How can i explain to my 4 year old that I am depressed?!


Question: How can i explain to my 4 year old that I am depressed!?
my husband quit his job and we are having some money problems, which has made me depressed!. I cant concentrate on anything and I have been living worried for a week now!. we are both looking for jobs but my question is!.!.!. my daughter wants to know why I don't feel like playing with her!. it makes me feel really bad but i just cant bring myself to do it!.

no crule answers please, i am a good mom!. I am just going through a really hard time right now!. How can i explain to her im having trouble copeing right now!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I struggle with the same issue with my son!. I have OCD and was also diagnosed with clinical depression!. These thoughts put me in a place where I feel paralyzed and can't snap out of it!. I think you're a great mom for worrying so much about what your daughter is thinking, that's more than some children can even hope for! Keep up what you're doing and kiss her as much as possible, trust me, just your loving presence means more to than your playing barbies etc!. God Bless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Explain to her that Mommy is worried about things right now and is feeling a little sad!. If she asks what you are worried about, tell her it isn't anything that she needs to worry about!. Then if she asks if she can make you feel better, tell her to give you a kiss and then hold her in your arms and tell her you love her and that she always makes you feel better!. Tell her that soon you will be happy again and have more energy to play!. Just don't lt her go unnoticed and ignored feeling!.


Feel better!Www@Answer-Health@Com

The best thing you can do is not tell your child that you are depressed!. Just explain that mommy is really tired from concentrating!. If she asks "on what!?" just shrug it off and don't answer!. Just beg her forgiveness and get her to cuddle up with you and watch a movie or something!. Reassure her things will get back to normal real soon!. Run your hand over her cheek and give her a hug!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well I'm 17 so I don't know is this would work!. She's only a kid so obviously you can't reason with her on an adult level!. I doubt she would understand what depression really is!. Maybe you can say you've just felt very sad these past few days and it won't go away!. You've had a few problems and it makes you sad!. That's basically what I would do!. Sorry I can't be of more help but that's what I would do!. Hopefully I helped!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your daughter can most likely feel the tension in your home, but isn't able to understand it - why doesn't mommy want to play!?

Try talking to her calmly and tell in your own words you are not feeling good inside!.!. ask her is she what she feels when she is happy, what that feels like in her tummy/heart: there's a smiley face than! With you the smiley face is sad now, but you are working really hard to change it and it will be better again!.

Take care of yourself & I wish good luck upon your family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

The kindest thing you can do now for your child is go to the doctor and get some medication for your depression!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Ask you parents how they would tell you if you were you child's age!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Just explain that Mums get tired and grumpy sometimes just the same as her!. When she plays too hard and stays up too late then she gets upset, it's just the same for adults but we sometimes take a bit longer to get over it!.

Don't put too much emphasis on it or she may take it to heart and screw herself up trying to understand it and taking responsibility, but just let her know that its a temporary thing and that you love playing with her, just doing stuff that is a little less intensive (reading to each other, watching dvds together)!.

Most importantly from my viewpoint, make sure that she is kept busy, so that she is not isolated while you're going through this hard time!. If you're finding it difficult to devote a lot of energy to her, take her to the park where she can play with other children, or take her round to your relatives and friends, where they can run around after her while you are still there!.

This is just my opinion, I am not a parent but i have had friends with post-natal depression, so I have seen some of the problemsWww@Answer-Health@Com

You have to treat yourself, but never forget, your Little kid doesn't have to understand this!. And even more, she doesn't deserve to feel you're depressed!. I know is hard to do, but your smile and tenderness with her, can be a very important step to your recovery!. Do not concentrate in explaining her, but in preserving her of sadness and negative thoughts!.
I wish you good luck and I suggest you and your husband to read a book that helped me so much in a similar situation, called The Power of Positive Thinking, by Norman Vincent Peale!. I read it 3 times while in depression and the results were great!. Trust me and try it!.
Thank you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I don't want to be cruel, but YOU CAN"T BRING YOURSELF TO DO IT!? we are talking about simply showing some interest in your innocent 4 yr!. old, not jumping hurdles!. I lost my daughter at 6 that was 7 yrs ago and if i could have her with me i would never be depressed again!. So basically to answer your !? about how to explain your moodiness to her- DON'T!! Get your best mommy face on and GIVE a little to the one that deserves it most!. Financial hardship will pass but you hold the power to make your daughter forever hate you and her life, or be a happy person for life!. Please know that I don't want you to hurt!. Do you know about dbtselfhelp!.com!? It isn't like other forms of therapy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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