I think my counsellor lied?!
Question: I think my counsellor lied!?
They found out about my self-harming issues and told me that my parents had to be told because its law!. They can't keep something like that to themselves!. I thought at the time this was a lie, now I'm almost sure of it!. Was my counsellor right!?
Also if I tell them about my eating problems do they also have the right to tell my parents about that as well!. If not how can I tell them I know it's not law (why should they listen to me, they "know best")!. I'm fed up, its seems like I can't put my trust in anybody in case my family gets told, and I can't risk that again!. Please help, who's right!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also if I tell them about my eating problems do they also have the right to tell my parents about that as well!. If not how can I tell them I know it's not law (why should they listen to me, they "know best")!. I'm fed up, its seems like I can't put my trust in anybody in case my family gets told, and I can't risk that again!. Please help, who's right!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Minors have almost NO confidentiality rights (there is MUCH, widespread information about this fact), particularly in the field of psychiatry/counseling!. Until you are 18, your parents are the ones in charge of your medical record!. If they ask to see it - they can see it!. Although, under ideal conditions, a counselor would keep a teen clients' session content confidential, he/she has neither an ethical nor a legal mandate to do so, when it comes to informing parents!.
When it comes to "cutting", the issues become especially complex!. A therapist could EASILY be sued, should your cutting come to some serious harm!. He she could be held liable for FAILING to alert your parents!. For a counselor, in the vast majority of cases, this is a no-brainer!. You tell the parent!.
In the case of eating related issues - same story!. If this is a behavior which could put you in harms' way (or already is), your parents have a right to know!. If you're purging, every purge has the potential to kill (yes, I am serious)!. Should your disorder(s) kill you, not only would this obviously devastate your parents, it would also mean the end of your counselor's career, should your parents, in their grief, decide to press charges (it happens)!.
Although it's hard for you to see it, "keeping secrets" likely played a MAJOR role in what brought you to the point of self-harm and ED issues in the first place!. Informing your parents sheds LIGHT in a "dark" area, and can be (as much as you despise it) therapeutic in and of itself!.
Sorry to be the bearer of ill news,
~M~Www@Answer-Health@Com
When it comes to "cutting", the issues become especially complex!. A therapist could EASILY be sued, should your cutting come to some serious harm!. He she could be held liable for FAILING to alert your parents!. For a counselor, in the vast majority of cases, this is a no-brainer!. You tell the parent!.
In the case of eating related issues - same story!. If this is a behavior which could put you in harms' way (or already is), your parents have a right to know!. If you're purging, every purge has the potential to kill (yes, I am serious)!. Should your disorder(s) kill you, not only would this obviously devastate your parents, it would also mean the end of your counselor's career, should your parents, in their grief, decide to press charges (it happens)!.
Although it's hard for you to see it, "keeping secrets" likely played a MAJOR role in what brought you to the point of self-harm and ED issues in the first place!. Informing your parents sheds LIGHT in a "dark" area, and can be (as much as you despise it) therapeutic in and of itself!.
Sorry to be the bearer of ill news,
~M~Www@Answer-Health@Com
In the mental health field, the most important criteria is whether you are "a danger to yourself or others"!.!.!. self harm puts you in that category!.
The most practical advice I can give is to concentrate on getting better!.!.!. a mood/eating diary might help!. Ask your counsellor about that, as well as other cognotive behavior techniques!.
I think that you should also be assertive with your counsellor and perhaps ask for a meeting where your parents and yourself can discuss concerns!.!.!. obviously they will be feeling very worried about your self harm issue, perhaps it would help if they know you are trying to get better!.
I know it's really upsetting that they know some of your issues, but the main issue here is to get you feeling better, which you will achieve through hard work!.
All the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The most practical advice I can give is to concentrate on getting better!.!.!. a mood/eating diary might help!. Ask your counsellor about that, as well as other cognotive behavior techniques!.
I think that you should also be assertive with your counsellor and perhaps ask for a meeting where your parents and yourself can discuss concerns!.!.!. obviously they will be feeling very worried about your self harm issue, perhaps it would help if they know you are trying to get better!.
I know it's really upsetting that they know some of your issues, but the main issue here is to get you feeling better, which you will achieve through hard work!.
