Pets death?!
Question: Pets death!?
this morning my husband was leaving for work and my sons puppy got out of the dog pen and my hubby didnt see it and there was an accident!. the puppy died!. we have 5 other puppys but none that looked like this one how do we explain to our 7yr!. or do we just tell him it ran away i hate lieing to my child but he is has asperger's( autism) and we fear of either a meltdown or a with draw please any input will be helpfullWww@Answer-Health@Com
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It might be a good time to discuss death!. But understanding your child's condition I would be very careful giving a reason or placing blame in ANY direction!. You can explain that sometimes God simply calls them up to heaven b/c they are such wonderful animals He wants them right then, and it's ok, He will play with the puppy until we get there!.
Explaining death sucks!. 7 years old is a good time to start!. You can leave out the gory details!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Explaining death sucks!. 7 years old is a good time to start!. You can leave out the gory details!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your 7 year old isnt going to understand really that the puppy died!. I used to go through this all the time when my daughter was really little!. Now when one of our pet rats die I dont even tell her!. I figure if she notices one isnt in the cage and she asks I wont lie to her but if I were to tell her about everytime one of them died it would be a meltdown everytime!. I would just tell your son the puppy ran away!. A child that young shouldnt have to experience death until they are older!. And with his autism you might be better off lying!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
as someone with an aspergers sibling, change = veryvery bad!.
so hes gonna suffer anyway!.!.!. as you know, every child's reactions are different!.!.!. my brother tried to kill himself when we moved house!.!.!. im not sure how your son copes with grief!.!.!. its really up to you, if you think that the grief will upset him, i would lie!.!.!. it sounds bad, but unless you have experience with an aspy's child, you really have no idea how devastating their meltdowns can be, especially in a young child!.
you are the mother!.
he is your child!.!.!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
so hes gonna suffer anyway!.!.!. as you know, every child's reactions are different!.!.!. my brother tried to kill himself when we moved house!.!.!. im not sure how your son copes with grief!.!.!. its really up to you, if you think that the grief will upset him, i would lie!.!.!. it sounds bad, but unless you have experience with an aspy's child, you really have no idea how devastating their meltdowns can be, especially in a young child!.
you are the mother!.
he is your child!.!.!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm really sorry about your dog, but i think you should tell him the truth, but you should explain it to him very well so that he would understand and not be angry at you!. Even though I'm just a ten year old girl, I also understand his feelings!.
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The truth is probably better!. I think the kids who get to learn about death in small doses are on the lucky side of things!. I've always thought kids who have had pets die when they are young are better at handling death as they get older!.
Kids usually handle things better than adults think they will!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Kids usually handle things better than adults think they will!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think i would tell him the truth,the others are right,he has to learn to deal with death,but be careful he don't blame his dad,after all in your sons mind he will think,Dad let him out!.
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I think it would be good to lie on this ocassion!. If telling the truth risks his health then it really isn't worth it!. It's a lie still but don't feel bad for trying to protect your child you are just being a parent in the end!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
the kid gotta learn about death sometime!.!.!.!.!.It happens to us all!. better to learn young and accept than be in denial for life!. Would U feel better if he discovered U lied in a few years!? Think of the tantrum then!? Truth is ALWAYS BEST!Www@Answer-Health@Com
you cant tell the child ' oh sorry your dad ran it over'!.
just lie, and if you feel the need to tell him in the future do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just lie, and if you feel the need to tell him in the future do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
im sorry about the puppy but you shouldn't lie about death because he will have to experience losing loved one in the future!. acceptance can be a long process but it does happen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him the truth!. Let him learn about deaths and learn to accept it!. I know it's harsh but it's the reality!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you may want to ask your kids psychiatrist his opinion!. for other kids i would have said tell him the truth but here we dont know how he will cope with the truth!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's better to lie than to regret!.Www@Answer-Health@Com