Were my parents irresponsible?!
Question: Were my parents irresponsible!?
when I was younger my parents had a pretty crazy pornography collection!. Also My house was a complete mess!.!.!.!.cat crap everywhere just left to sit there for years and trash everywhere to the point where you could call it obsessive compulsive hoarding!. My step father has been drunk fro the past 20 years!.!.!.!.!.!. shouted a lot and would "go crazy"!.!.!.shouting and screaming!.!.!.!.!.and would get in my face and reapeat for me to hit him!.!.!.!.!.once i finally punched him in the stomach and he punched me in the face!.!.!.!.!. I always think!.!.!.!.well other people have had it worse!.!.!.!.!.Ive seen other peoples parents who were far worse!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.but for some reason I feel a bit slighted and feel like I could have been a better person if things were a little less crazy at home!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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It's pretty obvious that your parents could have done better, and you're right to look back with a critical eye on your childhood!. However, now that you've made this realization, you need to forgive them and be who you think you should be-- if you want to be a "better person" now, that's up to you, not your past!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you are right in that it could have been much worse!. As you said, your parents supported you financially!. I truly believe that, when all is said and done, it is you who determine what you become!. Your upbringing/parents can have an influence but the influence can be that you take after them, or decided that their way was wrong and go another!. Never give yourself the excuse to fail because you don't think you had all the advantages that everyone else had!. Be who you want to be irregardless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, your parents sound very irresponsible!. Maybe you could have been a "better person" but you should realize the things you went thru made you who you are and you are probably stronger for it!. I have some issues with my parents(who are now both deceased) but I think in general parents do the best they can, which isn;t always great!. I think the experiences we have in life prepare us for things to come and I think we go thru certain things to learn certain lessons we need to know for whatever reason!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Assuming this is true, sounds like you've had it pretty rough!. I think you can overcome a dysfunctional family if you truly have the desire & work hard at it!. You express a desire to be a better person so if you identify the kind of person you'd like to be and what it would take to achieve it, you should be able to progress in that direction!. Good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, they were irresponsible and abusive!. Abuse isn't just the hitting!. It sounds like there was mental abuse!. Also, It is considered abuse in some states to expose children to pornography!. Another form of abuse is not providing a safe clean environment!.
You can be the person you want to be!. You are in control of that!. You really need counsiling!. If you didn't need some help, I don't think you would be asking us!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can be the person you want to be!. You are in control of that!. You really need counsiling!. If you didn't need some help, I don't think you would be asking us!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, not good situation!. If you catch yourself starting to repeat it, feeling low about yourself, incapable of forming healthy intimate relationships, or just numb to life, go see a therapist!. Growing up in an alcoholic family, especially one with other issues, can seriously effect a person in ways beyond the obvious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, that is like the complete oppiside of my house the worse thing in my house was that my dad tryed to him me and my sister cause we were rolling a ball back in forth and it was making sound and over powering the tv xD so me and my sister hide under my bed, and he can't get us!. that was when i was 8 tho in 17 nowWww@Answer-Health@Com
not normal!.!.!.then again no family is!. But dont let your past hold u back!.!.!.your bad experiences have made u a stronger person!.!.i know!. My father was a drug addict!.!.we were often homeless!.!.but i dont let that stop me from being an amazing human being if I say so myself:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
OF course they were irresponsible!. You should read Augusten Burroughs Running with Scissors!. Its almost exactly like youre describing!. He turned out okay :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yeah thats definitely grounds for calling child protective services to come check out the home!. that shouldnt be the best place to raise a kid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your parents were very irresponsible! I feel bad for you!. Not to be insulting or anything!. You seem like you grew up okay though!. Sure people have it worse, but people also have it better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
omg and i thought i had a bad live not getting the doll i wanted when i was 5!. and not irresponsible just!.!.!.!.!. not a very good role modelWww@Answer-Health@Com
wow, definitely your life must have been tragic!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That is very sad!. I am glad you were able to overcome it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you don't get to choose your parents and i believe that you make your self !.!.!.!.parents help but in the end its on you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hey !.!. I'm sorry to hear your parents haven't been that responsible!.!. But you know what!?
