I am 30 and i feel like i have missed out on life?!


Question: I am 30 and i feel like i have missed out on life!?
i dont like feeling sorry for myself as it is completely non productive but i feel i didnt do anything when i was a teen and in my 20's - doing crappy jobs and studying endless naff courses!. i know perhaps to others i have but in my heart i feel unfulfilled - how can i change this around at my ageWww@Answer-Health@Com


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You sound as if you have some Borderline Personality Traits!. You seem to have gone to extreme in order to escape boredom or whatever by the use of drugs!. It is likely that you did enjoy yourself during this time even though you had to pay the price for the self destructive type behaviors!.

It is good that you have decided to quit drinking!. Some people should not drink!. They can't handle it!.

At 30 you have a lot of years left so you should survey your life and be careful to appreciate what you have!. If nothing else you survived this chaotic life!. Many people do not!. Then decide what your goals are!. Where do you want to be in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years and on!? Then start working toward these!.

Look at your relationships and discuss your feeling with them!. Make sure these are the supportive friends and you might want to leave some of your other friends!. If you hang around drunks you will likely be a drunk!.

Let me know if this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Don't worry, we all feel like that!
They say that life begins at 40 and I can absolutely assure you that this is true! By the time you reach 40 you have a reasonable understanding of the world, a reasonable idea of where you stand and what you can expect out of life and (usually) a reasonable income and a bit of time to enjoy it!.
If you want some useful pointers that will set you on the right path, go into Amazon and buy two books; "Who moved my Cheese" and "Rich Dad, Poor Dad"!. These are both books that will change your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Life ends at 40 - 50 if you're lucky - and yes you probably have missed out on life!.

What do you want to do!? Think about it; is there something you want to do that you maybe never thought was an option before!?
What skills or abilities do you have that are going to waste!? Just give something a go and hope for the best; there's no guarantee you'll get anywhere if you try but you might get a 50/50 chance which is a lot better than nothing at all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

spend a few hours writing down the sorts of things youd like to do with the next 5-10 years

then work out how can do them

then make short and medium and long term goals

if you set yourself goals it will help you to feel like youre always doing something productive, which will help you to avoid feeling disillusioned

you cant do anything about the past

but you can do LOTS about the futureWww@Answer-Health@Com

This is a common problem for anyone reaching the end of their 30's, 40's, 50's, etc!. The end of the decade psychologically triggers you to look back and evaluate!.
So this is what you must do and draw the positives out of it!. You are probably erring on the side of pessimism!. The past cannot be changed!.
So, look forward to the next 10 years and focus in your mind what you would like to do, what you want to achieve and how you will go about it - be realistic!.
;)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Start doing things that you think of, rather than saying to yourself, one day I'll do that!.

Get off your **** and do things that you have always dreamed of!. Be spontanious and let nothing hold you back!. You only live once, so forget all the financial sides to life and go have a blast!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Write down some things you want to have enjoyed, accomplished, or to have done in the next few years (simple pleasures and big goals)!. Then start taking the steps to make them happen!. Dont wait for them to happen!. Make them happen!Www@Answer-Health@Com

dont worry about it most people feel that way, the onyl reason you feel like so is because you see characters in movies and tv shows having amazing lives and wishing that was you, or us!. !.!.!.its ok !.!.we're all boring!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you sound depressed!. Might have an impalance of brain chemistry!.
Check with your doctor!.

If your life isn't what you want it to be now!.Then revaluate your life and make changes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Missed out in life!? rubbish you are still young and can do what you want, life is too short to worry, wait till you get to 50 and feel the same!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

you have not miss out anything in life!. Maybe what you need is companionship that can give you inspirations to make your daily life meaningfulWww@Answer-Health@Com

Start by getting up each morning and remembering that you have your whole life ahead of you:-)Www@Answer-Health@Com

take a gab year and go traveling if you can effort it!. great life experience!. 30 is no age! ;O)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Start living each day as it'll be your last!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You're still young!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I hate "Eternal Optimists"!. Everyone who says "You haven't missed out on anything" is full of crap!. You did, you missed out on a lot!. Just physically, you will never be able to handle the type of fun you could have had in your teens and twenties!. I'm only 35, but my body would shut down if I tried to do half of the partying I did then!.

You also missed out on a lot of random adventures!. The kind of random adventures you will never get into because you aren't stupid enough to try them!. When you are 20 and convinced that you are untouchable you tend to make a lot of bad (but fun) decisions!.

You also missed out on having a social circle filled with 20 year olds to drag you into bad (but fun) situations!. Now, I'm not trying to drag you down for no reason, there is a reason to it!. One day you might be able to help a young person understand that youth is fleeting, and get your fun in while you can survive it!.

If life began at 40, you wouldn't feel like you had missed out!. Now, I am NOT saying that life after 30 sucks!. You can still have a lot of fun!. You typically have more money in your 30's, you go to nicer places in better vehicles!. But it still isn't that raw and primal fun you missed out on as a teen!.

The way you change it is to go out and enjoy yourself!. You can't get back lost time, but don't deny the loss!. It is part of what makes you who you are now!. Unfortunately, the hardest obstacle in having some fun is finding people to have fun with!. I'm 35, single, no kids, and almost all of my friends are married with kids or single with kids!.

Spontaneous get together!? Not likely!. Group vacation!? Try again!. Dinner at Outback together!? Too expensive, back to school time, kids need new clothes, Subway might fly!.

If it is any consolation though, 30 is where the sex starts getting real good!. So, I would say that is the place to start!. Go get laid!. Preferably by someone at least 5 -10 years younger than you!. I didn't say "Go get a significant other", I said "Go get laid!." If that is too shocking and direct a prospect for you (You said you lived a rather timid life) then you are pretty much screwed (figuratively, at least)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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