Is my mother psychotic, ptsd, or just cruel and abusive?!
Question: Is my mother psychotic, ptsd, or just cruel and abusive!?
Here are 2 emails she sent me after a very troubling fight with her!. she was acting very crazy and really upset my sister!. It was extremely intense!. Abusive behavior we have been dealing with for many years!. I think my sister and i have had enough and have decided to separate ourselves from our mother!. It's very sad because she has been in therapy for many years and on medication!. Apparently, she was abused when she was a child but became the abuser too!. she has a hard time admitting to it and blames us for her problems!. Apparently, she had never told her therapists about the abuse she inflicted on us or my father!. My father divorced her many years ago and she flipped out and beat the **** out of my father and threatened to kill us kids to get back at him!. We thought it was getting better but this last incident was one of the worse I have seen in quite some time!. She acts extremely paranoid and makes up things almost delusional!. She claims to have ptsd but does this cause a person to act so evil!? Feel free to give me some feedback!.
Well, as usual you came here to see what you could upset and how you could cause ill feelings!. I'm used to it now!. You have been this way most of your life!. You spoke with Richard supposedly to find out more about PTSD!. Actually all you wanted was to use the knowlege againt me and make me the big bad mommy!. Atempt to make me have a dissociative rage by harrassing me into an argument!. And taking the info to your father was a sure sign you aren't in my corner!. He said it was something a 9 year old would do if he wants rewards!. I think your "reward" was the thrill you get from emotional outbursts!. But what does Daddy get out of it!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? WHY would he listen to it!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Because he CARES!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? No!. It's to again brain wash all of you that Mommy caused all the problems!.I'm not supposed to talk about the past and yet that's where you and kim go!. Children who love and respect their parent don't attempt to terrorize them by telling them they are "evil, bad mothers!." Well, you yanked my chain tonight and got a lot of pay dirt I had hidden inside and God, when it came out vile or not vile, it was the truth and it felt great!. It's like my voice came back and I didn't cringe in the corner under your barrage this time!. Nor will I ever again because that need, that almost desparate need I had to be "MOM" and make no mistakes so you would find me "good" and love me!.!.!.!.!.!.well, it's dead!. The PTSD IS better, even without the loving support of family!. Well, now that I have been assured that this is indeed a sick scenerio I am ready to move on and quit mourning the loss!. I was better off without being the MOM you thought I should be!. So, crap on, **** on some other people, use intimidation on Josh, your boss if there is to be one!. Just don't ever call me whinning again about losing your aprtment and job!. I am not responsible for you screwing up!. I am done!. Grow up!. So long!.
I have sent your email back to you without reading it!. I do not wish to ever hear from you again!. If anyone is evil it is you and I want nothing of you ever again!. You both are out of the Will, Kim is legally nothing to me, she cannot act, speak or **** on behalf of me now or ever!. And if either of you even try to contact my doctors again, my finance manager or anyone else I'll have you thrown in jail!. As for your dad, he'll just have to use someone else to brainwash and use!. He was a useless piece of crap when I met him and he now has 2 adult "kids" all to himself that he didn't even want to be responsible for back then!. In fact Tom tried to get him to take care of you 20 years ago and he told Tom he was "too young" to be a father" He didn't want you or Kim!. He took you to avoid paying ME child support!. SRS has proof I was there, trying to get you out of that fun house he put you in but was told it was too late!. Yet KIM told me I ws the one not there for her!. You see how he screwed you 2 up!? He's the hero, the lieing asshole!. I asked Rich about what you said in your email about me being delusional, narcissistic, abusive and paranoid and he said ""No Edie, you are obviously the only one in your family who isn't and I refuse to see your son again!."And the narcissistic is you, Jason!. So if you don't get it I'll say it again!. YOU AND HER ARE OUT OF MY LIFE!. FOR THESE TWENTY YEARS I TRIED TO BE THE MOTHER I THOUGHT YOU NEEDED!. Well, I'm done!. I don't give a dam anymore what you think of me!. I am just glad to know I did my best but knew some day I would have to tell you both to go to hell if ever I would be at peace!. That day has come!. No more Mom!. Now YOU live with because you and Kim pushed me to the point that I can honestly say, my god, it's a relief to have them out of my life!. Oh, and if you think you can proove me incompetent based on your little trechery, let me tell you I called my friends and let them know I knew all to well in my gut you and Kim were up to something before I ever went in that house!. You've pulled this enough, for years, that I just know it will happen!. And all my doctors plus half the staff at Veridian will be glad to go to court in defense of my sanity!. I will not accept another one of your abusive words!. You are out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, as usual you came here to see what you could upset and how you could cause ill feelings!. I'm used to it now!. You have been this way most of your life!. You spoke with Richard supposedly to find out more about PTSD!. Actually all you wanted was to use the knowlege againt me and make me the big bad mommy!. Atempt to make me have a dissociative rage by harrassing me into an argument!. And taking the info to your father was a sure sign you aren't in my corner!. He said it was something a 9 year old would do if he wants rewards!. I think your "reward" was the thrill you get from emotional outbursts!. But what does Daddy get out of it!