Am I depressed or....... best answer 10 POINTS!!?!

Fourteen is a rough age (especially for females)!. The changes you are going through as part of the early stages of transfering from 'child' to 'adult' can creat a lot of mixed emotions and confusion!. The important thing to remember is at 14, you really have not experienced what life is all about!. (trust me!.!.!.) The points that you expressed abut low self esteem, arguing, and low confidence are common for early to mid-teen people!. Causing yourself personal harm or becoming defensive will only make things worse for you and the people who love you!. I think that the best thing that you can do is start a journal in which you identify things that upset you!. Try to write down as much detail as you can!. Try to explain exactly how it makes you feel!. If you find multiple sources (say, your parents, a friend, etc!.) you may want to keep each thing separate!. After a period of time (when your raw emotions start to wear off) bring out the journal and share it with the source of your emotion!. Since the emotion has worn off, you will be more likely to have a civilized conversation without yelling!. This really helps!.!.!. emotion is very powerful, and carrying a lot of emotion can lead to the problems you suggest!. In terms of your relationship with your friend, who cares what other people think!? If you enjoy his company, then go with it!. But one thing to consider is at 14, what is important in a relationship now will not necessarily be important to you in the future!. Take it slowly!.!.!. you have your whole life ahead of you to be involved with relationships!. If you do not believe this, talk to people in their 30's and ask them how many of the friends they had in their teens are still friends!. Ask them if they are still dating or are married to people they dated when they were fourteen!. Ask them if they dated when they were fourteen!. Chances are the results will surprise you!.!.!.!.
Having said all of that, the most important advice that I can give is try to reduce your emotion before you confront situations!. Don't work yourself up over the things you have identified, because in the big picture, it really does not help!. Make the most of things!. If you argue with friends or family, use the journal to figure out why it is happening!.!.!. Friends who argue with you are probably not friends!.!.!. Family members that argue with you are probably just showing that they truly care for you!.!.!. Remember, they were where you are at one point in their lives!. It is more likely than you realize that they know exactly what you are going through!.
And if all of that does not help, you can always talk to an adult that you trust!. (If you have a teacher in school that you like, or your guidance counselor, you should consider talking with them!. If school is not an option, do you have a relative that you get along with really well!? If not, I am sure that you can find a local girls' club that offers some level of counselling for teenagers!. (counselling would simply be talking and listening to you!.!.!.)
Last piece of advice to you!.!.!. Hang in there!. It WILL get better for you!. You have people that love you, whether you realize it or not!. Seek them out and surround yourself with them and most of all, be happy! Best of luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Your boyfriend, friends and family would be really upset if they heard this news!. Why do you care if everyone thinks your not right for your boyfriend, he seems to really like you anyway it only matters if he thinks that you are right for him not anyone else so tell them to all piss off and leave you alone!. They are probably just jelous that you have a super awesome boyfriend! Don't break up with himWww@Answer-Health@Com

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I'm 14 right now!.
I feel for you!.
One thing I have to make a point of is eat a lot of chocolate!.
Chocolate has antidepressents; it will calm you down a bit!.
Feel lucky that you are loved and that the other people are jealous!.
Music is good!. It calms me down!.
I hope you feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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It sounds like it!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.but jsut try to relax I used to be a little depressed and cry myself asleep alot!.!.!.!.!.it took years to get over it but it doesn't sound like you are too depressed!.!.!.!.!.!.!.enjoy being 14!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I think you may have it, you sound like i did when I was diagnosed with it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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YOU!.
Are an emo!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Girl you are normal !.!.!. I do it too !.!. the problem is people are morans and u havent found the right people to hang with yetWww@Answer-Health@Com

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no yer notWww@Answer-Health@Com

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You need to talk with a professional who can help you sort of your feelings in a way that is not harmful to you!. If you are in school talk with your guidance counselor or speak with one of your parents and ask them to make an appointment for you with a therapist!. Your community may have a Youth
Counseling Center, a local mental health clinic, a Child Guidance Center or look in the phonebook!. Your voice deserves to be heard!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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there is one question that i have to ask!. [because i know first hand how depression feels] do you have a sick feeling, like you weigh a 1,000 lbs!.!? and like!.!.!.a sinking feeling!. like you can't do anything right!? do you have weird sleep patterns!? (such as insomnia or oversleeping!?) and has your appitie changed since you noticed odd behavior!? [you eat significantly more or less than you usually do]

If any of these things fit what you feel, then you prolly are depressed!.

if not, then i would say that unfortunately, you have to live through it!. it seems like you are having some things going on with your boyfriend!.

however, either way, cutting is a serious issue and you should NOT do it!. no matter how depressed you feel!. (are you doing it to relieve the pain or to kill yourself!?)

Get some professional help if you are still skeptical because on yahoo! we don't know everything that has happened in your life!.

I hope i helped a little

i hope you feel better babe!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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You are a teenager!. All teenagers feel the way you do at some point!. It's because of these things called HORMONES!.

As for the cutting thing, that's because you are a brat!. Cutting isn't something to brag about to other people over the internet!. You just openly told MILLIONS of people!. I hope you're enjoying the attention, b*tch!.

