A lot of grief has piled up, don't know where, how or what to start to move !
Question: A lot of grief has piled up, don't know where, how or what to start to move on from!.!?
Things that seem 2 b affecting me!.
-I was adopted at 2months, was abused, given to foster care, then to a new adoptive family at 5 months!.
- 4-7 yrs old my dad had cancer and it was uncertain whether he would survive or not, but pulled through
- 9 years old, got a foster brother who I loved and bonded to, my parents kicked him out four years later, it broke my heart!. I felt guilty for years, I thought I was somehow responsible!.
-10 cat dies (very special)
-13-Close friend drowns, have a hard time dealing with it!.
-16- find out who my birth parents are-grieving process starts again
17-death of grand-dad
20-death of another special pet
What I'm trying to say is I seem to have bottled everything up!. I have held it all in, my parents never talk about loss, when I bring it up they change the subject!.I don't know how to show grief, I have hid it for so long!. I think it affects my health, If I think of these at any time my heart literally aches!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
-I was adopted at 2months, was abused, given to foster care, then to a new adoptive family at 5 months!.
- 4-7 yrs old my dad had cancer and it was uncertain whether he would survive or not, but pulled through
- 9 years old, got a foster brother who I loved and bonded to, my parents kicked him out four years later, it broke my heart!. I felt guilty for years, I thought I was somehow responsible!.
-10 cat dies (very special)
-13-Close friend drowns, have a hard time dealing with it!.
-16- find out who my birth parents are-grieving process starts again
17-death of grand-dad
20-death of another special pet
What I'm trying to say is I seem to have bottled everything up!. I have held it all in, my parents never talk about loss, when I bring it up they change the subject!.I don't know how to show grief, I have hid it for so long!. I think it affects my health, If I think of these at any time my heart literally aches!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Please do not let this grief bottle up! I am adopted too!. And my whole life I suppressed all my feelings about my adoption, foster care experience & abuse I endured!. 20 years later all my emotions came pouring out!. I was diagnosed with PTSD!. I am slowly getting my life back on track with the help of anxiety medication & a good doctor!. I just take every day slowly!. My adoptive parents really aren't interested in hearing about my biological backround!. So I try to find outlets and speak to other adoptees!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you have alot to greive over, you need to talk to someone, seriously, anyoneWww@Answer-Health@Com
You need to do something in memory of them in order to EXPRESS these feelings!. Some suggestions would be paint a picture of them and hang it up, write them a letter and frame it, have a ritual in your backyard where you go every week for a certain time and speak to them in spirit, and you also need to do one more very important thing!.!.
You need to surround yourself with people who will talk about these things!. If its not your parents, try your friends, if not friends, then try a grief chat site online!. You need to EXPRESS it!. Its no different to milking a cow, there is pain inside you and you need to get it out!.
Grief definitely affects your health, and its good that you have realised this so young!. You will live a long and happy life thanks to that smart brain of yours !.
All the best to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
You need to surround yourself with people who will talk about these things!. If its not your parents, try your friends, if not friends, then try a grief chat site online!. You need to EXPRESS it!. Its no different to milking a cow, there is pain inside you and you need to get it out!.
Grief definitely affects your health, and its good that you have realised this so young!. You will live a long and happy life thanks to that smart brain of yours !.
All the best to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
It's good that you can sit down and list all the things that you're concerned with!. It gets things in perspective!.
Many of the things are just life events that most people have and as sad as these things are, it's just life experience!.
There are some things that happen that you cannot change, so just concentrate on the things that you can control that need changing, then it won't seem so overwhelming!.
Don't try to take everything on board at once!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Many of the things are just life events that most people have and as sad as these things are, it's just life experience!.
There are some things that happen that you cannot change, so just concentrate on the things that you can control that need changing, then it won't seem so overwhelming!.
Don't try to take everything on board at once!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you certainly have a lot to grieve over!. i think it's way passed the time you need to see a therapist!. sit your parents down and talk to them!. grief does affect your mental and physical health immensely!. please seek mental advise!. it will only get worse if you don't!. if you need someone to talk to i'll listen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go to http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter!. Call: The Grief Recovery Institute (U!.S!.A!.) 1-800-445-4808, or Hospice (phone book)!. Email jo@samaritans!.org Chatrooms and forums: http://www!.chatmag!.com/topics/health/gri!.!.!. and http://talkingminds!.15!.forumer!.com/ and http://messageboards!.ivillage!.com/ Other websites: http://www!.griefnet!.org/ and http://www!.helpguide!.org/ (coping, supporting others, loss of relationship, or pet) and http://www!.mental-health-abc!.com/ and http://www!.boblivingstone!.com/!?q=node30 and http://www!.crusebereavementcare!.org!.uk/ Understand that there are often several stages of grief!.
The stages are:
Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening!."
Anger: "Why ME!? It's not fair!?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate!."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything!?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK!."
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The stages are:
Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening!."
Anger: "Why ME!? It's not fair!?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate!."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything!?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK!."
K
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