Why can't I let myself be happy? Just need to know I'm not alone.?!
Question: Why can't I let myself be happy!? Just need to know I'm not alone!.!?
I am so frustrated with myself!. I finally got out of a 10 year toxic relationship/marriage and am now engaged to a wonderful, amazing, precious man who loves, respects, adores me and treats me like a QUEEN!. I mean seriously, I could have dreamed him up!. My problem is that I am almost crippled by the intense feelings of sadness and numbness I experience from pms, or at least that's what I THINK is the problem!. Hopefully I'm not just incapable of experiencing happiness!. I mean it's not like that all the time but the episodes have become more frequent!. Sometimes I think I'm bipolar but I think it's not that severe!. I just don't know what to do!. He's been so understanding and patient and he really wants to help me but I'm so afraid I'm hurting him and that hurts me even MORE!. Anybody else going through similiar situation!? I just need to know I'm not alone, I guess!. Any suggestions would be helpful, too!. By the way, I'm not into popping pills so I won't take antidepressants!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I feel you girl!.!.!.the thing is, that you have been in a toxic relationship for so long, I think that you are just waiting for all to fall apart again!.!.!.it is called TRAUMA and it sticks with you for a while!.!.!.!.The damage that was caused by your husband, has stuck with you, and sad to say, that your now wonderful man,!.!.!.still is a 'suspect' to you!.!.!.and this is normal, believe it or not!.!.!.I find myself suspecting guys now, like I am a freak that deserves this treatment for some unknown reason, and this is what my husband wants!. My family doesn't understand my need to defend my character now, as he goes around lying on me to everyone he can to cover up for his own heinous behavior!.!.!.!.Time will tell and I know you are very luck to have a wonderful man in your life!. My husband is trying to ruin me for not a damn good reason in the world, other than he is terrified I will blow the whistle on his horrific behavior!.!.!.But you know, I forgive him, and will just divorce him and go my separate way!.!.!.freedom is good for you!.!.!.and the sadness you feel, may be that you are still in some ways, loving your husband, the good that might have been there!.!.!.it is very frustrating, to say the least, !.!.!.to have to divorce someone you loved, because of their awful behavior!.!.!.and you just get abandonded by them!.!.!.!.Pray to God and to Jesus to forgive him, and move forward,!.!.!.it sounds like They have already rewarded you!.!.!.!.Good luck and don't take the pills, you are stronger than that, and I agree with that philosophy in this caseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe,you are sad becuase of the big change you made to your life!.You were in a rethisonship 4 10 years and now u found a new wonderful guy!.That is a big change that maybe u just cant get use to it!.I'm 100% shure you are not alone on this one!.I think that youre engagment happend to fast,maybe you should slow down a little,until u get use to this new situation!.Or maybe that guy is just to good for you maybe a wonderful kind person is not what u are looking for!.I think the best think to do is to slow down 4 now!.And just don't worry relaxe!.If he loves that most meen that u are not hurthing him,think more about ure self,enjoy yourself,maybe u should try meditation it helped alot my cousin!.
Hope i helped and good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hope i helped and good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not getting married but I do feel the same way you do!. I felt the same way for years but the one thing that you should know is that you are hurting him even more not telling him!. He is just dying to hear you speak!. Because you not telling him wants that matter is saying that you don't trust him and if you don't trust him how are you going to get married!. You have to learn how to trust people!.
When I had to learn how to trust people it was so hard!. It took me years to do and I'm still working on it!. It's not going to come over night!. What i did was take it a little bit at a time!. I started with saying that I have a hard time talking about things and I'm trying to work on it will you help me!. You also have to tell him want you want him to do when you tell him something!. (I learned that the hard way) Because you will get upset if he does it wrong or you will stop doing it!.
I hope this helps!. I wish the best for you and your future husband!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I had to learn how to trust people it was so hard!. It took me years to do and I'm still working on it!. It's not going to come over night!. What i did was take it a little bit at a time!. I started with saying that I have a hard time talking about things and I'm trying to work on it will you help me!. You also have to tell him want you want him to do when you tell him something!. (I learned that the hard way) Because you will get upset if he does it wrong or you will stop doing it!.
I hope this helps!. I wish the best for you and your future husband!.Www@Answer-Health@Com