Eating disorder????!


Question: Eating disorder!?!?!?!?
Ok!.!.!.so i have struggled all my life with eating!. I am now 24!. Skinny!. However!.!.Since i can remember when anyone says "Want to go to the beach!?" "boating" etc!.!.!.All i can think of right after that is!.!.!.how am i going to get out of going!?!?!? I havent enjoyed the beach in forever!. Everything i put into my mouch i question!. Even healthy foods!. I always run thoughts of puking it up!.

Its actually really annoying me!. I want to enjoy my life!. Im going to look back in 10 years and say "what the heck i had a great body and i wasted so many great times because i wouldnt get into a swimming suit!?!?!?"

My question is!. Do you have any ideas on how to get over this!. Like maybe you have seen someone for your eating disorder!? Or you are in a similair situation!. Thank you try to keep the comments nice!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Hi!. I'm actually 29 and went through this for years!. I spent many years of my life not eating or not eating much and worrying about how fat I was!. I missed out on so much!. I always felt that "when I lost another 10 pounds" I'd be okay!.

Here's the funny thing!. Since I met my husband when I was 18 I've literally gained over 100 pounds!. Okay I'm only five foot one so it's not pretty!. I think after all the years of starving and or yo yo dieting that once I started to actually eat my metabolism was so out of wack that it didn't help!. Plus instead of eating not enough I went the other way and ate too much!.

Now I'm still in the process of trying to figure out why I have eating issues (both not eating and overeating) and honestly I really haven't got a clue yet!. I can tell you this though!. Since I've gotten a bit older and gained all this weight it finally occured to me that it's not about my weight at all!. I realized that there is no perfect weight that will make me happy!. I look back at my skinny self and simply cannot believe that I felt so bad about how I looked!. I truly hated my body as much when I was a bit over 100 pounds as I do now at 100 pounds overweight!.

A bigee for me also was that my mom died two years ago at the age of 46!. All my life I watched her starve and yoyo diet!. She spent her entire life hating her weight no matter how skinny or fat she was!. She missed out on so much!. I guarantee if she had known she'd die so young she'd never have wasted all that time on hating her weight!.

Now even though we may know this it doesn't make it any easier to stop feeling the way we do!. Every person's story is different, everyone has a different reason for their self esteem and eating issues!. I've been to therapists on and off for years!. Like I said I don't have it all figured out yet but therapy has helped!.

I really really suggest you find someone to see about this!. And please know that you may not like the first or even fifth therapist you see!. It didn't occur to me at first that I wasn't going to get anything out of it if I didn't sort of jive with the therapist!. It took awhile but I finally found someone I'm comfortable with!. This is very important if you want to get anything out of it!. After all you tell these people stuff you probably don't tell anyone, so you have to really trust them!.

I wish you the best and really hate to know that other women and girls are going through this!. I do have to say that it suprised me to hear that you actually do realize that you are skinny!. I think that's probably a good thing!. For me even when I was skinny I thought I was huge!. So I think that's a healthy sign that you at least realize your true size!.

Just please take my advice and see someone about this!. Remember it's really not about the weight!. And even though this is depressing the next time someone asks you to go to the beach and you are going to back out think of my Mom passing away!. What I mean is that could be you or me tommorrow so there's no point in missing out because you never know!. Sorry I really don't mean that to be depressing or morbid I just really want you to live your life!. You don't want to be 29 like me someday and wonder why the heck you missed out on so much!.

So go get some help and good luck to you, I really wish you the best!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think working with a therapist will help you begin to reclaim your life!. You first need to focus on yourself before you can approach the "world" and outside factors!.

You need to identify the things in your life you do not like and then think of what you can do to change them!. Of course, if the things you don't like are irrational (ex: I have a HUGE, ugly nose) then it won't help you because your mind is feeding you irrational and unrealistic thoughts!.

Make a list of the positive things about yourself!. Create a collage that represents you!. Try to find acceptance and embrace your strengths AND weaknesses!.

Body image is a very difficult thing to change, it can take some people YEARS to find a healthy relationship with food!.

Ultimately, you are using food to control other upsetting emotions in your life!. You and the food are not the problem, it tends to be the deeper, more hurtful emotions you hide from yourself!.

When you begin working on how you feel about YOU, then you can focus on outside, social relationships like going to the beach!.!.!.but it needs to start with you and working on accepting who you are on the inside!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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