Am i antisocial? or whats wrong with me?!


Question: Am i antisocial!? or whats wrong with me!?
im 19!.been married for 2 1/2 years!.im very happy!.my husband is my best friend but once i got married i moved to another state!.i havnt made ANY friends!.ive literally not talked to anyone for the past month beside my husband!. beside texting and e-mailing 2-3 people!.i go to college but i dont talk to people!.my husband encourages me to,i try but its just small chat usually, if even that!.
when i go back to my hometown,i occasionally go out with my friends!.i usually find myself making plans with them and then never going out or returning their calls!.i HATE talking on the phone!.if a friend calls i wont pick it up simply because i dont want to have to talk to them(even my parents!)!. i stay home everyday by myself & chihuahua and watch tv,go on the internet until my husband gets home!.EVERYDAY!.
i love going shopping though!. that gets me happy!. ive tried making friends a few times within the 2 yrs but they all end up being stupid whores!.
i dont mind being alone but sometimes i get bored!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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At this age, and being married already, your maturity level and that of your peers might be vastly different!. This causes conflict and lack of interest in being around them!. You sound committed to your husband, which I applaud!. If they are screwing every guy that comes along-- you have nothing in common with them b/c they have not grown up yet!. You can't help that!. You might try looking for older friends!.!.!. not in your age group!.!.!. 25+ might be more stable to your liking!. Even if they aren't committed -- they might not be sleeping with every guy they can find!.
If your family doesn't approve of your early marriage, that could be why you don't talk to them!. Or, if they are trying to get you come home!.!.!. you might not be ready to visit them!. If they were strict with you as a child, you might need some time away from them, to figure out who you are and grow in your marriage!. I can understand this!. I've walked in these shoes!. I didn't marry early, but I married someone my family didn't like!.
19 is a rough time to begin with!.!.!. Friends are coming and going at this point, b/c you don't have the consistency of high school and seeing these people every single weekday!. You see them when you can!. They are not bound by rules, so you see them as they are truly are!. They might not be what they first appear!. Never force a friendship!. It either works for you, or it doesn't!.
This might be lonely time for you!.!.!. Learn to love yourself and work on keeping your marriage strong!.!.!. You'll get past all this nonsense and you'll be better for it!. God Bless!Www@Answer-Health@Com

You didn't mentioned if you feel "shy" talking to them or youre just reserved by nature!. If you feel anxiety or get uncomfortable talking to people then you need some awareness about this-
http://en!.wikipedia!.org/wiki/Social_phob!.!.!.

I would suggest seeing a psychologist, you might need behavioural therapy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well you might nit be antisocial yet but become later after being ages without any friends!.My advise is keep looking! Instead of going on the computer and shopping for stuff you may not need, go and scoialise! healthy and fun! Just go up to random people and staart talking about interest after you ahve settled down! Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

maybe you're just not around the people you'd like for your friends!. maybe nobody appeals to you as a friend!. that can make you sad!.!.!. 'stupid whores' - well, that says it all!.!.!. better so than being around friends you don't truly like!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

From my experience I think you may be depressed!. I moved 2 years ago and went from having tons of friends to isolating myself!. If you were antisocial you would not want to go out, you would prefer time alone and perhaps even fear going out or having social interaction!. I think you are just in a rut that is causing you to isolate yourself!. Try and force yourself to start up conversations with people and get out a little more!. The more you sit at home and drown yourself in thoughts of loneliness the worse you will feel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

hehehe i was the same way!. when i got married 4 yrs ago, i stopped meeting friends!. didn;t pick up their calls!. didn't make any new friends and a traumatic confrontation with one made me so scared of getting to know new people that i totally locked myself in!. now i feel social!. well, more than before!. but all my old friends have disappeared!. its still ok coz i've made plenty of new ones!. its a learned skill!. you have to keep socializing to be social!. if its just a phase and you are feeling antisocial at the moment just let it pass!. and concentrate on the real cause!. are you afraid you might end up making friends with "stupid whores" again!. or you don't feel confident!?!? if therez a problem behind it, just work on eliminating that!. if you're comfortable with being alone, enjoy it! you'll have plenty of time to be social once you have kids!. or just find a job so that you're atleast around people most of the time!. just remember, those people who are calling you non stop, trying to get a hold of you and being ignored by you, are not gonna be around forever!. happened to me!. when i finally needed them around, they were all gone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Try to go to different courses and lessons- cooking, dancing, fashion , typing, french, aikido!.,painting ,bridge, gardening!.!.!.!. whatever is available and whatever interests you!. You can meet people you like there!. The more you stay alone, the more you get used to it!. I understand your not wanting to talk with your parents and old friends because you broke up and what is there to say!. If you like internet, then chat with them on the internet or send messages just not to lose the relation completely!.You seem to be a little lonely and a bit depressed but it is good you are happy with your husband!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Why do you asked the question if you are okay with your life!. Unless you want to be around people there is no rule that says you have to be!. If you want to be around people you have ample opportunities to do so but you choose not to and seem to be okay with this!. The question is what do you want to do!. Once you decide this then you can move to do that!.

You could be depressed but you don't really give any of these symptoms!. If you are confused then go out and meet a few people and see if you life it!. If not then stop!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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