Um!.!. Your childhood might have been real hard, and that's sad to hear because your parents could've made it so much better for you!.!. But the past is gone, and we all need to let go someday or the other!.!. The longer we hold on to the emotional baggage, the more bitter we get about it!.
And personally, now that you have reached an age wherein you can differentiate between the good and the bad, the responsible and irresponsible, it's time for you to choose which path you want to take up!.
I don't know how old you are, but assuming you are less than 30, wouldn't you wanna be a better example to the others around you!? Be it your just your friends, your partner or kids!.!. sooner or later (even if u r more than 30!) , you must realise that you are the driver of the vehicle of your life, not them, not anyone else!.!. and as long as you take the initiative to improve your situation, the solution is in your hands!. :) and the moment one points fingers at someone else saying "had this external force been so and so, it would been better!.!.!.," you are losing control over your own life and giving the key to them!!!
Hard as it is, let us move on, and mark my words, I'm sure you are on your way to become a fine young man (whatsoever the age, that doesn't matter!) !.!. Because, you've realised you have a problem, the next step is finding a solution and working your way towards it!!! So, pave your path, and good luck !.!. I'm sure life will change for the better now, things will pick up by itself once you start looking around at the other positives of your life !.!. :) :) :) so start collecting on what could be great memories for the future, let go of the past !.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Um!.!. Your childhood might have been real hard, and that's sad to hear because your parents could've made it so much better for you!.!. But the past is gone, and we all need to let go someday or the other!.!. The longer we hold on to the emotional baggage, the more bitter we get about it!.
And personally, now that you have reached an age wherein you can differentiate between the good and the bad, the responsible and irresponsible, it's time for you to choose which path you want to take up!.
I don't know how old you are, but assuming you are less than 30, wouldn't you wanna be a better example to the others around you!? Be it your just your friends, your partner or kids!.!. sooner or later (even if u r more than 30!) , you must realise that you are the driver of the vehicle of your life, not them, not anyone else!.!. and as long as you take the initiative to improve your situation, the solution is in your hands!. :) and the moment one points fingers at someone else saying "had this external force been so and so, it would been better!.!.!.," you are losing control over your own life and giving the key to them!!!
Hard as it is, let us move on, and mark my words, I'm sure you are on your way to become a fine young man (whatsoever the age, that doesn't matter!) !.!. Because, you've realised you have a problem, the next step is finding a solution and working your way towards it!!! So, pave your path, and good luck !.!. I'm sure life will change for the better now, things will pick up by itself once you start looking around at the other positives of your life !.!. :) :) :) so start collecting on what could be great memories for the future, let go of the past !.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes!. But why does it matter now!? Financially they have always supported you and you sound like a good guy so they probably didn't do too bad!.
My parent's were fantastic growing up, divorced when I was 10, my mom had to work alone because my dad left and never came back, and I had to start supporting myself in college when I was 16!. And I think about this all the time, If I had had financial help I would be finished already and probably on a graduate degree, with a house and car!. But since I had to pay for it all on my own, I am in a heap of student loans, have been in college for a while, and must sacrifice a lot of things just to get by!.
That's life!. we make the most of what we can with the life we were given!.
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It's like the saying goes "I If we all threw our dirty laundry together in the middle of a room, we would pick up our own again with out hesitation!."
It is what makes you who you are today but it's really all up to you on who you will be tomorrow!. You are luckier than you may think!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My parent's were fantastic growing up, divorced when I was 10, my mom had to work alone because my dad left and never came back, and I had to start supporting myself in college when I was 16!. And I think about this all the time, If I had had financial help I would be finished already and probably on a graduate degree, with a house and car!. But since I had to pay for it all on my own, I am in a heap of student loans, have been in college for a while, and must sacrifice a lot of things just to get by!.
That's life!. we make the most of what we can with the life we were given!.
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It's like the saying goes "I If we all threw our dirty laundry together in the middle of a room, we would pick up our own again with out hesitation!."
It is what makes you who you are today but it's really all up to you on who you will be tomorrow!. You are luckier than you may think!.Www@Answer-Health@Com