Can you answer my question on self mutilation? (cutting, burning, etc.)?!
Question: Can you answer my question on self mutilation!? (cutting, burning, etc!.)!?
I'm sure you've heard this many times before!. I hurt myself!. There's not much to it!. I'll push pins as far into my toes as I can get them!. I'll cut my wrists!. I burn words onto my feet with hot paper clips!. Stuff like that!.
What I want to know is what society finds wrong with this!. I'm not cutting and major arteries!. I can't feel the pain (my nerves are used to it!.) I'm not hurting anyone, because I enjoy it! When people tell me to stop, it's like telling me I need to give up a favorite hobby! I just don't see what's wrong with this! Please, give me your opinions on this subject!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What I want to know is what society finds wrong with this!. I'm not cutting and major arteries!. I can't feel the pain (my nerves are used to it!.) I'm not hurting anyone, because I enjoy it! When people tell me to stop, it's like telling me I need to give up a favorite hobby! I just don't see what's wrong with this! Please, give me your opinions on this subject!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I agree!. I dont understand, I feel drinking and drugs are just as bad if not worse!. Its not like you do it cause your so in pain and emo its just it becomes interesting!. Like you enjoy it, its fun!. Im not "emo" either its just i crave it!. Some of my friends trip off it and they just dont get it!. People these days think its bad to hurt yourself!. Well what about the people who over drink and who do drugs!? Theyre hurting themselves emotoinally and physically!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Psychologically there is something wrong, and that is where society sees a problem!. You really should get help!. I can understand you enjoy it, I've been down the road before too!.!.!. But there will be a time where the small things you are doing now aren't going to be enough, and you could end up doing something worse that COULD kill you!. But, you can only start the help process by actually wanting to be helped!. I do hope you look into that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's wrong because your scarring yourself for life, and not in a pretty way (like with tattoos)!. When you get older you will regret them, you'll always feel self concious and never feel able to wear sandles or short-sleeved t-shirts!.
You just aren't supposed to hurt yourself!. If you were, then you wouldn't have nerves which send signals to your brain saying that your in pain!. It's just dumb!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You just aren't supposed to hurt yourself!. If you were, then you wouldn't have nerves which send signals to your brain saying that your in pain!. It's just dumb!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This is an emotional problem you hurt yourself not to feel pain but to hide pain its an emotional release for you!. You feel that if you cut or burn yourself that you are in control and that no one can hurt you also you get a "high" from it that makes you more able to deal with the true reason you are hurting yourself when you get this rush it numbs your emotions to your real problemsWww@Answer-Health@Com
this is my answer to everyone:::
EVERY SINGLE PERSON HURTS THEMSELVES SOMEHOW!. e!.g!. crying, lieing, thinking stuff we shouldnt,
committing sins, doing drugs, drinking, being around bad people, etc!.
BUT SOME PEOPLE DECIDE TO HURT THEMSELVES
PHYSICALLY!.
so it doesnt matter!. all you people need to mind ur own business instead of making her feel more wrong!.
instead of just giving advice on it, you people judge like YOU'RE PERFECT and dont do stupid shi*!.
let her do what she wants to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
EVERY SINGLE PERSON HURTS THEMSELVES SOMEHOW!. e!.g!. crying, lieing, thinking stuff we shouldnt,
committing sins, doing drugs, drinking, being around bad people, etc!.
BUT SOME PEOPLE DECIDE TO HURT THEMSELVES
PHYSICALLY!.
so it doesnt matter!. all you people need to mind ur own business instead of making her feel more wrong!.
instead of just giving advice on it, you people judge like YOU'RE PERFECT and dont do stupid shi*!.
let her do what she wants to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My opinion is that there are underlying issues when it comes to self mutilation!.!.!.People that do it have other issues that they are not dealing with!. Don't kid yourself you are hurting yourself by doing it and you need to figure out why!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Because no SANE person would find pleasure in doing bodily harm to themselves!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you have a problem!.
hurting yourself should not be enjoyable but whatever!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hurting yourself should not be enjoyable but whatever!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
whats the purpose of doing this!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
"What I want to know is what society finds wrong with this!. I'm not cutting and major arteries!. I can't feel the pain (my nerves are used to it!.) I'm not hurting anyone, because I enjoy it! When people tell me to stop, it's like telling me I need to give up a favorite hobby!"
That is EXACTLY how i used to feel!. My friends would tell me to stop all the time and all i did was get mad at them and say no!. My advice to you would be to stop doing all that for about 3 months(long i know) and see how you feel!. When i stopped hurting myself i was overall a much happier person!. I know that is hard to understand because right now you love it so much, but after a long time without hurting myself i had much more fun doing other things!.
