!.

I saw someone I hadn't seen in 14 years!. Seeing her was good for me, but I started having nightly dreams of her again!. I wrote a letter, never sent, just for the heck of it!. I'm past all that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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dreaming of your past is what everyone has!. i dream of my good years in high school and the bad times when i wa sabused as a child!. tlaking about it helps!. im hear if you need anything cause i have learned to deal with mine for many years nowWww@Answer-Health@Com

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I won't say its completely normal because it probably isn't but it isn't completely weird!. I think trying to fight this won't help!. Just go with the flow after you have had the dreams and try and find out exactly what it is about them that does this to you!. Try and get in touch with other people who have dealt with this before and get advice from them!. In the end if you have to settle with this, it isn't the worst thing that could happen, it's probably not particularly nice for you!. I think trying to find an answer from it is probably better than trying to get rid of it!. I wish I knew more about it so I could help you more!. I'm sorry!. Good luck
xWww@Answer-Health@Com

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Of course it will get better, cause you're working on it!. It's not unusual to feel turned on by dreams of abuse!. Your dreams are representations, not the real thing!. It may not even really be the abuse you are dreaming about, so don't worry, and don't ever feel dirty!. You never did anything wrong!. Work really hard not to numb out!. You need to stay awake to deal with this!. Life is exciting, and the abuse is the past!. It is your body, your mind, your life - don't let the abuser take that away!. You are safe now!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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ok its bothering you so much because its your pastlife all the pain u went thru and etc!. now things have changed you have to live your life to he fullest!. its okay to think back on the past like sometimes some people could control their dream!. when you are having the dream have your mind think bout something else and your dream might switch or wake up for a couple seconds lay on the other side of the pillow or somthing then try to go back to sleep!.

another way is to take a warm bubble bath and sit and relax your mind remeber that the pass is the pass and you made it thru to the future!.

hope that helps good luck!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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