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? WHY would he listen to it!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Because he CARES!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? No!. It's to again brain wash all of you that Mommy caused all the problems!.I'm not supposed to talk about the past and yet that's where you and kim go!. Children who love and respect their parent don't attempt to terrorize them by telling them they are "evil, bad mothers!." Well, you yanked my chain tonight and got a lot of pay dirt I had hidden inside and God, when it came out vile or not vile, it was the truth and it felt great!. It's like my voice came back and I didn't cringe in the corner under your barrage this time!. Nor will I ever again because that need, that almost desparate need I had to be "MOM" and make no mistakes so you would find me "good" and love me!.!.!.!.!.!.well, it's dead!. The PTSD IS better, even without the loving support of family!. Well, now that I have been assured that this is indeed a sick scenerio I am ready to move on and quit mourning the loss!. I was better off without being the MOM you thought I should be!. So, crap on, **** on some other people, use intimidation on Josh, your boss if there is to be one!. Just don't ever call me whinning again about losing your aprtment and job!. I am not responsible for you screwing up!. I am done!. Grow up!. So long!.
I have sent your email back to you without reading it!. I do not wish to ever hear from you again!. If anyone is evil it is you and I want nothing of you ever again!. You both are out of the Will, Kim is legally nothing to me, she cannot act, speak or **** on behalf of me now or ever!. And if either of you even try to contact my doctors again, my finance manager or anyone else I'll have you thrown in jail!. As for your dad, he'll just have to use someone else to brainwash and use!. He was a useless piece of crap when I met him and he now has 2 adult "kids" all to himself that he didn't even want to be responsible for back then!. In fact Tom tried to get him to take care of you 20 years ago and he told Tom he was "too young" to be a father" He didn't want you or Kim!. He took you to avoid paying ME child support!. SRS has proof I was there, trying to get you out of that fun house he put you in but was told it was too late!. Yet KIM told me I ws the one not there for her!. You see how he screwed you 2 up!? He's the hero, the lieing asshole!. I asked Rich about what you said in your email about me being delusional, narcissistic, abusive and paranoid and he said ""No Edie, you are obviously the only one in your family who isn't and I refuse to see your son again!."And the narcissistic is you, Jason!. So if you don't get it I'll say it again!. YOU AND HER ARE OUT OF MY LIFE!. FOR THESE TWENTY YEARS I TRIED TO BE THE MOTHER I THOUGHT YOU NEEDED!. Well, I'm done!. I don't give a dam anymore what you think of me!. I am just glad to know I did my best but knew some day I would have to tell you both to go to hell if ever I would be at peace!. That day has come!. No more Mom!. Now YOU live with because you and Kim pushed me to the point that I can honestly say, my god, it's a relief to have them out of my life!. Oh, and if you think you can proove me incompetent based on your little trechery, let me tell you I called my friends and let them know I knew all to well in my gut you and Kim were up to something before I ever went in that house!. You've pulled this enough, for years, that I just know it will happen!. And all my doctors plus half the staff at Veridian will be glad to go to court in defense of my sanity!. I will not accept another one of your abusive words!. You are out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Sigh!.!.!.I know what it's like to live with people like this!. It's hell!.
Disconnecting from my dysfunctional family/abusive neglectful parents has been one of the most life saving things I have ever done!.
You only have one life!. A mother who threatens to violently take that life away has already taken too much from you!. A father who selfishly protects himself and leaves you kids behind with a mother who is this vindictive and violent is no prize either!. He's just as bad for you!.
Get away from these people who call themselves your parents and continue to educate yourselves about healthy family dynamics, and healthy communication skills!. Surround yourself with sane, loving, affectionate, respectful people and do nice things for them when you miss the "idea of family"!. Put your loving energy where it will be returned lovingly and don't look back!. Ignore negativity and respond intelligently to love and soon you and your sister will have a family of friends whose attention and affection will far surpass anything your mom is promising to give you any time soon!.
Good Luck!
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Disconnecting from my dysfunctional family/abusive neglectful parents has been one of the most life saving things I have ever done!.
You only have one life!. A mother who threatens to violently take that life away has already taken too much from you!. A father who selfishly protects himself and leaves you kids behind with a mother who is this vindictive and violent is no prize either!. He's just as bad for you!.