I don't hurt myself anymore and best of all, my friends are happy and IM happy :) Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
That is EXACTLY how i used to feel!. My friends would tell me to stop all the time and all i did was get mad at them and say no!. My advice to you would be to stop doing all that for about 3 months(long i know) and see how you feel!. When i stopped hurting myself i was overall a much happier person!. I know that is hard to understand because right now you love it so much, but after a long time without hurting myself i had much more fun doing other things!.
I don't hurt myself anymore and best of all, my friends are happy and IM happy :) Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that the problem society has with it is that many individuals who self harm are doing things that can cause permanent health problems!. Often such activity is the result of psychological problems, and often the self harm can escalate into more serious activities!.
Some people are masochistic by nature and enjoy causing themselves pain!. This is not a hugely unusual area of fetish!.
The important thing to determine is the reason for doing it!. Is it a genuine hobby, or is there a deeper reason!?
The second important thing is to ensure that whatever you are doing is not resulting in a long term injury or other health problem!.
My concern in your case is that some of the things you describe could cause serious long term injuries, such as wrist cutting or pushing pins into yourself!.
I've read that some people break this addictive behavior by using alternative methods that are less damaging!. Use of rubber bands or ice for example to cause pain, without the physical injury that can be caused by cutting!.
You say that you are not hurting anyone, but you are in fact hurting yourself!. Maybe not physically (if you are used to it), but in other ways!. Consider that one day you are at a job interview for that dream job/opportunity!. An astute interviewer notices scars on your wrists and decides to give the job to someone else!.
Imagine one day you meet the perfect partner who notices scaring on your wrists or feet!. They decide to dump you because they think you are unstable!.
I'm sure there are plenty of other examples!.
My best advice is to seek a professional who understands self harm!. And switch to activities that do not cause injury or permanent marks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Some people are masochistic by nature and enjoy causing themselves pain!. This is not a hugely unusual area of fetish!.
The important thing to determine is the reason for doing it!. Is it a genuine hobby, or is there a deeper reason!?
The second important thing is to ensure that whatever you are doing is not resulting in a long term injury or other health problem!.
My concern in your case is that some of the things you describe could cause serious long term injuries, such as wrist cutting or pushing pins into yourself!.
I've read that some people break this addictive behavior by using alternative methods that are less damaging!. Use of rubber bands or ice for example to cause pain, without the physical injury that can be caused by cutting!.
You say that you are not hurting anyone, but you are in fact hurting yourself!. Maybe not physically (if you are used to it), but in other ways!. Consider that one day you are at a job interview for that dream job/opportunity!. An astute interviewer notices scars on your wrists and decides to give the job to someone else!.
Imagine one day you meet the perfect partner who notices scaring on your wrists or feet!. They decide to dump you because they think you are unstable!.
I'm sure there are plenty of other examples!.
My best advice is to seek a professional who understands self harm!. And switch to activities that do not cause injury or permanent marks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you really think about it, I'm sure you can see why people have a problem with it!. It is not a common behavior (by that I mean an everyday action that is seen as "normal") and is seen as destructive and bad!. Self harm is generally a cry for attention!. People tell you to stop because they care about you and don't want you to hurt yourself!. Also the scars you leave behind permanently mar your body - you might regret them 20 years from now!.
It's not surprising you enjoy it - it provides a release of endorphins (the chemicals that affect mood)!. Also the pleasure and pain centers are located right next to each other in the brain!. In many situations pain can be interpreted as being pleasurable!. Why don't you try finding a healthier way to get the same endorphin-high, like running!?
Wildfirefan had a very good point - cutting is quite addictive, and maybe if you stopped for a while and looked at it in a different light it might change the way you feel about itWww@Answer-Health@Com
It's not surprising you enjoy it - it provides a release of endorphins (the chemicals that affect mood)!. Also the pleasure and pain centers are located right next to each other in the brain!. In many situations pain can be interpreted as being pleasurable!. Why don't you try finding a healthier way to get the same endorphin-high, like running!?
Wildfirefan had a very good point - cutting is quite addictive, and maybe if you stopped for a while and looked at it in a different light it might change the way you feel about itWww@Answer-Health@Com
Do you cut because it gives you some sort of relief!? I cut for nine years!. And at the time I thought very much like you!. I wasn't hurting anyone else, I wasn't trying to kill myself!. It's not what you think!. Hurting yourself is not the answer to anything, and while people may get over zealous about it, it's because the truly care for you!. And you may think that it will not hurt you but when I was 16 I got dumped so I took a box cutter across my arm!. I cut so deep I went through muscle and flesh!. I have severe never damage in my left arm!. I can type and hold a drink, but trying to hold a pen is impossible!. Sometimes it hurts so bad I just sit and rub my arm!. I had to learn to write again right handed (I was originally left handed!.) So sure, you may enjoy the relief, and I'm not saying I don't miss it!. But cut a little too deep on your wrist and watch as you bleed to death!. You may not think it will happen but a lot of people die because they just cut too deep, or in the wrong place!. Or cut with a dirty blade and enjoy the infection!. You are playing with something you do not have a full understanding of!. I played the game too!. And there isn't a day that goes by that I wish I didn't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am incredibly disturbed by your question!.
