I'm feeling depressed...?!


Question: I'm feeling depressed!.!.!.!?
Oh, how to start this!. Ok, for one!. I've been depressed!. I've been depressed because I am upset on how my parents made their stupid, young mistakes and now my siblings and I have to live it with them, since we are far from moving out!. You see, my parents never went to college and both have low-paying jobs!. We can't afford a house, and for some reason they like to move us around alot!. I'm never in the same school for too long and just when I get adjusted, it's time to move!. I don't like it when my mom confides in me about our financial struggles because it feels like she's telling me this so i can put that burden on my shoulders!. I know for only being 14, i shouldnt be thinking about death!. I can't tell my parents, because that would just be more stress and they tend to let me know and make sure I feel bad when i tell them something and they use it against me!. There isn't really anybody I could trust to tell everything to!. What can I do!? I really need to just let all of this out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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That is a lot for a 14 year old to have on their shoulders!. But I know how you feel!. My family is having a tough time with money right now too!. I also know how you feel when your mom talks to you about your family's financial situation!. My mother talks to me a lot about our situation and it upsets me too!.

Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about your family's situation, especially being only 14!.

It could be that your mom doesn't feel comfortable talking to "outsiders" about your family's situation, and if she needs to talk to someone to help get it off of her chest, you're the only one she may feel comfortable talking to!. Maybe she doesn't realize how upset it makes you!. You should try talking to her and explain that you're aware of the situation you are in, it makes you feel worse constantly talking about it!. She might ease up on you a little bit!.

Above all else, hang in there!. Talk to people that you know and trust when you're feeling down!. Whether it be your parents, friends, or even a councelor at school!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Theres nothing you can do!. No matter what you do nothing will change !. Your mom doesnt tell you about financial struggles to put anything on your shoulders, i think shes just bieng honest with you!. You have a right to know whats going on since all of the financial struggles effect your life!. Would you rather she act like nothing was wrong!? IN the end everything will be alright!. A storm never lasts forever!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hey I am sorry that you are feeling so depressed it is not fair that your parents put such a burden on you!. you are only a young adult with so many pressures on you already I hope that you don't do anything that will jeapordize your life life is so precious and remember there is a god who cares about you and your situation sometimes prayer can be your best friendWww@Answer-Health@Com

I know exactly what you are talking about; especially the part where your mom tells u about financial struggles and u feel like she expects You the lift the weight!. I felt like that when i was younger but now that im older and in college, i've realized some things and my answer to u is: your mom doesn't tell you those problems because she wants to "burden" u!. she doesnt expect u to perform miracles!. Instead of getting depressed, realize that your mother confides in you because she cannot or doesn't want to go to anyone else!. The way you react will either give her strength or stress her out more!. and really all you've got to do is LISTEN but dont get depressed over it! You are way too young!. just know that everything will be ok!. oh, and don't think about death; it wont solve your problem!. and you are right: all you gotta do is let it out and realize you are not alone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Listen i know the feeling!.!.i went through it my entire life except my story is 10 times worse!. You will get through it!. No matter how far something gets down it will sink back up!. there will always be a brighter day!. Even though it may not seem like it now you just have to say to urself everyday that one day everything will be better!.!.by seeing your parents go through having a low income it should make you want to be better then them go to school get an education!. and thats what you need to do !.!.thats what im doing right now after seeing everything my mom went through just to raise us!. you will be ok dont think so much about what will happen next!.!.!. live in the moment and dont worry too much!. all this sounds so silly but i mean it i been there and youll be at a happy place someday because remember your living you parents life right now but just wait because you get to start your own soon 4 more years and you can get started on what you wish your parents would have done!. Let your mom know how you feel when she says these things to you!. Mabye talk to a doctor about meds or someone to talk to!. GOOD LUCK! i hope the best for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

