How do you convince a man there is reason to live? He's suicidal.?!
Question: How do you convince a man there is reason to live!? He's suicidal!.!?
My BF is constantly talking about killing himself, and saying I should just leave him now to spare being hurt, cause he doesn't see himself living to see the end of the year!. He just thinks the world would be better off without him, he can see no reason to live and when things get bad he just wants to end it all!.
He's 32, stuck working at a supermarket with no hope of advancement, he's got 2 kids to his ex-fiance that he only sees on the weekend, he's got no money, even in a bit of debt, and lives in a rental!. And then there's problems between us, we've been going out for 2 years, but I'm 11yrs younger than him, and we fight about things often as couples do!.
When things go bad he just wants to put a gun to his head and paint the wall with his brains, nothing I say helps, I try to convince him the world needs him, his kids need him, I need him, but he's sure we'd be better without him, BS but he won't see it!. He feels he's done everything he was born to do, now there's nothing leftWww@Answer-Health@Com
He's 32, stuck working at a supermarket with no hope of advancement, he's got 2 kids to his ex-fiance that he only sees on the weekend, he's got no money, even in a bit of debt, and lives in a rental!. And then there's problems between us, we've been going out for 2 years, but I'm 11yrs younger than him, and we fight about things often as couples do!.
When things go bad he just wants to put a gun to his head and paint the wall with his brains, nothing I say helps, I try to convince him the world needs him, his kids need him, I need him, but he's sure we'd be better without him, BS but he won't see it!. He feels he's done everything he was born to do, now there's nothing leftWww@Answer-Health@Com
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How horrible of him to say those things to you!. This man is being extremely selfish, not realising the pain he is putting all the people around him through!. Does he ever make you do things and say that if you don't he will kill himself!? Be aware of emotional blackmail!.
He needs to get help, perhaps see his doctor about anti-depressant medication, or be referred to a counsellor!. However you must remember that you can't ever be responsible for somebody else's happiness!. All you can do is point him in the right direction and be there to support him if he gets help!. Don't let this man drag you down!. You can't help anyone who won't help themselves!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He needs to get help, perhaps see his doctor about anti-depressant medication, or be referred to a counsellor!. However you must remember that you can't ever be responsible for somebody else's happiness!. All you can do is point him in the right direction and be there to support him if he gets help!. Don't let this man drag you down!. You can't help anyone who won't help themselves!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Im 32 and feel the same !.!.!.!.Ive just had enough !.!.I can not take it any more !.!.!.I need helpWww@Answer-Health@Com
you should tell other people bc he seems like he is ready to kill himself which isnt good at all but as far as you convincing him when he says hes sureee that you and his kids would b better off without him ask him why and listen to what he thinks and maybe ull think of somthing to help him otherwiseWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you should try getting him involved in something!? like some sort of club or soemthing to keep his mind occupied!. and maybe you guys should do things more often!. and since he seems to be tight on money it could be something that doesnt have to be payed for!. maybe taking a walk together!. just do things to help busy his mind with other thingsWww@Answer-Health@Com
Can you talk to his mom and or family!.Please get him into a doctor!.Please help him! He needs medicine!.You are only 21 and you are too young to have to deal with this!.Please put your arguments to the side for awhile,let him get help first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Give Him Space & time to think!.!.!.
& just be there for Him as needed,
Nothing you can do, Except PRAY for him!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
& just be there for Him as needed,
Nothing you can do, Except PRAY for him!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Make an appointment with your GP for yourself to ask for advice!. If he's willing ask him to come along, and express to him how much it will be worth it, explain to him that what he's feeling at the moment is a temporary thing and there is more out there!. What he has is an illness preventing him from seeing what he truly has to be happy for and what he can do with his life!. It is absolutely blinding!.
It sounds as though he needs counseling along with a monitored set of medication to help him out of this tough spot initially!. It will all start at your GP!.
He is a father, he doesn't have the right to self destruct!.
Also, remember that you can't expect him to see the future in a good light, it's the illness of severe depression, the illness does everything it can to prevent him from that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds as though he needs counseling along with a monitored set of medication to help him out of this tough spot initially!. It will all start at your GP!.
He is a father, he doesn't have the right to self destruct!.
