I don't know what to do.?!
Question: I don't know what to do!.!?
I've been dealing with depression since I was in high school, and took meds till I was 19!. For the past 8 years I've dealt with things the best I can!. After the past year a lot has changed!. I lost a lot of weight (70lbs), I got my motorcycle license, I'm getting ready to start college, I'm more social than I've ever been, and I'm actively dating (something I wasn't doing before now)!.
A month ago I was starting to have severe suicidal thoughts and decided to tell my doctor about it, and have since been taking medication that seemed to help!. Lately though it doesn't seem to be working as I'm again having suicidal thoughts!.
Everything seems centered around me being sexually frustrated (Im a virgin, by choice, until now)!. The lack of physical contact makes me feel like I'm defective as a person, unlovable, and likely better off being dead!.
I have a GF, but talking to her about it only scares her!. No one seems to be able to help me and I don't think I can help myself!.
What can I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
A month ago I was starting to have severe suicidal thoughts and decided to tell my doctor about it, and have since been taking medication that seemed to help!. Lately though it doesn't seem to be working as I'm again having suicidal thoughts!.
Everything seems centered around me being sexually frustrated (Im a virgin, by choice, until now)!. The lack of physical contact makes me feel like I'm defective as a person, unlovable, and likely better off being dead!.
I have a GF, but talking to her about it only scares her!. No one seems to be able to help me and I don't think I can help myself!.
What can I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hi, John,
I can totally empathize with you!. I've struggled with depression on and off much of my adult life!. I can honestly say that by God's grace I've managed to thrive without doctors or therapists (I am one--"physician, heal thyself," right!?) or meds, which I see as being temporary and largely ineffective!.
The last time I was depressed enough to feel suicidal, I had just broken up with my boyfriend!. I knew something was wrong when I caught the thought "I wanna die" screaming around in my head during idle moments!. I worked in a bank branch that was totally dead--like, 5 customers per hour--and I was breaking down, I just couldn't get out of my head!.
One afternoon I was flipping through the Bible I'd brought to look up something!. I was drawn in!. I realized an hour had passed, and I didn't feel depressed or have suicidal thoughts at all!. I started bringing my Bible to work every day and read through Mark and parts of the Old Testament!. I think what happened was that I rediscovered my purpose in life, which I'd set aside to pursue my own pleasures!. Which was why I was depressed in the first place!.
John, if staying a virgin was a choice you put your heart into, don't be deceived that giving it up is going to make you happy!. If you invest your happiness in temporary things, your happiness will be temporary!. More likely, you will regret it!.
I'm 26 and still a virgin!. When I started dating, kinda late in life, I made the mistake of going farther with my boyfriend than I truly felt was right!. It didn't do anything for our relationship except give him the idea that this was now something he could expect of me!. I was less happy than before and now have to live with the fact that I compromised!. And there I had somebody who was willing to stay with me just because of who I was, not what I would do for him!
You have a girlfriend who cares about you more than you know!. And she probably respects you a lot for where you stand!. Instead of trying to change who you are, start listening to the truth about yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can totally empathize with you!. I've struggled with depression on and off much of my adult life!. I can honestly say that by God's grace I've managed to thrive without doctors or therapists (I am one--"physician, heal thyself," right!?) or meds, which I see as being temporary and largely ineffective!.
The last time I was depressed enough to feel suicidal, I had just broken up with my boyfriend!. I knew something was wrong when I caught the thought "I wanna die" screaming around in my head during idle moments!. I worked in a bank branch that was totally dead--like, 5 customers per hour--and I was breaking down, I just couldn't get out of my head!.
One afternoon I was flipping through the Bible I'd brought to look up something!. I was drawn in!. I realized an hour had passed, and I didn't feel depressed or have suicidal thoughts at all!. I started bringing my Bible to work every day and read through Mark and parts of the Old Testament!. I think what happened was that I rediscovered my purpose in life, which I'd set aside to pursue my own pleasures!. Which was why I was depressed in the first place!.
John, if staying a virgin was a choice you put your heart into, don't be deceived that giving it up is going to make you happy!. If you invest your happiness in temporary things, your happiness will be temporary!. More likely, you will regret it!.
