Can't find any self-worth?!
Question: Can't find any self-worth!?
I don't have the money to see a professional and my parents [I'm under their insurance] are still convinced it's a phase [an 8 year phase] so I'm kinda stuck here and I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice!.
Here's the situation!. My parents had me very young and only married because of me!. Well, they divorced when I was young and I honestly believe that it's my fault!. I had cancer [retinoblastoma] as a child and it put a lot of stress on us financially!. I think that if I had been a healthy child, they wouldn't have split up!. But, because they did and they were so young when they did, I got caught between a lot of the arguements and my mom feel into a deep depression, so I took care of my little sister and my mom!. When I was 15, my parents got back together and I didn't have to play mom to my sister or mother and no one really needed me!. So, I started dating guys that were severely unstable and depended on me to fullest extent!. I also found friends that were "fixer-uppers" just soWww@Answer-Health@Com
Here's the situation!. My parents had me very young and only married because of me!. Well, they divorced when I was young and I honestly believe that it's my fault!. I had cancer [retinoblastoma] as a child and it put a lot of stress on us financially!. I think that if I had been a healthy child, they wouldn't have split up!. But, because they did and they were so young when they did, I got caught between a lot of the arguements and my mom feel into a deep depression, so I took care of my little sister and my mom!. When I was 15, my parents got back together and I didn't have to play mom to my sister or mother and no one really needed me!. So, I started dating guys that were severely unstable and depended on me to fullest extent!. I also found friends that were "fixer-uppers" just soWww@Answer-Health@Com
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It sounds like you are co-dependant!. I don't believe in the AA stuff but this term seems to fit you!. What you should do is get counseling!. They have cheap even free couneling for people at certain places, you'll have to look around!. A good place would be Alon-on meetings!. You don't have to believe everything they tell you, just use the resources they have to get connections to good doctors!.
You are worth more than me and many people, you help people and even after everything you've been through!. I wish I could be as helpful as you!. It sounds like you need a job where you help people!. You should become a therapist or just volunteer somewhere!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are worth more than me and many people, you help people and even after everything you've been through!. I wish I could be as helpful as you!. It sounds like you need a job where you help people!. You should become a therapist or just volunteer somewhere!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you need to have the feel of some one depending on you go to an animal shelter or an nursing home!.
Also make a list, write all the nice stuff about your self!. And no It isn't your fault for divorces either!.!.!.Feel betterWww@Answer-Health@Com
Also make a list, write all the nice stuff about your self!. And no It isn't your fault for divorces either!.!.!.Feel betterWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not sure exactly, but I am glad that it seems to have worked out with your husband!. I would look for some general books on self-esteem, etc!. Google things that you feel and you should be able to find some resources!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's not your fault!! The best person to ask for help in this situation is Jesus Christ!. Pray to him and ask him what he wants in your life!. Ask him for help with specific things! Over the long run things will improve and you'll understand what this all means!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you want a real big addition to your emotional life that will give you a sense of self worth look outside your own life and give what you have to give!.
Volunteer to help (on a steady basis) to help a family who has a wheel chaired person, a family who is dealing with living with incurable tumors, families who need help raising twins triplets etc!. There are so many people that need help you just need to get to them!. You will find someone that suits your personality perhaps someone among those altruistic volunteer people!. What better way if there to get to know someone than seeing them as they work in a selfless way - helping others!.
Just Think!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Volunteer to help (on a steady basis) to help a family who has a wheel chaired person, a family who is dealing with living with incurable tumors, families who need help raising twins triplets etc!. There are so many people that need help you just need to get to them!. You will find someone that suits your personality perhaps someone among those altruistic volunteer people!. What better way if there to get to know someone than seeing them as they work in a selfless way - helping others!.
Just Think!Www@Answer-Health@Com