Mom and Pscycologist!


Question: Mom and Pscycologist
when were there with the psychologist she is very understanding of my depression and lies about situations we have had together making it seem like i was the one yelling and she is the victim

a couple days later she is back on me blaming me for my depression and saying it's all my fault and it is not a disease

it is getting very irratating : (!.!.!.!.
how should i deal with thisWww@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Get your cell phone and record a conversation and hopefully youll catch her doing it!. Then take it to therapy with you and have your therapist listen with your mom!. Dont tell her you recorded it until you get there though as shell probably take your phone away!. This way your therapist can see that she is lying and confront her!. Hopefully youll be able to do this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Do you always have joint meetings with your therapist (you and your mother)!?
If so, I would suggest you make a written list of the issues you feel are in question, and make a point to discuss them during one of your joint sessions!. I feel that confronting your mother when you are alone may simply compound the situation and nothing would be resolved!. Then, when talking with your therapist, identify each issue, individually and try to resolve it before going on to another!. Be factual, not accusatory, stating how you feel, and allow your mom to respond!. This is important to help her to accept her responsibility without blaming (either of you)!.

It sounds as there you have some significant relational issues that may be contributing to your depression!. You did not state your age, or how long this has been going on!.

If you aren't comfortable talking in front of your mother witht the therapist, would private sessions be possible!? This would only help you get in touch with your feelings, but would not give mom an opportunity to respond!. So, in order to resolve the issues, the two of you should be able to meet on a common ground, and at this time, it sounds as tho it is in the counselors office!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

My mom did the same thing when I was younger!. Remind her of the things your psychologist says to you both whenever she does this!. Parents sometimes get frustrated and need a little help !. If she starts criticizing you remind her that your psychologist wants you two to focus on being positive or something like that!. She will see that ou are making an effort to overcome your depression and she will also be reminded of the part she needs to play in your recovery!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

1) Bring this dishonest behaviour up with your therapist present!. 2) Move out of your mother's house immediately (if you're not a minor and you can)!. 2) Have your therapist give information about what happens to kids who are "the identified problem" in their families of origin, and info as to why parents behave in this INCREDIBLY unhealthy way!. 3) NONE of us are victims!. 4) Confront your mother's lies yourself!!! And don't let her get away with anything!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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