Also, remember that you can't expect him to see the future in a good light, it's the illness of severe depression, the illness does everything it can to prevent him from that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The threat of Suiside is one of 2 things,
first and foremost,it is a cry for attention, someone saying Look at me, pay attention to me, help me!.
These people are not suisidal, and have no intention of killing themselves!. And wont, if they can find the attention they are looking for!.
Second, if the person is willing to go through with it, it is cause they are selfish!. Suiside is the most selfish thing a person can do!. They are thinking only of them selves, they dont care a bit for the pain they would cause others, they only care about themselves, These people are worthless hunks of slime, and I wouldn't give you a 5 cents for them, and neither would god!.
My advice for you is to get as far away from him as possible, break off all relationships with him, and let him go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
first and foremost,it is a cry for attention, someone saying Look at me, pay attention to me, help me!.
These people are not suisidal, and have no intention of killing themselves!. And wont, if they can find the attention they are looking for!.
Second, if the person is willing to go through with it, it is cause they are selfish!. Suiside is the most selfish thing a person can do!. They are thinking only of them selves, they dont care a bit for the pain they would cause others, they only care about themselves, These people are worthless hunks of slime, and I wouldn't give you a 5 cents for them, and neither would god!.
My advice for you is to get as far away from him as possible, break off all relationships with him, and let him go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
unfortunately you cant give him the motivation to change; he has to decide for himself; he needs to realize it himself, theres some unresolved issues he needs to face, and my husband was the same exact way; turned out he just needed to get mad one day back home in NY and talk to his dad about his parents divorce and after he realized after 20 years!.!.!. it wasnt his fault hes been a lot better, and coming from my experience has studying to become a psychologist i would strongly recommend being there for him to open up to or trying to get him into a therapy!.!.!. =/ its hard but if hes got kids he needs to do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i know what he's going through because i've been there, and nothing anyone says to you when you feel this way helps at all, none of it seems to be true, and nothing can pull you out!.!.!. the thing is, he needs to get help when he isnt suicidal because once you've got to that point the feeling is that 'nothing can be done to help'!.
but also if he doesnt want the help its not going to help him!.!.!. sometimes there is just nothing to be done, and its really unfortunate, but always be there for him!Www@Answer-Health@Com
but also if he doesnt want the help its not going to help him!.!.!. sometimes there is just nothing to be done, and its really unfortunate, but always be there for him!Www@Answer-Health@Com
It isn't your job to talk him out of it!. It's your job to love him anyway!. If he were an alcoholic I'd call alcoholics anonymous!. Some communities may have an outreach program that can help, sometimes a person who is familiar with how thrashed he feels on the inside can relate to him and give him new hope!. The voice of experience is sometimes more soothing than one of pity!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
it sounds like he really needs to see a doctor before its to late!. try to convince him into seeing a doctor!.
I hope he gets better!. =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I hope he gets better!. =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound like a really caring person, but this sort of thing needs professional help!.
My husband was suicidal approximately eighteen months ago, so I know what you are going through!.
Your BF has reached a crisis point, and being male statisics say that he will chose a violent way to die!.
It's very difficult for people with this level of depression to have motivation to try to see positives, and death appears more preferable to living!.
They become so introverted into their misery that they can't focus on the effect of their actions on other people - even those closest to them!. Depression isn't something you can just 'snap' out of!.
Contact the nearest mental health hospital and ask for advice on what to do next!. Your BF needs medication, counselling and professional support as well as your continued support to get through this!.
But above all, look after yourself or you can't look after him either!. And remember, if he does take his own life - it was HIS choice, not your fault!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My husband was suicidal approximately eighteen months ago, so I know what you are going through!.
Your BF has reached a crisis point, and being male statisics say that he will chose a violent way to die!.
It's very difficult for people with this level of depression to have motivation to try to see positives, and death appears more preferable to living!.
They become so introverted into their misery that they can't focus on the effect of their actions on other people - even those closest to them!. Depression isn't something you can just 'snap' out of!.
Contact the nearest mental health hospital and ask for advice on what to do next!. Your BF needs medication, counselling and professional support as well as your continued support to get through this!.
But above all, look after yourself or you can't look after him either!. And remember, if he does take his own life - it was HIS choice, not your fault!.Www@Answer-Health@Com