All the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
no she didnt lie!.!.!. mine did the same thing once!. as suckish as it is, they can tell our parents anything we tell them, if they believe we are likely to cause harm to ourselves or someone else!.
which unfortunately, includes ED and cutting!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
which unfortunately, includes ED and cutting!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've heard counselors say that if you self harm they have to tell your parents because that's the law!. I don't know about eating problems though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yeah,you should of signed something, when your first spoke to your counsellor, and it would of stated that if you are a harm to others, planning anything towards other people, or harming yourself, she then can tell the police, or someone its appropriate to!. she must be concerned about you harming yourself, i know how you feel, it feels like if you cant speak to your counsellor, who can you speak to!?
Why not ring the samaritans!? they normally advise you seek help, if you tell them you are hurting yourself, but if you make sure they are not going to tell anyone before telling them, atleast the can give you some advice on how to calm yourself down etc etc, i used to harm myself, and sometimes feel thats the only way to stop things in my head (images and thoughts/voices) but i realize its really not, sounds a bit silly, but even a dart bard or something, that you can chuck things at, or go to a gym and use a punch bag, it helps to let it out, i know, but harming yourself really aint the way, hopefully you will see that one day before it goes to far, one day it will get better, i now know that, and i regret every day for the things i was doin to myself, because if i had ever gone to far (i took overdoses of pills, alcohol, and cut myself) i wouldnt be here now, and now i have my own family, and i couldnt be happier, if anyone had of told me that a few years ago, i wouldnt believe them, that i could ever have that, but i have, and life is worth living now, good luck, please e-mail me if you ever want to talk, i wont ever tell anyone, i have been there and done that, and it think its easier to speak to someone who has been there, as we will understand more then a counsellor who hasnt (my belief sometimes), in some cases-not all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why not ring the samaritans!? they normally advise you seek help, if you tell them you are hurting yourself, but if you make sure they are not going to tell anyone before telling them, atleast the can give you some advice on how to calm yourself down etc etc, i used to harm myself, and sometimes feel thats the only way to stop things in my head (images and thoughts/voices) but i realize its really not, sounds a bit silly, but even a dart bard or something, that you can chuck things at, or go to a gym and use a punch bag, it helps to let it out, i know, but harming yourself really aint the way, hopefully you will see that one day before it goes to far, one day it will get better, i now know that, and i regret every day for the things i was doin to myself, because if i had ever gone to far (i took overdoses of pills, alcohol, and cut myself) i wouldnt be here now, and now i have my own family, and i couldnt be happier, if anyone had of told me that a few years ago, i wouldnt believe them, that i could ever have that, but i have, and life is worth living now, good luck, please e-mail me if you ever want to talk, i wont ever tell anyone, i have been there and done that, and it think its easier to speak to someone who has been there, as we will understand more then a counsellor who hasnt (my belief sometimes), in some cases-not all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Michele is right!.
I can only speak of the counselors/ therapists/ psychologists I personally work with and know!. We will do what we can to ensure confidentiality for our clients even if they are minors but there are some things that require - by law - an action by us!. That is - if you are a serious threat to harm yourself or someone else or are doing something illegal, we have a right - and duty to inform!.
But I know this doesn't really address your concerns!. As for your concerns, there are a lot of things that have to be decided on an individual basis!. Your situation is like this!. While I would like to say you could trust the counselor not to "over-ride" your confidence, I can just as easily say you can trust the counselor to identify any significant (life threatening) problems that you do not, cannot, or have not developed the ability to handle alone - which is why you have the counselor's help in the first place!.
ultimately, you need to talk directly to your counselor about this and get his or her take on this then assess what you think about their response and go from there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can only speak of the counselors/ therapists/ psychologists I personally work with and know!. We will do what we can to ensure confidentiality for our clients even if they are minors but there are some things that require - by law - an action by us!. That is - if you are a serious threat to harm yourself or someone else or are doing something illegal, we have a right - and duty to inform!.
But I know this doesn't really address your concerns!. As for your concerns, there are a lot of things that have to be decided on an individual basis!. Your situation is like this!. While I would like to say you could trust the counselor not to "over-ride" your confidence, I can just as easily say you can trust the counselor to identify any significant (life threatening) problems that you do not, cannot, or have not developed the ability to handle alone - which is why you have the counselor's help in the first place!.
ultimately, you need to talk directly to your counselor about this and get his or her take on this then assess what you think about their response and go from there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This is why I tell my counselor nothing >:[!.
Yes, I'm pretty sure they have to inform your parents if they find out you self-harm!. I don't see the point of going to a counselor if you can't even trust THEM!. Wtf!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, I'm pretty sure they have to inform your parents if they find out you self-harm!. I don't see the point of going to a counselor if you can't even trust THEM!. Wtf!.Www@Answer-Health@Com