I really want to help my friend ?!


Question: I really want to help my friend !?
My friend Jess has a really big problem!.
Shes my age (12) and she still sleeps with her mum :(
She says its because her dad used to hit her mum and it made her really insecure and her room is big and she thinks there are loads of places someone could hide :S!.!.!. Also she misses out on all the school trips which is ennoying because then I don't have anyone to go around with!.
She won't talk to a doctor or anything :S

Is there anything you can think of to make her stop !?

xx
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Answers:
I don't think there is much you can do if your friend doesn't want to stop sleeping with her Mom!. Her Mom should be the person to begin to take action helping your friend to begin to sleep in her own room!.
You could try inviting her to stay over at your house for one night!.
You could also remind her of the fun she is missing out on by not going away on the school trips!. Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you're being a bit selfish!. she's scared, becuase of her dad!. she may, and probably will go to a doctor in the future, but she's only 12, thats young!. she has a bad expierence, and if that makes her feel safer, then let her!. you're being very selfish though!. you don't want to help her, you want her all to your self!. that's not what a real friend does!. if you were her real friend, you'd help her confront her fear, and help her, the only reason you want to help her is for your self!. not cool!. if i were you, have a sleep over, invite her, and tell her your trying to help her, becuase she's scared

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As long has your friend's mom allows her to sleep with her, your friend can't be helped!. It kind of sounds like Jess's mom is just as dependent on this form of protection, and they should go see the doctor together, if they haven't already!.

If Jess's mom doesn't want Jess sleeping with her, but doesn't seem to mind she is definitely enabling the behavior by not sending a clear message that though she loves Jess, she wants her to grow up into a stable young woman!.

This is not really a problem you can solve, though it is nice of you to be concerned!. Just be her friend and let her know you are there for her both physically and emotionally!. Tell her how much you miss her when you have to go places without her and like other posters said, have sleepovers!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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