I am so anxious about tonight!!?!
Question: I am so anxious about tonight!!!?
I am going out for the first time with someone to the cinema!. I suffer with panic attacks!. If I was going with someone familiar I might be alright, but I'm so nervous because this person is picking me up and won't know anything about my fears!. I'm worried about the journey in case I get scared, and what I'll talk about being in such a state!. And I have fear associated with going to the cinema because I hate the large cinema room because I don't like big spaces or when there's loud noise all around!. My belly's churning so much I'm going to make myself ill in a minute!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Firstly take a deep breath, remember everything is going to be OK and you WILL NOT die!.
I understand exactly what you are going through as I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks as well as a former agoraphobic and being only 19 I have been through quite a lot!. Below I have listed some things which help me in social situations:
If you start feeling a panic attack comming on try to distract yourself, immediatly start a conversation (I know that is the last thing you want to do) like, What are your hobbies!? etc!. Just try to look confidant and the panic attack will be over ruled!.
Panic attacks last around 15 minutes so if you do have one remember you will come through it!
You can always "escape" from the cinema, for example just say "I am just going to the loo" or "I will go and get us some more drinks" he/she will be too intent on the film to notice!.
A plus of being in a cinema is that it is dark and he!.she wont be able to see you clearly so you dont have to worry about keeping a "calm" looking face!.
Try to eat something before you go even if you are not hungry as it will help with your stomach churning!.
If you have a panic attack put your hands palm up and try to completly relax and except it, you have had them before and ALWAYS survived!
If it is a date you are going on the other person will probably be nervous as well just imagine they are good at hiding there nerves!.
Try to concentrate on the film as it is a good form of distraction and will take your mind of it!.
Sorry this has gone on for so long, if you need any help or just someone to talk to please feel free to contact me at my email amelia!.broe@hotmail!.co!.uk
Good luck and I know you can do it :D xWww@Answer-Health@Com
I understand exactly what you are going through as I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks as well as a former agoraphobic and being only 19 I have been through quite a lot!. Below I have listed some things which help me in social situations:
If you start feeling a panic attack comming on try to distract yourself, immediatly start a conversation (I know that is the last thing you want to do) like, What are your hobbies!? etc!. Just try to look confidant and the panic attack will be over ruled!.
Panic attacks last around 15 minutes so if you do have one remember you will come through it!
You can always "escape" from the cinema, for example just say "I am just going to the loo" or "I will go and get us some more drinks" he/she will be too intent on the film to notice!.
A plus of being in a cinema is that it is dark and he!.she wont be able to see you clearly so you dont have to worry about keeping a "calm" looking face!.
Try to eat something before you go even if you are not hungry as it will help with your stomach churning!.
If you have a panic attack put your hands palm up and try to completly relax and except it, you have had them before and ALWAYS survived!
If it is a date you are going on the other person will probably be nervous as well just imagine they are good at hiding there nerves!.
Try to concentrate on the film as it is a good form of distraction and will take your mind of it!.
Sorry this has gone on for so long, if you need any help or just someone to talk to please feel free to contact me at my email amelia!.broe@hotmail!.co!.uk
Good luck and I know you can do it :D xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Basically, instead of worrying about what might go wrong, think about all the good things that could happen!. Negative self - suggestion is a powerful mental barrier, and usually by simply being confident, you can go a long way!. Also a good way to relax is to take a deep breath (counting to 3 in your head) and then let the breath go (while counting to 5) By making your breath out longer than your breath in you will automatically become relaxed!. Maybe you should let the person know about your panic attacks when you first meet them, i'm sure they will be very helpful in calming you down and making the whole thing alot easier for you!.
But think positive and all should go well!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
But think positive and all should go well!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Try to calm yourself down!.!.!.!.!.I do also have a phobia of darkness and small space!. However, what do I do that I try to calm my self down and say that "I will be alright, I will be alright", and it will suddenly help me to not get panic as before!.
If you really can't help that, then I think you should tell your friend about your phobia!. If you are shy to tell that person, or maybe you can just give another ideas like "how about we do another thing, like dinner together and watch dvd in your house, "
I hope you all the best then!.!.!.!.!.^0^Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you really can't help that, then I think you should tell your friend about your phobia!. If you are shy to tell that person, or maybe you can just give another ideas like "how about we do another thing, like dinner together and watch dvd in your house, "
I hope you all the best then!.!.!.!.!.^0^Www@Answer-Health@Com
iknow it'll feel hard just now but you will be fine!. remember not to listen to your irrational thoughts and fears!. you will enoy yourself while you are out if you allow yourself to!.