Most self-mutilators/self-injurers do so because it helps them cope/feel better!. Through the release of endorphins, the look or feel of the blood, whatever!. It is a way, for some, to "stay alive!." I know this as I'm a former cutter who on occasion falls off the wagon!.
Some self-injurers do so as a form of manipulation!.
And from what I've heard, there are indigenous peoples who do so for cultural reasons!.
Since you're online, I think it rules out number 3!. Which leaves one of the first two reasons!. Either one is a HUGE warning sign that says there is some underlying problem!. I highly suggest you make an appointment with both a behavioural therapist and a psychiatrist (for medication therapy) and get help!. Please seek immediate help!. You might feel you aren't "hurting anyone" but you are!. You're hurting yourself and those who love you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Most self-mutilators/self-injurers do so because it helps them cope/feel better!. Through the release of endorphins, the look or feel of the blood, whatever!. It is a way, for some, to "stay alive!." I know this as I'm a former cutter who on occasion falls off the wagon!.
Some self-injurers do so as a form of manipulation!.
And from what I've heard, there are indigenous peoples who do so for cultural reasons!.
Since you're online, I think it rules out number 3!. Which leaves one of the first two reasons!. Either one is a HUGE warning sign that says there is some underlying problem!. I highly suggest you make an appointment with both a behavioural therapist and a psychiatrist (for medication therapy) and get help!. Please seek immediate help!. You might feel you aren't "hurting anyone" but you are!. You're hurting yourself and those who love you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
People are telling you to stop because there must be a reason why you are doing this, not just cause you enjoy it!. Cutters usually do this to release emotional pain because their emotions can become numb and cutting becomes a release and a way to "feel" pain again!. It is dangerous because one day you might decide to cut a little deeper, or a little longer and if what you say is true that you cant feel it, then how will you know when you have gone to far!?
I think you need to find someone you can trust to talk with about your problems!. This is not a hobby!! It is dangerous and self destructive and franky people should be worried!. Remember they worry because they love you and want to see you happy!.
Please be careful and seek help!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you need to find someone you can trust to talk with about your problems!. This is not a hobby!! It is dangerous and self destructive and franky people should be worried!. Remember they worry because they love you and want to see you happy!.
Please be careful and seek help!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I could not agree more with rachel, when you cut yourself giving yourself a high off of endorphins, but it would be better if you found a different way to get the same high!.
What your doing isn't unusual at all, people do the exact same thing with spicy foods, to some degree they enjoy the flavour some spices give, but mainly they like it because it's stimulating pain receptors and then they get the same rush of endorphins you get!.
There is a definately a stigma surrounding it, for certain social and religious reasons, and to be honest I dont think that the self mutilation in itself is bad, or the effect it has on you're body since you're not doing any major damage, just as much as someone can get playing soccer or hiking!.
But i will say this: a mentally healthy person does not mutilate themselves!. I used to cut myself and it turned out i was suffering from psychosis and clinical depression, and there are many other disorders that can contribute to why, other than the endorphin release, you would hurt yourself, such as adhd and autism!.
So i guess what I'm saying is that, in itself, self-harm is not really bad at all!. However the disorders that may be contributing to why your body feels the need to have its mood stabalized by the endorphins is something you should look into!. I cant say the same for you because everyone is different, but I feel alot better after being diagnosed and treated!. Now I'm on prozac, which stabalizes my mood so i can spend my time on other things i enjoy, before i was pretty obsessed with cutting myself, and the attention and time it consumed was kind of annoying, so i'm glad i dont have to do it anymore!.
Just check it out with you're doctor if your interested, they can't really do anything like locking you up or stopping you, because your not doing any major damage to yourself, so you can tell them to f- off if you dont like where its heading!.
Hope that answered your question!Www@Answer-Health@Com
What your doing isn't unusual at all, people do the exact same thing with spicy foods, to some degree they enjoy the flavour some spices give, but mainly they like it because it's stimulating pain receptors and then they get the same rush of endorphins you get!.
There is a definately a stigma surrounding it, for certain social and religious reasons, and to be honest I dont think that the self mutilation in itself is bad, or the effect it has on you're body since you're not doing any major damage, just as much as someone can get playing soccer or hiking!.
But i will say this: a mentally healthy person does not mutilate themselves!. I used to cut myself and it turned out i was suffering from psychosis and clinical depression, and there are many other disorders that can contribute to why, other than the endorphin release, you would hurt yourself, such as adhd and autism!.
