Need advice please on my life story??!


Question: Need advice please on my life story!?!?
i am 38 years old and have been living with my parents for most of my life seems like i have been not able to get my life straight for many years!.i feel alot of this is due to my family's manipulation and trying to control me because everytime i have listened to their advice i wind up worse then i was before i thought everybody could trust their own blood before anything else!.i even moved with my mother after my father passed away in may to a smaller city where there are hardly any jobs where compared to where i was living before their was a variety of jobs opened!.i have listened to others before listening to my own self first and i feel i am in a worse position then i was ever before!.
please dont tell me i need counseling because that line doesnt work with me anymore i need advice what to do about it and stop talking about it!.any advice or suggestions please!? thank you
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Who says one can trust one's blood!? I would disagree!. Blood is thicker than water, and that's why we fight our own with more energy than we'd ever expend on strangers!. Hell, maybe they even mean well but just don't know what's right for you!.
Move back!. You can tell your mom she can come, but I think she should have her own place!. Near you, if necessary, but you should have privacy!. And don't worry about what they say, because clearly they see things far too black-and-white!. It's not always just a choice between selfish or self-sacrificing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

My advice would be to pray about it and though you're own blood may mean well, only you know what's best for yourself!. Try to not let it all get you too stressed out as that only makes matters worse!. Sometimes you have to go on your own judgment and instincts and make the best decisions that you possibly can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to get out on your own!. Get away from your family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

First off!. You ought to get your own place and take care of yourself!. Saying you're being manipulated by someone and they are the reason you are having problems in your situation sounds like a copout to me!. I hope you are not playing the "poor me" syndrome with your family members!. Example of this is!.!.!.Poor me, all my problems are caused by others and I'm going to blame them for my woes!. boo hoo
You are 38!. And old enough to know whats best for you!. You've got to get ahold of the reigns and take control of your life!. You can do it because you seem like a rational person with maybe a little bad luck!. We all have it!. It's called ADVERSITY!. Nobody goes through life without it!. I'm sure you have a dream about how you'd like to live and picture it in your mind!. Now go and fulfill your dream and have an independant life!.
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Listen to yourself, honey!.
You have to live your life, and be happy!. We pass this way but once, so why be unhappy!? Go back to the town where you were before where you can choose an interesting job!. Get yourself a small apartment, and live your life to the full!
I am sorry, but you mother sounds selfish and manipulative from the questions you have asked in the past!. There is a saying in England, not sure if you have it over there!.
You choose your friends, you can't choose your family!.
Therapy might not be on the cards, but there is a very good book called Wanting Everything by Dorothy Rowe which I found helped me very much!.
Good luck, and I'm glad you're still Baby Doll!
Ian
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i think you should start saving up money and move out of your mother's home!. a woman of your age should be looking for a husband to start her own family with, not clinging to her parents!. now just because you won't be living with your mom anymore doesn't mean you won't see her!. visit her often and remain close to her!. now that your older your mother should be more of a best friend, and less of a source for advice!. i'm almost ceartain that living on your own will make you more dependent on yourself, and less on your family!. therefore, your life can finally move on!.!. hope i helped :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

sounds like you need to work on your self-confidence and your decision making!. You can only be manipulated if you let someone do it to you!. It doesn't get better over night; start working on making decisions for yourself and sticking to them!.!.!.wrong or not!. Stop listening to others and start listening to yourself!. You will notice a rise in self-confidence and next thing you know you'll be on your own!. People sometimes control others to control areas in their own lives!. Stop being your families pawn and become your own person!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think you practically wrote the answer!. You need to move out and move to a community where there are more jobs and you'll be happier!. You need to be away from your family because they know how to push your buttons so that you start acting like a helpless little girl!. Then, don't talk with them too often and when if start telling you what to do, thank them for the advice and say you'll think about it!. Don't argue with them and don't let them make decisions for you!. If you move away, it will take a year or two for you to get back completely on your feet, but then you'll be so much happier, have ore self-esteem, and be able to more easily tolerate your family the few times a year you have to see them!. Www@Answer-Health@Com





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