It angers me so much that yes you will probably be 'diagnosed' as depressed and put on a drug to help you, but a 'doctor' that is a sheep to a pharmaceutical company, when really all you need is for your parents to PARENT YOU, like they are supposed to instead of having their self centered head shoved up thier own ***!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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well your a little depressed, nothing serious that you have to cut yourself to make the pain go away!.!. and to make you feel better, the way your thinking it totally normal for teenagers, so your not alone!.!.!. When i was 14 and 15 i would cry myself to sleep a lot, over stupid little things, it was because i was over analysing things, so a little advice to you is don't over analyse and when you see yourself thinking too much!.!. just say in your head "forget it" and then try to ignore what you were thinking, or else you will go on and on and on until you start crying over nothing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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You may want to talk to a doctor about your issues there are medications out there to help with depression which it sounds like you may have!. As far as your BF goes guys mature slower than girls so he is still in the mental state of a 10 year old!. He will get over it!. It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all!.!.!. that is what I have always heard!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I think you are depressed!. I too am depressed!. I do not think you are just being a brat!. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of!. I strongly encourage you to talk to someone you trust whether it is a family member, doctor, teacher, or other adult!. You can get help!. You already took the first step in getting help by realizing you have a problem!. As for your boyfriend, if he is ashamed of you for being this way then he might not be a very good boyfriend!. I suggest that you get some help before you date!. Explain to him that your health is more important and you might need to take a break for a while!.

Good luck!.

- Sara, 15 years oldWww@Answer-Health@Com

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First off, your not a brat!. your a young girl!. And Im sure your lovely and beautiful!. Don't let know one think any different!. Everyone is special in every single way!. God didn't make any problems when he made you!. I bet your a wonderful girl!. Don't be afraid to cry, but don't be afraid to think of yourself sometimes!. :)

Try writing down ur feelings in a journal to vent out all of your feelings!. Basically you need to talk to someone!.

I think this would help too!. You need to convince your bf to just be friends!. Your only 14 and you have plenty of time for guys!. Serious relationships develope over time and through becomeing friends!. When your 16 or 17 you can talk serious with a guy!. And it seems your bf needs to chill his friends out, bcause I think that's not helping!. You and him shouldn't be ashamed of anything you have!. And if his friends want to be jerks them let them, but not about you!. Tell your Bf to talk to his frinds about cooling the jacking up off!. It's not healthy and right to go through all this at your age!. I do the same things sometimes, and it happens sometimes, but this shouldn'r be tolerated girl!

Being a teenager yes indeed is hard!. Ask anyone!. But you have to think of the good of any bad situation!. God planned you a place and a life and he won't let this happen to you!. God didn't make you to be treated this way!. You need to turn to God and tell him how you feel!. You need to pray for happiness and love!.

And another thing you should do, Is take a best friend or your 'BF' to a nice relaxing place!. You need a massage and some attention to ease that stress away!. Like I said before you need to go and relax!.

Im going to ask you a couple of questions!. Then I want you to edit your question to answer them!. I want to help you!. I understand how you feel!. Im a teenage girl too!. And I want you to be happy!. I don't know you, but what your going through you don't deserve!. First off, what state do you live in!? Second off, do you have alot of time on your hands or any plans soon!? Im asking this because I want to research a relaxing place near you and tell you where to go so you can relax and enjoy yourself!. Because i think that's really what you need!. And if you don't want to answer because you might think it's personal-that's fine!. Go to the beach or YOU research a nice place near you!.

I hope everything works out!. You need to get some good sleep!. Just remember you are loved and your ARE special!. You are a star and you can glow as much as you want!. I hope everything turns out ok and I will pray for you!.

Thank you very much!. :D

God loves you, and other people do too!. You can do anything and be anything if you believe!.

You need to tell yourslef you are beautiful, and unique and a loving smart person!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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It sounds like u have a combo of both depression and hormones!. You need to talk to a phycoloist about what you are going through!. or a school counsolor!. ANYONE!. When u cut yourself, it makes you feel better becuase u feel like ur in control of everything u do, unlike ur depression!. Cutting yourself can seriously hurt your body!. Try writing down ur feelings in a journal to vent out all of your feelings!. THe most important thing here is to talk to someone!. You need help and you need it now before it gets out of control!.

look at this sight!. i hope it helps

http://www!.webmd!.com/depression/question!.!.!.


hope i helped uWww@Answer-Health@Com

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It may just be normal teenage growing pains!. SELF CONFIDENCE/SELF ESTEEM!. Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: "I'm pretty ugly" and then the converse: "I'm fairly good looking", and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big "STOP!!!" sign, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation!. Habits take about 30 - 40 repetitions to become established, with most people!.

Cease comparing yourself unfavorably with others, using the STOP sign: "I am a unique individual, with potential, and my own set of skills"!. Keep your head up, and look people in the eye, or on the bridge of their nose!. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first!. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I !.!.(insert activity here)!.!." Section 47 also refers!. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you!. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!.

Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at ezy-build also refer!. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself"!. ~~~ Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach!.


1!. Build up your self-esteem!. You must take an inventory!. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others!? Try to make only one change at a time!. Always check you progress before making another change!.

2!. Celebrate your journey, not your destination!. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow!.

3!. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction!. Know what you want!. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals!. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly!. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference!.

4!. Be proactive!. Take the initiative!. Be decisive!. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you!. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career!.

5!. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important!. (You'll be amazed how this works!.)

6!. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye!. Practice both of these!. Your handshake should be just right!. Not too firm and not too loose!. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person!.

7!. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills!. Learn a way to remember the other person's name!. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation!. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY!. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah!? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two!." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Obediah, Where are you from, originally!?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS!.]

8!. Visibly respond to the other person!. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name!. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond!. The body language is the most important part of a conversation!. Practice, practice, practice

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