I'm 26 and still a virgin!. When I started dating, kinda late in life, I made the mistake of going farther with my boyfriend than I truly felt was right!. It didn't do anything for our relationship except give him the idea that this was now something he could expect of me!. I was less happy than before and now have to live with the fact that I compromised!. And there I had somebody who was willing to stay with me just because of who I was, not what I would do for him!
You have a girlfriend who cares about you more than you know!. And she probably respects you a lot for where you stand!. Instead of trying to change who you are, start listening to the truth about yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You mean you don't want to "rely" on others to feel normal!?
Why "no more doctors!?" If your doctor has diagnosed you with depression, you have a medical condition!. It is entirely possible that your condition has changed and you need adjustment in your medication!. By all means, go back to your doctor and discuss your problem!.
Having suicidal thoughts is nothing to ignore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why "no more doctors!?" If your doctor has diagnosed you with depression, you have a medical condition!. It is entirely possible that your condition has changed and you need adjustment in your medication!. By all means, go back to your doctor and discuss your problem!.
Having suicidal thoughts is nothing to ignore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you should look into going to church, and asking God for his help, because it sounds to me like your letting the deamons have control over you!.!.!.!.you may not agree!.!.!.try going to www!.klove!.com and listen to insprational music, perhaps you're being called to do a higher thing in life, try being open to the good changes in your life, instead of focussing on not such good things!.!.!.!.having a lack of physical contact shouldn't make you have sucidal thoughts, it's called self control, I'll pray for you!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What you need to do is stop and think, 'Why do I deserve to die!? I have a girlfriend and friends who care about me!. I have no sufficient reason to kill myself!.'
Think about the impact your loss would have on your girlfriend, family and friends!. They all care about you!.
Just think about that, and maybe you'll feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Think about the impact your loss would have on your girlfriend, family and friends!. They all care about you!.
Just think about that, and maybe you'll feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
its call geting close to god!.!.!.!.he's the only solution to all your problems!.!.!.!.he heals what doctors can't!.!.!.!.!.try going to church and having faith on GOD!.!.!.!.!.!.hes the best doctor!.!.!.listen to me and this will change your life from worst to best for the rest of your life!.!.!.!.try it then reach me to see hows it goingWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you should try private therapy!? like counseling!? or try some alternative therapy like ones that help you release emotion and move on!.
maybe you just need stronger medsWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you just need stronger medsWww@Answer-Health@Com
Just be a bit more patient, and dont stress out! Be nice to your GF and she will finally sleep with you! Just give it some more time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not being an asshole, but maybe you should have sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ive had similar issues!. The only real proven answer is therapy and time!. Meds can help but wont fix what is wrong!. You have to be able to want to get better at any cost!. I didnt want to go into therapy either but I did!. Dont say "no doctors"!. If you have that attitude you wont get better!. Seeking help is NOT a sign of weakness but a sign of STRENGTH!. Only the weak do nothing!.
So I suggest you BE STRONG, STAND UP and say "I NEED HELP AND I WILL GET HELP"!.
You can do it!!!!!!!!!
And BTW I was a virgin until I was 21 so dont sweat that!. No big deal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
So I suggest you BE STRONG, STAND UP and say "I NEED HELP AND I WILL GET HELP"!.
You can do it!!!!!!!!!
And BTW I was a virgin until I was 21 so dont sweat that!. No big deal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First, I would go see your doctor!. They may need to change your medication or dosing!. Going to the doc doesnt make you defective in the least!.
I would call your local Mental Health Clinic and see if they can get you a referal to a professional!. See if you can get your gf to go with you, to know what she can do!.
In regards to the sex, wait!. The meds you are on have for the most part sexual dysfunction as a side effect!. You wont be able to have an orgasm which will just add to your frustration!.
Another possiblity, which was told to me yesterday is to mediate!. There are CD's and tapes to teach you how to accomplish this!.
Good luck, and if you need anything or someone to talk to, you may e-mail me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would call your local Mental Health Clinic and see if they can get you a referal to a professional!. See if you can get your gf to go with you, to know what she can do!.
In regards to the sex, wait!. The meds you are on have for the most part sexual dysfunction as a side effect!. You wont be able to have an orgasm which will just add to your frustration!.
Another possiblity, which was told to me yesterday is to mediate!. There are CD's and tapes to teach you how to accomplish this!.
Good luck, and if you need anything or someone to talk to, you may e-mail me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com