How Can I Help My Grandson?!


Question: How Can I Help My Grandson!?
HI
My Grandson turned 15 in January and attempted suicide at our home while we were gone!. He was found and taken to the emergency room and recovered!.
I helped his mom find a group of counsleors for him and she never followed through!. I was worried this would happen again -and it did!. He was taken to a new facility!.
I hate the thought of them drugging him up at such a young age and feel that if they could get to the root of the problem -life would be so much better for him!.
His mother refuses to be accountable and denies everything!. He is too afraid to open up to the counselor for fear of being punished when he gets home!. This boy has been victim to all of his mother's poor decisions!.
My husband refuses to get involved because she has turned on us so many times and we are limited on what we can do since she calls the shots!. One minute she wants us to help and when we do -she never follows through - or she dislikes our action and will not allow anyone to see him!.
Any Ideas!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
yes call the Dr!. the more he knows about the situation the better he will be able to treat your grandson and if you explain the situation to him he most likely will keep your information in confidence, he probly would even if you didnt tell him, considering how sensitive the situation is!. And be there for your grandson, visit him as much as possible and let him know how much you love and care about him(which I'm sure you already do)!. It's so heartbreaking to hear that his own mother doesn't do everything she can for him and that his grandfather has washed his hands of him, I don't care what he has done he is still his(and your) grandson and he should be doing all he can for the boy, like you are trying to do, but his mother seems even worse by doing what she does to him, seems like she thinks the problem will just fix itself, which it obviously will not!. Have you tried seeing if you could get custody of him, or if he would want to come live with you!? Being 15 he should be able to have a say in where he wants to live, and you can tell your his grandfather where to go if he has a problem with it, I know I would if I were in the same situation, cuz it just seems like he should be with someone who TRULY cares about him!. My prayers are with you and your grandson and I hope he gets better soon and gets a better outlook on life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

This is your Grandsons life here, so yes I would call the dr!. and tell them what is going on w/ him and his deficient mother!. She could be candy coating everything, thus making it hard for the dr!.'s to diagnose your grandson!. Do what you can do Grandma, and ease your concience!. If he has already attempted this twice, you might not get another chance, so please contact the dr!.s and tell them what you know, it could save his life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes you should call the doctor who is treating him!. If you don't, he is going to succeed in killing himself one day and you will not be able to see him again anyway!. Don't worry about yourself, worry about this boy and do whatever is necessary to get him help!. If nothing else, find out how to get this child away from his mother!. Obviously, it's his home life that is the cause of his problems!. Your number one priority is to get this child help, to hell with what everyone else thinks!.

Even if it means that he has to stay under supervised care for the rest of his life, unless you want to feel responsible for his death for the rest of your life, DO IT!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

WHat his mom is doing ammounts to medical neglect!. Medication qactually could help, so that he is stable enough to get to the root of the problem!. Many mental illnesses have a medical component to them!. If he had a broken leg, no one would expect him to just get to the root of why he broke it!. Yes, he made need to change the circumstances that got him here i the first place, but in the meantime he needs treatment for what is going on medically!.
Talk to the doctor, but he may not be able to talk to you without a release!.
You may need to get a lawyer in order to try to get guardianship or custody, so that you can make decisions regarding his care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I am in the UK, so can't help much, but have you ever thought about applying to become your grandson's guardian!? Here in the UK it's (relatively) simple for a close relative to apply for guardianship!.

Who is his mother - your daughter or daughter-in-law!? Here in the UK it is ILLEGAL for a child (and he is still a child) to be forcibly drugged in an adolescent unit!. Unfortunately, though, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen!.

You HAVE to apply for guardianship - it's his LIFE that's in danger here!. I wish I could help more but, you're in the States and I'm in the UK!.

With love to you and him!. I'm always here if you need to talk!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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