Do people forget?!
Question: Do people forget!?
When you have suffered from severe depression at one stage in your life, and a lot of people knew about it and knew you were acting strangely, etc!. do they forget about it now that you're back to full health!? Or will you always been remembered as the person who "had a mental illness" at one time!? The fact that I knew people were talking about me at the time, slowed my progress greatly!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I don't know anyone who ever forgot!. In fact it seems to me that they never learned anything about depression either!. They already thought they knew all about depression, and they still do!.
For a long time I didn't want to talk about it!. When I got better I talked about it a lot in a support group!. But everyone I know is still uncomfortable talking about it!. This makes it really hard for them to learn anything!.
New people that I meet might hear some gossip about me!. They would never say anything because they don't want to embarrass me!. They think they know all about it already too!.
What can you do!? The whole situation really limits your social life, as you say!. I just try to go through the day, forget about my worries about what people think as much as I can!.
The best thing you can do is smile smile smile, and remember that many people you meet will be sensitive and knowledgable about depression!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
For a long time I didn't want to talk about it!. When I got better I talked about it a lot in a support group!. But everyone I know is still uncomfortable talking about it!. This makes it really hard for them to learn anything!.
New people that I meet might hear some gossip about me!. They would never say anything because they don't want to embarrass me!. They think they know all about it already too!.
What can you do!? The whole situation really limits your social life, as you say!. I just try to go through the day, forget about my worries about what people think as much as I can!.
The best thing you can do is smile smile smile, and remember that many people you meet will be sensitive and knowledgable about depression!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sometimes depression skews perspective!. Were they talking or were they concerned!? As for remembering, yeh, ppl remember what they feel is important to remember!. The thing is, stuff happens to everyone!. Your stuff is not apt to be highest on their list!. Similarly, they are probably more worried about what others think about their stuff!. So, don't get hung up on it!. If it's a big deal to them, find other friends who value for who you are instead of identifying you as a person who once was ill!. If it's just that they remember like say that you had the measles and it was serious, then appreciate their concern and let it go!. If they think, mental illness woohoo, then find some more mature ppl to populate your life!. Whatever you do, check yourself to make sure it's not your own hyper sensitivity finding an issue where there is none!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The people who should really matter in your life are the ones who will forget, and they will not hold it against you that you suffered from depression!. The good thing about depression is it is treatable!. Those who really want relief often find it!. You sound like you're back to your old self again!. Your loved ones will likely notice that, and I think that it will take the place of any memory of the specific "strange" things you did!.
One problem I had was always trying to interpret how people think of me by what they do or say!. I went through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and it has left me happier as well as more independent!. I don't care nearly as much what people think about me now, and it might actually help you as well, if you want to pursue therapy!. Here's a link to information about it:
http://bpd!.about!.com/od/treatments/a/Int!.!.!.
DBT self help, which links you to therapists and information about DBT as well as Borderline Personality Disorder:
http://www!.dbtselfhelp!.com/
I hope that you can find a way to work through these feelings of rejection and inadequacy!. You have a lot to offer, and I think those around you could benefit from what you have learned through your experience!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
One problem I had was always trying to interpret how people think of me by what they do or say!. I went through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and it has left me happier as well as more independent!. I don't care nearly as much what people think about me now, and it might actually help you as well, if you want to pursue therapy!. Here's a link to information about it:
http://bpd!.about!.com/od/treatments/a/Int!.!.!.
DBT self help, which links you to therapists and information about DBT as well as Borderline Personality Disorder:
http://www!.dbtselfhelp!.com/
I hope that you can find a way to work through these feelings of rejection and inadequacy!. You have a lot to offer, and I think those around you could benefit from what you have learned through your experience!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Trust me most people are so concerned with their own lives to even really care about what happens to you years late!. If it's close friends and family I am sure they are just happy you are well now and I would doubt they are concerned with what was going on with you however long ago!. Also if people are sitting around talking about "the person with the mental illness" then they are losers anyway!. Anybody who has the time to do that needs a life!. Just worry about you and that your feeling better!!! Live YOUR life and don't worry about with other people think ok!!!! Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
They should treat you as you are, I have family members who have been through a lot of anxiety and depression and they are not known as the depressed crazy person, if people do think like that then they are the ones with the problemWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think it probably depends on the person!. The people who "hate" on others, will always keep it in mind!. But the people who care about you, will probably put it aside and think of it as your strength to overcome such a struggle!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
not forget, but may come to an "acceptance" of the fact!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com