Get away from these people who call themselves your parents and continue to educate yourselves about healthy family dynamics, and healthy communication skills!. Surround yourself with sane, loving, affectionate, respectful people and do nice things for them when you miss the "idea of family"!. Put your loving energy where it will be returned lovingly and don't look back!. Ignore negativity and respond intelligently to love and soon you and your sister will have a family of friends whose attention and affection will far surpass anything your mom is promising to give you any time soon!.
Good Luck!
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She has anger issues!. She should talk to a professional for help, or you should to see what you can do for her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sadly, it seems it would be best if you just completely detach from your mom!. I would never talk to my children that way even if I thought they were wrong and I was right!. I think your mom has serious problems and you do NOT have to be a part of her life anymore!. I am sorry for the sadness in your life but maybe you can start now making the rest of your life happy!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry to say she sounds completely bonkers!. You and your sister should never have any further contact with her!.!.!.block her from your emails, return all letters unopened, change your phone numbers and if possible move to another location!.
My ex sounds just like your mom and she is currently doing 10 years for assaulting our daughter, so just disappear from her life and forget she ever existed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My ex sounds just like your mom and she is currently doing 10 years for assaulting our daughter, so just disappear from her life and forget she ever existed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry, it is absolutely impossible to answer this question without hearing her side of the story!. I know many people who have sent extremely insane sounding e-mails due to an emotional response to an argument!. People should stop hitting that "send" button, I guess!. Phonecalls are a much better way to communicate with family, even if it is hard to hear the person you love get upset!. I hope your family can work through all of this somehow!. We only have one life to live, and it is oh so sad when we waste so much of it on anger and resentment!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This is a sad!. It is difficult for anyone to be in a situation and not have a full understanding of what they are dealing with and why!. It is even more difficult when a child/parent relationship is added to the mix!. Of course you would expect explanation and answers from a parent, that is what we are "programmed" to want and expect!. You have to learn that you may never know or understand your mother or even have the ability to have an open, informative and more importantly calm and rational conversation with your mother!. She obviously is still dealing with issues as your are yourself!. As hard as it is to accept, you may never understand her feelings or her actions!. She of course is an adult and as far as I can tell you are now also!. With that said, you cannot have access into her personal life (finances, medical records etc) without her feeling that you have crossed a line!. The best advice I can give you is the same that I took for dealing with my own mother!.!.!.You can't control her!. You can't change her!. You can't force her to see things your way or anyone else's!. You can be there when you can for her without interweaving your life and emotions into hers on a daily basis!. An unhappy childhood does not mean you have to have an unhappy adult-hood!. Hopefully one day bridges can be mended, but it will take BOTH of you being at the SAME PLACE emotionally and mentally at the SAME TIME or it just won't work!. It takes two people to make any relationship better, so make sure that you make YOURSELF better and then maybe she will too so that you can begin a new relationship with each other!.!.!.until then put some space between you to give yourself perspective and time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
this is a pretty sad case!. it seems evident that shes kind of in denial, but abuse cases are hard to deal with!. look, if she's willing and clearly out of ur guys lives, let her!. if you guys are old enough to live without her, do so!. i know, u may feel guilty or bad about letting her be for a few weeks, but you cant live with the threat of her abuse on ur door step!. just make sure u and ur family are safe!. maybe not all the times you spent with her were bad, and thats why u might feel bad at first, but you just gotta let her be!. if shes in the right enough mind, she will realize her problems and face them on her own!. for the most part, you tried to be a mom/parent urself at a young age i suppose!. so if trying to get help for her and trying to be there for her doesn't help, you are just going to have to move on!. best of luck to you!. im sori!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is sad to say but in this case it seems
to me you are better off without her in your
life!. She may very well have ptsd but that is
no excuse to be so abusive to you and put
down your dad!. She isn't going to admit to
her mistakes and the relationship can't move
forward until she does!. She is in denial and
appears to be very, very selfish!. I would
block her e-mails and have no contact with
her or if you fear she is a danger to herself
or others contact her doctor!? She is a grown
woman though and all you can basically do is
remove yourself fromthe situation!. Sorry you
have to deal with all this, it really is awful to
see a mom write to her kid with such hatred!.
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to me you are better off without her in your
life!. She may very well have ptsd but that is
no excuse to be so abusive to you and put
down your dad!. She isn't going to admit to
her mistakes and the relationship can't move
forward until she does!. She is in denial and
appears to be very, very selfish!. I would
block her e-mails and have no contact with
her or if you fear she is a danger to herself
or others contact her doctor!? She is a grown
woman though and all you can basically do is
remove yourself fromthe situation!. Sorry you
have to deal with all this, it really is awful to
see a mom write to her kid with such hatred!.
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I'm sorry for the abuse nobody deserves it!. What about dad where is he now!? She could just be plain psychotic!. Get out while you still have the chance!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com