Parents, compare you to cousins etc, how do you feel?!
Question: Parents, compare you to cousins etc, how do you feel!?
how do you feel when your parents compare you to other people or other family members your age!?
what is the best way to avoid them when they do this because my parents do it constantly and it really bugs me, please do not tell me to speak to them because my parents are not like that and they would not listen believe me!. i am getting so fed upWww@Answer-Health@Com
what is the best way to avoid them when they do this because my parents do it constantly and it really bugs me, please do not tell me to speak to them because my parents are not like that and they would not listen believe me!. i am getting so fed upWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I know it gets on your nerves last week my grandpa died and my moms like grant aka my cousin was crying you dont even look like you care!. well if you cant talk to the i would just remember that god made us all for a reason and you are beter off being youWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am 44 and my parents still compare me to my other siblings!. Parents just do this sometimes!. It is annoying and hurtful, but they don't mean it as such!.
The best thing to do is to be polite, but blunt/direct about it!. They are probably not even aware that they do it!. Next time they do it, you can say to them, "Mom and Dad, it really bothers me when you compare me to other people!. It makes me feel inadequate or like I have disappointed you!. Please do not do this around me!."
It may take a few reminders from time to time, but being honest and blunt (but polite) about it is the only way they will know it is a problem!.
Good Luck!.
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The best thing to do is to be polite, but blunt/direct about it!. They are probably not even aware that they do it!. Next time they do it, you can say to them, "Mom and Dad, it really bothers me when you compare me to other people!. It makes me feel inadequate or like I have disappointed you!. Please do not do this around me!."
It may take a few reminders from time to time, but being honest and blunt (but polite) about it is the only way they will know it is a problem!.
Good Luck!.
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I feel unloved!.
I have learned over the years that my mother will never say "well done" to me!. So I avoid her as much as I can!.
And I also learned not to defend myself anymore!. Why am I not more like Ms X!? Well duh! I am not her, I am ME! These are not fights that you can ever win so I think the best thing we can do, is simply not respond!.
Will drive them bonkers that they can no longer manipulate us!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have learned over the years that my mother will never say "well done" to me!. So I avoid her as much as I can!.
And I also learned not to defend myself anymore!. Why am I not more like Ms X!? Well duh! I am not her, I am ME! These are not fights that you can ever win so I think the best thing we can do, is simply not respond!.
Will drive them bonkers that they can no longer manipulate us!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just ignore it!. You know who you are thats what matters most!. Try and tune out when they compare you with your cousins!. Tuning out comes in quite handy ha ha, i think i have mastered the talent lol!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
compare your parents with your friends'!.Tell them about how sweet and understanding they are,and that they don't compare you to their own children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com