So we're in love, but is it possible to happy with a total NUTJOB in the lon!
Question: So we're in love, but is it possible to happy with a total NUTJOB in the long run!?
My boyfriend is way great, however he is schizo-effective!. He gets a disability check from the government once a month cuz he is legally insane!. I fell for him cuz he can often be funny, adorable, strong and good in bed (!) sexy and fairly "normal"!. However he has a history of rage and drug problems!. He is extremely impulsive!. Not too long ago I was woken up in the middle of the night by the sounds of hammering and sawing in the garage!. He was making these crazy, midevil torture devices, like clubs with nails sticking out of them!. (paranoid!?) He also left twice in the past week late at night with his thug friends, even tho I told him no, and both times he could've easily wound up arrested or dead!. Also, he won't take his meds unless his mom physically gives them to him in a little cup!. He wants to move in with me, but I told him I'm not taking the place of his mama! I love him to pieces, but it's tough, also with the money sitch cuz I'm the only one working right now!.
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The problem isn't that he's schizo-affective, and the people saying that it is are a bunch of ignorant pricks!.
The problem is that he won't take his meds or take care of himself!. There is the REAL issue!. Know that he can - my best friend is schizo-affective and he takes care of himself!. He's still crazy, make no mistake! But he's under control of himself and he leads a pretty happy life!.
I myself am bipolar, and I know that being in a relationship with me can be a challenge!. But it's all about how much you're willing to work!.
If he isn't willing to work, drop him!. But understand that it has nothing to do with him being mentally disordered!. There are plenty of "sane" people who are unwilling to work in relationships!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The problem is that he won't take his meds or take care of himself!. There is the REAL issue!. Know that he can - my best friend is schizo-affective and he takes care of himself!. He's still crazy, make no mistake! But he's under control of himself and he leads a pretty happy life!.
I myself am bipolar, and I know that being in a relationship with me can be a challenge!. But it's all about how much you're willing to work!.
If he isn't willing to work, drop him!. But understand that it has nothing to do with him being mentally disordered!. There are plenty of "sane" people who are unwilling to work in relationships!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If he wont take his meds, he can be dangerous for you and himself, let alone others around him!. If he has regular counseling with you involved and takes his meds, it could workout but remember that anyone with a mental illness will take alot of work, love and understanding!. Paranoid!? No you should be scared from what you described and should be told to his mom and doctor!. Before you commit to a relationship, you should consult with his therapist, doctor and mother first!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Holy crap! Really!? Please review your question!. Read it like you were a person unfamiliar with the situation!. What would you think!? What advice would you give!? He's a jobless, essentially unmedicated schizophrenic who likes to hang out with thugs and make torture devices in the garage in the middle of the night!. Wow!. Aim higher!.
I don't mean to sound callous but you may need to reevaluate what you look for in a man!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't mean to sound callous but you may need to reevaluate what you look for in a man!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Drop him!. You can find someone else who is good in bed!.
If he were taking his meds regularly, and he was actually trying to keep his disease under control, I would encourage you to continue dating but not to move in together!.
It looks like he doesn't even care and just wants his monthly check!.
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If he were taking his meds regularly, and he was actually trying to keep his disease under control, I would encourage you to continue dating but not to move in together!.
It looks like he doesn't even care and just wants his monthly check!.
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he doesn't appear to be taking responsibility for his own wellness and recovery so he's hardly likely to be responsible for running a house with you!. and in relation to the other answer, schizo'affective is a disorder, not a diseaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Making midevil torture devices!?!?!? Legally insane!? Girl, if you don't get out of this relationship you will become legally insane!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you need to stay away! It just sounds fishy in the long run! I dont think u can be happy with some one like that!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My sister married a man that had all of the symptoms of being manic depressive, even tho!. she was urged not to by the whole family!. They ended up having two kids together and they have been married for 11 years!. The sad thing about my story is, in the past 11 years they have not had a steady home, he's VERY abusive, controlling, jealous, and in the past 11 years he has had maybe two jobs both not lasting longer than a couple of months!. Im not saying that you would have the same problems, but being in this kind of relationship does cause a strain on the marriage!. He might end up being ok, however my sister said the same thing and now we have to call the cops on him about once a month!. I have even quit visiting them because the last time I saw him, he and I ended up going fist to fist becuase he was beating her infront of her kids!. With these kind of people you just never know what they are capable of!. If you want to have kids later on, then you need to think about how he would be with them and what kind of life yall would have as a family!. The heart cant help who it falls for, but you might also find that you can feel the same way again with someone else who is more on the "sane" side!. My sister wishes everyday that she never would have married him!. She is in the process of trying to leave him!. She is finding it really hard because he always finds a way to draw her back in!. What is even worst is that her kids want her to leave him too!. My nephew has really bad panic attacks because he has seen her beat with tree limbs and any other object that he could find all because he found her smoking!.!.!.she's 32!. Just becareful with whatever choice you make and remember that you cant change them no matter how hard you try, they will always be this way!. good luck and once again PLEASE becareful Www@Answer-Health@Com