I need help please. Just give me your advice or comment!?!
Question: I need help please!. Just give me your advice or comment!!?
I am going to a hotel this weekend with my 3 best friends!. I have a bad, depressing childhood and past and I talk about it too much sometimes!.
We will be swimming and I brought a 2 piece for the first time ever (Im 17 years old) but I feel fat!.
And when I feel like this, I can sometimes develop a short term eating disorder that will pass by within a few days---or a month!.
How can I not complain to my friends because this is our college going away trip together!.
I really dont want to ruin this because I tend to complain about myself alot!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
We will be swimming and I brought a 2 piece for the first time ever (Im 17 years old) but I feel fat!.
And when I feel like this, I can sometimes develop a short term eating disorder that will pass by within a few days---or a month!.
How can I not complain to my friends because this is our college going away trip together!.
I really dont want to ruin this because I tend to complain about myself alot!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
When you go on this trip, pay attention to your friends and their conversations!. Ask questions!. Be more interested in them than in yourself and you will find yourself having a good time!.
I had a bad depressing childhood too, but with therapy and learning to live outside of myself, I have been much more successful socially!.
Also!.!.!.!.!.bring the bikini and eat what you want and keep it down!. You'll be fine!. Lastly!.!.!.smile and laugh!.!.!.!.it is great medicine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had a bad depressing childhood too, but with therapy and learning to live outside of myself, I have been much more successful socially!.
Also!.!.!.!.!.bring the bikini and eat what you want and keep it down!. You'll be fine!. Lastly!.!.!.smile and laugh!.!.!.!.it is great medicine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Awareness is the first step to changing behavior we don't like about ourselves!. You've taken a huge leap forward by just being self aware!. You'd be surprised how many people are clueless about their own issues!.
Talk about movies, travel you've done, travel you'd like to do, boyfriends, hopes and dreams for the future!. You can't change the past, but you can enjoy the future!. You're lucky to have girl friends to go away with!. This is a great time of your life, why live in the past!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talk about movies, travel you've done, travel you'd like to do, boyfriends, hopes and dreams for the future!. You can't change the past, but you can enjoy the future!. You're lucky to have girl friends to go away with!. This is a great time of your life, why live in the past!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe wear something that you feel the most comfortable in!.!. You don't have to wear the 2 piece you got if it's going to make you feel bad about yourself!.!.!. Maybe write down all your insecurities the day before you go and let the paper have them for the weekend so to speak !. Make a pack with yourself to let them go for a weekend and allow yourself to have a good time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just really focus on what you are saying!. Don't complain about yourself!. Also, your friends don't care what you look like and I'm sure you're hot!. Relax and have fun!. And when you go away to college, check out your counseling offices, not advising, but actual counseling, and maybe you could work on your issues!. Counseling at college is free!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Silly silly girl!. That's what friends are for, but if you really want to not complain, then simply ignore it for a while!. If you really are a bold sista, then this should be easy!.
Remember that it is really rare for a woman to feel good about herself! Think of all the people who probably have things worse then you! Think about that girl who's liveing on the street and who is 360 lbs, who looks like a man, never had a home and who has been raped, stabbed and beaten all her life!. Feel better about your life!? If not then I'm sorry for u!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Remember that it is really rare for a woman to feel good about herself! Think of all the people who probably have things worse then you! Think about that girl who's liveing on the street and who is 360 lbs, who looks like a man, never had a home and who has been raped, stabbed and beaten all her life!. Feel better about your life!? If not then I'm sorry for u!Www@Answer-Health@Com
try hard to be happy about the way you look!. im sure ur friends understand if u do talk about ur past, thats what friends are for!. if ur in trouble or feeling bad, they could listen!. nothings better than talking about things with ur friends if u need to!. good luck girl!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I tend to think the bigger deal i make of something, the bigger deal everyone else does!.
I used to be similar!. Iused to have times where i wouldnt eat, but people notced nd i felt worse when they said "why arent you eating" and in the end its easier to try and work the prblem through!.Speak to a counsellor if you can, to try and work your problem out, if not and you think you may have problems eating, not that its a good idea to not eat, but tell your friends that you are taking a medication and cant eat too much or something, might take the anxiety off, but i think its a good idea you speak to a councellor!.
enjoy your holiday, let go of your hang ups, your girls are obviously good friendswith you and they wont care how you look, even tho im sure you are fine!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I used to be similar!. Iused to have times where i wouldnt eat, but people notced nd i felt worse when they said "why arent you eating" and in the end its easier to try and work the prblem through!.Speak to a counsellor if you can, to try and work your problem out, if not and you think you may have problems eating, not that its a good idea to not eat, but tell your friends that you are taking a medication and cant eat too much or something, might take the anxiety off, but i think its a good idea you speak to a councellor!.
enjoy your holiday, let go of your hang ups, your girls are obviously good friendswith you and they wont care how you look, even tho im sure you are fine!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think there are a lot of people out there who feel really secure wearing a 2 piece bathing suit so you are not alone in that!. You might want to take a 1 piece suit too just in case!. I know I complain a lot too!. I try to think up things to talk about ahead of time!. You could start now and write them down then hide the list in your purse!. I write down weird stuff I see on TV or the internet to talk about!. I hope you have a great time!. It is also good to ask others about themselves!. Truthfully, if your friends have asked you to go with them, they probably do not think you complain as much as you think you do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com