My Friend cuts her wrists.!
Question: My Friend cuts her wrists!.
I have this best friend!. I didnt really know her until this year, but now we are best friends!. She told me she has been cutting since 7th grade (3 years) and its just an addiction sort of thing!. She gets panic attacks, and this is when she cuts herself!. This year, she had a panic attack during a school activity and got sent to the hospital, where her cutting was discovered!. Her mom told her that she wouldnt force her to go get help, so she never did!. She is trying to stop since if she gets caught again, she will get sent to a ward!. She has tried everything to stop!. Talking, stress releivers like running, rubber bands, but it hasnt helped!. She is cutting down, butn that doesnt make it any better!. My friends also know, but none of them are willing to do anything!. She doesnt want to admit to still doing it to her mother, because her mom thinks she has been clean since she got caught!. Im worried about her and this needs to stop!. Im her only support system!. She needs to get help!. Ive told her to go to our guidance counselor, but our guidance counselor calls the parents of whoever comes into their office!. What other ways can she stop, or how can i help!. (Ive sworn to secrecy!.)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You're a good friend!. Being sworn to secrecy is great for most things, but when it comes to someone with mental illness, she's going to need your help!. Perhaps tell the guidance counselor and explain that you were sworn to secrecy and want to protect your friend, but that you recognize how severe this is, so you knew it was important enough to break that trust!. People who cut themselves are suffering--often from current or past abuse, a rape, but at the very least, from ongoing mental/emotional turmoil!. There may be treatments with counseling or medications that can help some of her symptoms!. This is big burden for you to take it on yourself, so I hope that you are able to discreetly talk with a trusted adult!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
try and take her to the hospital to get help!. She may need to go on meds for a little bit to help with the anxiety!. If she seeks help by on her own then she won't be sent to the hospital!. If that doesn't work for her own well being you may have to tell her mother!. But have her go to the doctors even if it's her regular doctor for help, I don't think the doctors can discuss anything with the parents without consent of the patient!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
people cut theri wrists because they want to feel the emotional pain inside, phsically!. is she going through depression, family problem, stress, etc!.!? find out whats going on and then comfort her!. if she countinues it can become a serious problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just be a good friend and if ppl talk bout her then just stick up for her and make her feel as comfortable as possible knowing that she is perfect however!.!.!.if you are a good friend and show her love ( as a friend only ) then she might get better!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Be with her a lot or try a new sport with her ( get her preoccuppied!.About the doctor bit!.!.!.!.go with her first few visit to show support or help explain things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She needs to address the underlying reasons for her cutting!. Often cutters are victims of abuse and are only able to feel release and control by cutting!. She may not feel like she can trust her mother (I don't know what her family situation is) so it is understandable she may not want to share!. I would look up local crisis hotlines and let her call privately from your house!. They should help her locate support and treatment in a confidential manner!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ensure your emotion is controlled daily!. Don't over reacted, stay calm and don't get depress easily
Step 2: Think before your action!. Don't repeat your past experience on yourselve
Step 3: Be confident to yourselves!. Remember everyone is the winner!. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize a eggs"
Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time
Good Luck!.
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Step 2: Think before your action!. Don't repeat your past experience on yourselve
Step 3: Be confident to yourselves!. Remember everyone is the winner!. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize a eggs"
Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time
Good Luck!.
You may read more articles of mine through
Besides, If you have more psychological problem, please write to me at
http://drgeorgeleow!.blogspot!.com/
Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell her mom! Tell the Counselor! Tell anyone! this girl needs help, and she needs it fast! i dont care if you are sworn to secrecy with her!.!.!.you must tell!. your friend should be important to you and her health is important!. you want to have a healthy friend!. it could also be unhealthy for you to be around, always constantly worrying about her!. all i have to say is in order to help your friend, you must speak up!. her cutting her wrists is a very big problem!. she is obviously having emotional problems, whether it is abuse or she is stressed, or just doesnt know how to deal with her pain and emotions!. the sooner you tell someone, the sooner she will get help, and that means the sooner she will get better and you can have back your healthy friend! cutting your wrists can lead to many things, even death!. if she goes too far one time, she could lose her life, and i know that you would feel terrible knowing that you kept her secret instead of SAVING her life!!
trust me, i have dealt with the effects of suicide 2 times in my life, it is a terrible thing and you need to to EVERYTHING you can to stop it!. she may not be suicidal now, but you never know what could happen with someone that is so emotionally unstable!
Please, be smart and tell someone!Www@Answer-Health@Com
trust me, i have dealt with the effects of suicide 2 times in my life, it is a terrible thing and you need to to EVERYTHING you can to stop it!. she may not be suicidal now, but you never know what could happen with someone that is so emotionally unstable!
Please, be smart and tell someone!Www@Answer-Health@Com
i would suggest to her going to see a therapist!. she probably wont be open to the idea, because cutting is not something that is easy to open up about, but youve gotta try, becus thats the onlly way she can be prescribed prozac or lexapro!.
if shes not open AT ALL to that idea, i suggest that you and her try to get a way for a while, like on a vacation, but that may not work because whiles shes away, she will alwyas know she has to return back, and that would not be good for her!.
whatever you do, dont tell her not to cut! her cutting may be a way for her to exert control on her life, (if her panic attacks are really bad, she may feel that everything in her life will turn out bad, and that the only thing she controls is physical pain) telling her not to cut will frustrate her more, and she will feel like she has even less control!. you should, tell her, though, that youre really concerened for her and that you love her, and you dont feel comfortable with her self injury!.
sorry i couldnt be of more help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if shes not open AT ALL to that idea, i suggest that you and her try to get a way for a while, like on a vacation, but that may not work because whiles shes away, she will alwyas know she has to return back, and that would not be good for her!.
whatever you do, dont tell her not to cut! her cutting may be a way for her to exert control on her life, (if her panic attacks are really bad, she may feel that everything in her life will turn out bad, and that the only thing she controls is physical pain) telling her not to cut will frustrate her more, and she will feel like she has even less control!. you should, tell her, though, that youre really concerened for her and that you love her, and you dont feel comfortable with her self injury!.
sorry i couldnt be of more help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com