Am I Un-Approachable??!
Question: Am I Un-Approachable!?!?
Why is it that im fine when I meeting new people outside of work yet when im at work I have a hard time getting aquainted with my new co-workers!?!?!? I consider myself a shy person but i think my co-workers think im un-approachable!. Im not though!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I think when you are shy , it is easier to meet folks in an outside situation!. Heck you may never see them again!
But at work that is different!.!.you will see them 5 days a week!. So the impression you make on them is more important to a shy person!.
I'm shy and I've worked in sales all my life!.!.!.I am an outgoing, natural person to my customers!. At a social gathering, I'd b a timid wall flower!.!.!.!.
Tips to help with shyness :
Try to forget about yourself!.
Practice becoming fascinated by other people!. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you!.
Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things!. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness!.
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere!.
As shy people, we are to self-conscious about ourselves , we concentrate on what other folks are thinking of us!.
So the trick is to turn our attention away from ourselves , and focus on the person / people you are with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But at work that is different!.!.you will see them 5 days a week!. So the impression you make on them is more important to a shy person!.
I'm shy and I've worked in sales all my life!.!.!.I am an outgoing, natural person to my customers!. At a social gathering, I'd b a timid wall flower!.!.!.!.
Tips to help with shyness :
Try to forget about yourself!.
Practice becoming fascinated by other people!. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you!.
Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things!. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness!.
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere!.
As shy people, we are to self-conscious about ourselves , we concentrate on what other folks are thinking of us!.
So the trick is to turn our attention away from ourselves , and focus on the person / people you are with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try smiling and talking about inconsequential things during the day!. "Boy, could it rain any more!?" "I'm ready to get off and go have myself a cup of coffee!." "Can't wait until Friday, I'm going to see that new movie coming out!."
Then, branch out to asking them things!. People usually love to talk about themselves, and a good listener is usually seen as friendly and nice!.
Also, most people like to be helpful, if you could ask for help on anything (that won't make you look like you can't do your job, or have real problems)!. Like, "My stapler broke, can I borrow yours for a minute!?" "Do you know a good car mechanic, vet, etc!." Good luck! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Then, branch out to asking them things!. People usually love to talk about themselves, and a good listener is usually seen as friendly and nice!.
Also, most people like to be helpful, if you could ask for help on anything (that won't make you look like you can't do your job, or have real problems)!. Like, "My stapler broke, can I borrow yours for a minute!?" "Do you know a good car mechanic, vet, etc!." Good luck! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I will bet that when you are at work, your head is down for the entire time!. You are probably a real hard worker!.
When folks see someone working really hard, they don't want to interrupt!. So, they don't get acquainted!. That is probably where it comes from!.
Why not take 30 minutes in the afternoon & morning to check in with the new folks, see what they are doing, see if they have any issues and let them know that you are available if they need help!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
When folks see someone working really hard, they don't want to interrupt!. So, they don't get acquainted!. That is probably where it comes from!.
Why not take 30 minutes in the afternoon & morning to check in with the new folks, see what they are doing, see if they have any issues and let them know that you are available if they need help!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think that's it, maybe you just need to be yourself ,show them who you are and they will come around!.Www@Answer-Health@Com