I think i just realized why i cut......is this possible?!?!
Question: I think i just realized why i cut!.!.!.!.!.!.is this possible!?!!?
my house is not easy to live in!. especially if you are me!. i work my @ss off and i do a lot!. i'm always helping and everyone is so hard on me!. it's good!. but it's really bad too!. between school, my bad job that i quit, and just so much!.!.!.i feel like most of my anxiety came from my house!! my mother!. i do so much!.!.!.!.!.yet no1 cares!.!.!.!.!.and i try sooooo f'n hard to please her!. my friends notice and they are like!.!.!.calm down!.!.!.you don't have to be perfect!. even the smallest things!.!.!.they stress me out!. like she might not like that tee shirt!.!.!.or she got me that!.!.!.i need to wear it!. im not saying shes my main problem!.!.!.because there is so much more!.!.!.but i was realizing it was making me sick! i feel bad because i love her !.!.!.but im so confused!.!.!.!.please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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sounds like you could be cutting to have something to control!.!.!. Which is a common reason that people cut!. Hang in there and keep talking about it!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, I have similar problems with my mother!. When your mom is like that, it is going to affect you a lot, IMO!. I love my mom, too, but I get physically ill from trying to please her!. It will definitely bring out anxiety!. You are smart to realize where your feelings are coming from and also to not blame someone else, although the person is really contributing a whole lot to the problem!. You could really benefit from medication and counseling as I have!. Good luck to you!. You can feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds as if the your mother may have some problems that are having adverse effects on you!. Is is possible to get some counseling!? I'm sure your mother loves you, but may have some issues that are making her take things out on you!. I say this because I used to be this way with my daughters and one of them did so much around the house just so I would not be angry!. I now realize that we should have had counseling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like you have a lot on your mind!. Friends can help but they can only do so much!. Try and talk to a counselor, they can give you pointers on how to better handle your problems!. They helped me deal with my problems!. You could always try a journal, some say it helps in the venting process!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
your fragmented sentences tell me that you are a multitask-er!. you need to "park" some of those ideas or thoughts that are making you frustrated, try to work on just one thing at a time!. you need decompression time for yourself!. -blureyWww@Answer-Health@Com
Poppet why do you keep posting the same
questions!
I answered this one a while back!.
If you Really need help,for the Attention you cry out for,You must see your Doctor,
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questions!
I answered this one a while back!.
If you Really need help,for the Attention you cry out for,You must see your Doctor,
who will be able to Help you Constructively!Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off realize you are the child and not the parent, so don't reverse the roles here!! So many times a person does all they can do and still not feel appreciated!. It's not you and respect yourself for doing your best!. Some times being the good guy and getting the short end of the stick turns into anger and you have no way of expressing it so you turn it inwards and it only hurts you!. Stop trying to be super man and just be a good person and that you did your best, cause if the people around you were doing their best and that's all they can put out so be it and continue onWww@Answer-Health@Com
See anxiety treatments, at ezy build (below) in section 6!. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; around three quarters of an hour, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life!.
You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I!?"!. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!.
When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.
Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself!." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, (which is not recommended for use if depression is also present) passionflower, or St!.John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect!.
(The following is a variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case)!.
Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!.
Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times: "A thousand and one; a thousand and two!.!.!. " and so on, to a thousand and twenty!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!.
I also use it prior to my chosen relaxation technique, after lights out, at night!. For more about Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, showing recommendations by those who have used it, including a professional psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience in that field, see sections 33 - 34, at ezy-build!. She was skeptical, at first, and I remained unconvinced, until trying it, and now I use it twice daily, including after lights out, at night!.
View the suggestions on what to do about self harming, in section 16, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut!. Seek therapy, to help you address the actual cause of those problems, rather than using an inappropriate method of treating the symptoms, which others have found, doesn't work, in the longer term, and that leaves behind the extra problem of scarring to deal with, then!.
Visit your school counselor!. Wear the clothes she chose when you are at home, but change for when you go out!. Tell her how you feel: if she doesn't realise something is wrong, she will just keep on as before!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I!?"!. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!.
When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.
Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself!." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, (which is not recommended for use if depression is also present) passionflower, or St!.John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect!.
(The following is a variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case)!.
Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!.
Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times: "A thousand and one; a thousand and two!.!.!. " and so on, to a thousand and twenty!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!.
I also use it prior to my chosen relaxation technique, after lights out, at night!. For more about Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, showing recommendations by those who have used it, including a professional psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience in that field, see sections 33 - 34, at ezy-build!. She was skeptical, at first, and I remained unconvinced, until trying it, and now I use it twice daily, including after lights out, at night!.
View the suggestions on what to do about self harming, in section 16, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut!. Seek therapy, to help you address the actual cause of those problems, rather than using an inappropriate method of treating the symptoms, which others have found, doesn't work, in the longer term, and that leaves behind the extra problem of scarring to deal with, then!.
Visit your school counselor!. Wear the clothes she chose when you are at home, but change for when you go out!. Tell her how you feel: if she doesn't realise something is wrong, she will just keep on as before!.Www@Answer-Health@Com