well take this as a tough lessen learned!. just because you have grown up in this atmosphere doesn't mean you need to live the same life, which is sounds like you are an intelligent young girl and want a better life for yourself!. what i would do is help out as much as you can, but do not grow up too fast!. do the best you can in school and/or sports, make sure you get scholarships so you can go to college for free or close to free and you can make a better life for yourself and move away!. if you can start a job or start babysitting, get a bank account for yourself so you have your own money!. you will be fine, just journal all of your feelings and realize you are not alone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

your parents are struggling to keep their heads aboove water!. they only talk about this to you so you will know they are unable to give you the things you want and not beacuase they dont want to!. they probably move to keep jobs or get jobs that pay better to suport you and what ever siblings you have!. give them a break!. you dont need to be depressed!. get a friend to talk to or go to a therapist!. you are young !. your hell will pass!. you have great things in your future!. your parents never made it to their dreams!. but you still can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Try http://rantandraveforum!.com/ and the depression chatsites in section 2, at ezy build, below, and see teen resources, in section 13, on page K!.

Ask yourself: "Why do I feel depressed, and when did I first start to feel this way: can I associate this with any recent change in my life!?" (if so, it is probably situational depression: counselling, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is indicated)!. Or, was it a more gradual thing, with no apparent cause!? (nutritional deficiencies, hypothyroidism, environmental toxicity, or reactions to some medications, etc!., becomes more likely as the cause)!.

Depression: I KNOW, from experience, how difficult it is, but once you drag yourself out of bed, throw on a dressing gown, and have a little time in the morning light, preferably doing easy stretching exercises, then have a shower, a cuppa, and either fish, or scrambled eggs, and possibly bacon for breakfast!.

These provide a lasting energy boost: no carbohydrates for 2 hrs, or extremely little; a teaspoon of sugar is OK, but Xylitol is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a LITTLE honey!. Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, as needed!. No daytime sleeping; only 8 - 9 hrs at night!. Overall though, low to moderate levels of protein suit most people best, with considerably more of the complex carbohydrates, preferably from wholefoods, and a smaller amount of fat, or oil!.

Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St!. John's wort is effective for most people, tolerance doesn't develop, and the few side effects don't occur often, and even then are normally not severe!.

It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but usually takes at least 2, and generally 4 - 6 weeks to become effective!. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation!. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St!. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area)!.

Remember back to a time when life was full of promise, or a day when you felt particularly good, or possibly excited from a good result!. Emotional states are associated with memories, and if it isn't major depression, this method can help!.

A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (7!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.

(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels!. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements!.

(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!.

(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.

(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.

(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.

(6!.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build!.

(7!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.

If 5HTP is used to boost serotonin levels, (which are low in depressed people) it is best taken with a high carbohydrate, minimal protein meal, like pasta with tomato & basil, and avoid protein for 90 minutes, before, and after, to maximise the amount crossing the blood/brain barrier!.

Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!. Low levels of calcium, and potassium can also cause depression!. Have your blood tested, and correct any deficiencies, preferably through improved nutrition!.

An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops)!.

Try to imagine, as vividly as possible, a time in the not too distant future, when you have overcome this temporary setback, and things are much better!.

Most depressive episodes last for around 6 months, which is why treatments should be maintained for at least that long, and preferably 1 - 2 years!. Then wean off medication, or herbal remedies, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice, and see how things go, but I would maintain the other treatments, with the possible exception of therapy!. Even then, realise that depression recurs in about 50% of cases: know your early warning signs, and be quick to act at the first hint of it returning!.

This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2!.

If you are already taking antidepressants, and want to use the wort, I suggest that you taper off the antidepressant, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice as to how long to take, before beginning the wort, which is believed to act by increasing the availability of serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine, moderately, rather than selectively giving the serotonin levels of the brain a large boost!.

"I don't like it when my mom confides in me about our financial struggles because it feels like she's telling me this so i can put that burden on my shoulders" - A problem shared, is a problem halved: she feels better for it:- don't take it to heart, just nod, and agree, but tell her your side, too, esp!. about moving!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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