Advice for my "I'm in my mid-20s, what am I doing with my life" at!
Question: Advice for my "I'm in my mid-20s, what am I doing with my life" attitude!?
I'm 25, own my home, have a nice car, and have a good paying job!. Yet somedays I wake up and wonder if I'll ever look forward to anything in the future!.
I have an over-active mind (probably borderline OCD), so I keep myself busy all the time!. Now that my boyfriend moved into my place, I have twice as much to do in terms of cooking, cleaning, etc!. I work out fairly regularly, so this can't be attributed to being lethargic!.
The only stress in my life is cleaning up after the boyfriend (he doesn't put anything back where he got it), and I work in mortgage so my job isn't 100% secure at the moment!.
I think I should get a puppy because I miss having someone greet me when I come in the door (lived with the parents a few years ago and the family dog is still putzing around)!. The bf says a dog would be too much work and we don't have a big enough yard for it!.
Does anyone else have these mid-twenties, what am I doing with my life blues!? What do you do to get out of them!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have an over-active mind (probably borderline OCD), so I keep myself busy all the time!. Now that my boyfriend moved into my place, I have twice as much to do in terms of cooking, cleaning, etc!. I work out fairly regularly, so this can't be attributed to being lethargic!.
The only stress in my life is cleaning up after the boyfriend (he doesn't put anything back where he got it), and I work in mortgage so my job isn't 100% secure at the moment!.
I think I should get a puppy because I miss having someone greet me when I come in the door (lived with the parents a few years ago and the family dog is still putzing around)!. The bf says a dog would be too much work and we don't have a big enough yard for it!.
Does anyone else have these mid-twenties, what am I doing with my life blues!? What do you do to get out of them!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I am 24!.!.!.will be 25 in a few months!.!.!. I am going through this too!. It is called a quarter life crisis!. I am living with my fiance, we both work, come home, eat dinner, go to bed!.!.!.EVERY DAY! Same thing day in and day out and I find myself asking!.!.!.is this it!?!?!? Is this what I rushed to get to!? I think back about all the times I said how I couldnt wait to grow up!.!.!.and this is what being grown up is!?!?!? I have found out a way to lessen the pain though!.!.!.!.
I have figured out that since I have been living with my fiance, my life revolves around being a house wife!. Cleaning, cooking, more cleaning!.!.!.paying bills!.!.!.blah blah blah!.!.!.!.Think back to when you were about 18 or 19 and how fun life was!.!.!.why was that!? It was because our lives revolved around US and only US! There was no house, bills, dinner to cook, husbands to entertain!.!.!. we need to find something that is all our own!. A hobbie if you will!. I have started working out, I have been going to a pottery place and making my own pottery, I have been shopping al ittle bit more!.!.!. just taking more time to do what makes ME happy!.!.!. try it!. Think about what YOU like and what makles YOU happy and try to find those things again!. It helps alot! Good luck and make more time for yourself!
P!.S!. If you want a dog!.!.!.get a dog!!! It is not his house, you are not married!.!.!.!.!.he can not tell you what you can and can not have in your own house!! You pay the mortage!!! GET A DOG! If he thinks your yard isnt big enough, then take the dog for an hour long walk when you get home!.!.!.it will give you time to yourself, you can exercise, and it will be YOUR hour to do what you want and think!.!.!.clear your mind from your busy day, and come back to the house refreshed!. Get a dog and doent listen to him!. Its not his house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have figured out that since I have been living with my fiance, my life revolves around being a house wife!. Cleaning, cooking, more cleaning!.!.!.paying bills!.!.!.blah blah blah!.!.!.!.Think back to when you were about 18 or 19 and how fun life was!.!.!.why was that!? It was because our lives revolved around US and only US! There was no house, bills, dinner to cook, husbands to entertain!.!.!. we need to find something that is all our own!. A hobbie if you will!. I have started working out, I have been going to a pottery place and making my own pottery, I have been shopping al ittle bit more!.!.!. just taking more time to do what makes ME happy!.!.!. try it!. Think about what YOU like and what makles YOU happy and try to find those things again!. It helps alot! Good luck and make more time for yourself!
P!.S!. If you want a dog!.!.!.get a dog!!! It is not his house, you are not married!.!.!.!.!.he can not tell you what you can and can not have in your own house!! You pay the mortage!!! GET A DOG! If he thinks your yard isnt big enough, then take the dog for an hour long walk when you get home!.!.!.it will give you time to yourself, you can exercise, and it will be YOUR hour to do what you want and think!.!.!.clear your mind from your busy day, and come back to the house refreshed!. Get a dog and doent listen to him!. Its not his house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
get rid of the boyfriend,and get yourself a dog!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like you need a "pick-me-up"!. Take a trip in your city(since gas is so darn expensive) to a few of the "tourist attractions"!. Like go to the zoo, an historical monument and read why it is a landmark, go to an area where they are building new houses, any "green" buildings in your area!? Find out why they are green!. Go to the ball park and find out some information on that!. Whatever interests you, besides real estate!. Take some time for yourself and do something YOU want to do!.
Maybe in the process you will find a new career, decide to kick that lazy bf out and enjoy your house with a dog if you want!.
Good luck getting out of your "funk"!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe in the process you will find a new career, decide to kick that lazy bf out and enjoy your house with a dog if you want!.
Good luck getting out of your "funk"!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Reread your post!.
At 25, if your bf does not bring sparkle and zest to your life, he probably is not the right man for the rest of your life!.
At 25, if you are not ready to settle in to work forever and have a job that you can re-enter, take a year off and travel or whatever!. You'll come back at 26 which still is younger than many break into decent money and most can even begin to think seriously about owning a home!.
At 25, you are young!. You only get that once!. If you have options, go for them!. You'll have plenty of time to resume all the things that "you are supposed to do!."
I think you are wondering about what you are doing because you did all the things you were supposed to do and succeeded young!. Part of that was because you over came adversity, but also because you didn't take enough time for free adventure and play!. Those are meaningful growing experiences and the memories are priceless!. Go live a little outside of the box!. You have many years to re-enter it!.!.!. and, find the right guy while you are at it!.
I'm beyond my 20s, btw!. I have been successful working very hard and also taken a little time for adventure!. It's the time off that I will always value most, without doubt, the most by far!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
At 25, if your bf does not bring sparkle and zest to your life, he probably is not the right man for the rest of your life!.
At 25, if you are not ready to settle in to work forever and have a job that you can re-enter, take a year off and travel or whatever!. You'll come back at 26 which still is younger than many break into decent money and most can even begin to think seriously about owning a home!.
At 25, you are young!. You only get that once!. If you have options, go for them!. You'll have plenty of time to resume all the things that "you are supposed to do!."
I think you are wondering about what you are doing because you did all the things you were supposed to do and succeeded young!. Part of that was because you over came adversity, but also because you didn't take enough time for free adventure and play!. Those are meaningful growing experiences and the memories are priceless!. Go live a little outside of the box!. You have many years to re-enter it!.!.!. and, find the right guy while you are at it!.
I'm beyond my 20s, btw!. I have been successful working very hard and also taken a little time for adventure!. It's the time off that I will always value most, without doubt, the most by far!.Www@Answer-Health@Com