So i guess what I'm saying is that, in itself, self-harm is not really bad at all!. However the disorders that may be contributing to why your body feels the need to have its mood stabalized by the endorphins is something you should look into!. I cant say the same for you because everyone is different, but I feel alot better after being diagnosed and treated!. Now I'm on prozac, which stabalizes my mood so i can spend my time on other things i enjoy, before i was pretty obsessed with cutting myself, and the attention and time it consumed was kind of annoying, so i'm glad i dont have to do it anymore!.
Just check it out with you're doctor if your interested, they can't really do anything like locking you up or stopping you, because your not doing any major damage to yourself, so you can tell them to f- off if you dont like where its heading!.
Hope that answered your question!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Because it displays a serious mental condition!. Instead of dealing with your internal pain in a mature, sane manner you turn to creating physical pain to mask the internal scars!.
Its a condition that is borderline personality disorder and of depression that is acted out do to some form of mental trauma that has been caused by any number of things!. In other words, a sane person doesnt cause themselves bodily harm and your not in the right frame of mind if you consider this behavior normal!.
You need to find healthy ways to cope with your internal pain so that you can eventually be free of your demons instead of masking them!. Self harm does nothing more than that, provide a release to distract you from the real issue at hand and untill you deal with the real issue you'll keep causing yourself harm!. How is this healthy!?
You are scarring yourself physically with reminders that can last a lifetime because of weak impulses that make you incapable of comfronting your problem!. Get some help so you can cope and you wont need to cause yourself harm!.
I've been there, my sisters have been there, its not healthy, its not normal, and you need to find a way to help yourself in order to provide lasting results so you can live a normal and happy life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Its a condition that is borderline personality disorder and of depression that is acted out do to some form of mental trauma that has been caused by any number of things!. In other words, a sane person doesnt cause themselves bodily harm and your not in the right frame of mind if you consider this behavior normal!.
You need to find healthy ways to cope with your internal pain so that you can eventually be free of your demons instead of masking them!. Self harm does nothing more than that, provide a release to distract you from the real issue at hand and untill you deal with the real issue you'll keep causing yourself harm!. How is this healthy!?
You are scarring yourself physically with reminders that can last a lifetime because of weak impulses that make you incapable of comfronting your problem!. Get some help so you can cope and you wont need to cause yourself harm!.
I've been there, my sisters have been there, its not healthy, its not normal, and you need to find a way to help yourself in order to provide lasting results so you can live a normal and happy life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think there are a couple reasons!. One is evolutionary!. Think about when we lived in tribes and had to hunt wildebeests and work outside all day!. You can bet that the tribesman with burns on his feet and cuts in his wrist wouldn't be a very good hunter/gatherer and would probably not be the one to survive!.
People also have a problem with people who choose to be a burden on society!. For example, if you were to accidentally go too far and need to be hospitalized, people don't want their hard-earned tax and/or insurance money to go to treat somebody who consciously did that to themselves!. It's the same reason why breast cancer is a much more socially acceptable disease than lung cancer - people feel that people with lung cancer are people who choose to be smokers and did it to themselves (which, by the way, isn't true - plenty of non-smokers get lung cancer, too)!.
I think it's also partly religious!. If your body is supposed to be your temple, and you're damaging it, then you're flying in the face of people's religious beliefs!. Some people even see it as an insult to God!.
And, finally, it hurts the people who care about you!. Just like it hurts the families of smokers to watch their loved ones suffer from emphysema, it hurts the families of a cutter to watch their loved one hurt themselves!. They can't even protect them!
So there you have it!. I'm not trying to criticize, but I'm hoping maybe you'll see why other people have a problem with it!. I understand what you're saying when you say "it's like telling me I need to give up a favorite hobby!" but you have to remember that smokers and alcoholics could say the same!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
People also have a problem with people who choose to be a burden on society!. For example, if you were to accidentally go too far and need to be hospitalized, people don't want their hard-earned tax and/or insurance money to go to treat somebody who consciously did that to themselves!. It's the same reason why breast cancer is a much more socially acceptable disease than lung cancer - people feel that people with lung cancer are people who choose to be smokers and did it to themselves (which, by the way, isn't true - plenty of non-smokers get lung cancer, too)!.
I think it's also partly religious!. If your body is supposed to be your temple, and you're damaging it, then you're flying in the face of people's religious beliefs!. Some people even see it as an insult to God!.
And, finally, it hurts the people who care about you!. Just like it hurts the families of smokers to watch their loved ones suffer from emphysema, it hurts the families of a cutter to watch their loved one hurt themselves!. They can't even protect them!
So there you have it!. I'm not trying to criticize, but I'm hoping maybe you'll see why other people have a problem with it!. I understand what you're saying when you say "it's like telling me I need to give up a favorite hobby!" but you have to remember that smokers and alcoholics could say the same!.Www@Answer-Health@Com