Practise any relaxation techniques you have and breathing exercises before you go out to help reduce the anxiety!.
I would also consider maybe telling the person your going out with about your panic attacks, you don't need to go into too much detail if you don't want to, but it's just easier when you know you have the support of others around you!
Have a good time, your being really brave, just remember to get the POSITIVE evidence from your experience, don't focus on any negative thoughts or incidents!
Good luck and take care!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Practise any relaxation techniques you have and breathing exercises before you go out to help reduce the anxiety!.
I would also consider maybe telling the person your going out with about your panic attacks, you don't need to go into too much detail if you don't want to, but it's just easier when you know you have the support of others around you!
Have a good time, your being really brave, just remember to get the POSITIVE evidence from your experience, don't focus on any negative thoughts or incidents!
Good luck and take care!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why are you making yourself go through all of this!? It must be special date!. Take some deep breaths and try to calm down!. Think of the worst that can happen, and accept that if it does happen you can't do a lot about it!. Then think about the best thing that can happen, and focus on it!. If you really can't face it, cancel the dateWww@Answer-Health@Com
why did you agree to go to the cinema then!. why not ask them to do something else instead!. its a lovely evening, just take a walk, have a chat and see where it leads you!. then when you are more comfortable with them, you can go to the cinema another timeWww@Answer-Health@Com
Could you go to a drive-in instead!? Other than that you need to tell the person BEFORE you get there, he or she has every right to know in case you have to leave early!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If going out to a large crowded theater makes you nervous, do something else for your date!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
don`t be a nellie, pull yourself together girl, where is your british bulldog spirit!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why dnt u stay in n watch a dvd!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
OMG, I know exactly how you feel!.
Well, have you passed out yet!?
I think not!.
And it's all in the head, all those stomach pains, stabbings here, and nausea there, are all hitting you because you are too worried!.
Take a deep breath!.
Breathe through your nose just now!. And I don't mean obvious, either!. Breathe through your nose calmly, softly, and quietly!. Inhale in, and exhale, let all that air out!. Repeat for 10 times!. And don't rush!. You have all the time you need!.
Say to yourself, hey, this guy may suffer from attacks too, and maybe he is even more scared than I am!.
Don't feel guilty, don't feel scared, don't panic, because there is no reason to!. And even though you may embarrass yourself tonight, what's gonna happen!? Nothing, right!.
There is a lot of time ahead of you!.
And if he thinks your panic attack is awkward, then this person is not for you!.
Just don't think about it!.
You are too worried!.
No one is watching your nor judging you!.
They are just staring!. That's what people do!.
And for those whom make weird faces, just look away and continue doing your thing!. They are having even worst problems than you!.
You're going out at night!. No one will even notice you!.
Smile and laugh and let him know what you're going through if you feel comfortable!.
Enjoy the movie and see what happens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, have you passed out yet!?
I think not!.
And it's all in the head, all those stomach pains, stabbings here, and nausea there, are all hitting you because you are too worried!.
Take a deep breath!.
Breathe through your nose just now!. And I don't mean obvious, either!. Breathe through your nose calmly, softly, and quietly!. Inhale in, and exhale, let all that air out!. Repeat for 10 times!. And don't rush!. You have all the time you need!.
Say to yourself, hey, this guy may suffer from attacks too, and maybe he is even more scared than I am!.
Don't feel guilty, don't feel scared, don't panic, because there is no reason to!. And even though you may embarrass yourself tonight, what's gonna happen!? Nothing, right!.
There is a lot of time ahead of you!.
And if he thinks your panic attack is awkward, then this person is not for you!.
Just don't think about it!.
You are too worried!.
No one is watching your nor judging you!.
They are just staring!. That's what people do!.
And for those whom make weird faces, just look away and continue doing your thing!. They are having even worst problems than you!.
You're going out at night!. No one will even notice you!.
Smile and laugh and let him know what you're going through if you feel comfortable!.
Enjoy the movie and see what happens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com