Is it normal to feel this way at times?!
Question: Is it normal to feel this way at times!?
I had a horrible past and my parents were alcoholics!. It was about 4-6 years ago (I lost count) and I now live with my other family members but I still remember the bad times and feel like crying when I hear about alcoholics and when in health class I learned about alcoholics and adult children of alcoholics!. What should I do to try to move on besides counseling!?
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I know you don't wat to hear this, but counseling does help!. Sometimes the hard part is finding one that works well with you!.
Alcoholism is a disease and an addiction and when a person or persons are afflicted with this addiction, they can't control themselves!. This isn't an excuse for them because although it is an addiction, they can receive help!. They have to have the desire to get this help, they have to see that there is a problem and want to change it for themselves!. Until they do this, nothing anybody says or does can fix this!. What may help you to know is that even though they were your parents, this problem of theirs isn't your problem!. Yes, it affected you in a painful way, but they are the cause of this, not you!. and because this isn't your problem, there really isn't anything that you can do to fix it, change it, or help them!.
You will probably always have a part of you that is going to remember the bad times of your childhood and I know that it hurts, but the most important thing is to learn from the mistakes that your parents did and never repeat them!. You have to learn to deal with what happened!. By not doing so is not only letting the past continue to control you, but you are denying your feelings that your parents made some pretty big mistakes!. No child wants to accept that their parents aren't perfect or that perhaps they chose something over their children!. I hope that the other family members are being supportive of you through this because you do need to have a good support system!.
Through every bad experience, we can learn something better about ourselves, even though at the time we are going through this, it is difficult to see what it is!.
You are the one that is in control now, of what will happen from this day forward in your life!. Talk about what had happened, vent, release those emotions!. Accept that you can't change anything that happened before today, and vow to change your future for the best by not repeating the same mistakes your parents made!. Learn from this situation!. By doing these things, the pain will slowley diminish!. Never will it go away 100% but it can get easier!.
And yes, everything you are feeling is normal!. By working through these feelings, it will be better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Alcoholism is a disease and an addiction and when a person or persons are afflicted with this addiction, they can't control themselves!. This isn't an excuse for them because although it is an addiction, they can receive help!. They have to have the desire to get this help, they have to see that there is a problem and want to change it for themselves!. Until they do this, nothing anybody says or does can fix this!. What may help you to know is that even though they were your parents, this problem of theirs isn't your problem!. Yes, it affected you in a painful way, but they are the cause of this, not you!. and because this isn't your problem, there really isn't anything that you can do to fix it, change it, or help them!.
You will probably always have a part of you that is going to remember the bad times of your childhood and I know that it hurts, but the most important thing is to learn from the mistakes that your parents did and never repeat them!. You have to learn to deal with what happened!. By not doing so is not only letting the past continue to control you, but you are denying your feelings that your parents made some pretty big mistakes!. No child wants to accept that their parents aren't perfect or that perhaps they chose something over their children!. I hope that the other family members are being supportive of you through this because you do need to have a good support system!.
Through every bad experience, we can learn something better about ourselves, even though at the time we are going through this, it is difficult to see what it is!.
You are the one that is in control now, of what will happen from this day forward in your life!. Talk about what had happened, vent, release those emotions!. Accept that you can't change anything that happened before today, and vow to change your future for the best by not repeating the same mistakes your parents made!. Learn from this situation!. By doing these things, the pain will slowley diminish!. Never will it go away 100% but it can get easier!.
And yes, everything you are feeling is normal!. By working through these feelings, it will be better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
movein on from bad experiences is hard, yes, counselling is the best option, you could also try writing things down for your self, just write about your experiences, bad memories, it will help you come to terms, it will make them feel like they are not traooed in your head any more and its kinda, out there, maybe say to one of the members of your new family 'i really need to talk to you' and tell them!.!.!. it is likely it will always be in your memorie but you can always put it behind you and think of it as 'it happend, nbut my life is good now' and even tho it was NOT your fault, this is a new chance and almost like a new you ^-^ try thinking of it like that hope that helps! good luck xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, it's perfectly normal to feel like this!. If you're really struggling, you don't necessarily have to get counselling but you should talk to someone about how you're feeling!.
Remember though, you've done nothing wrong!. It's your parents fault for acting like that, and you have nothing to be ashamed of!. Just because they ruined their lives, it does not mean you have to ruin yours by worrying and being upset!. Life's too short for that!.
Good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Remember though, you've done nothing wrong!. It's your parents fault for acting like that, and you have nothing to be ashamed of!. Just because they ruined their lives, it does not mean you have to ruin yours by worrying and being upset!. Life's too short for that!.
Good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not sure what to tell you, except that all alcoholism isn't a dead-end road!. I've made amends with family and friends, and have now been sober longer than the amount of time I spent drunk!. I just celebrated seventeen years sobriety, and the urge for a drink hasn't cropped up in years!. Today, I absolutley INSIST on enjoying life, and caring for my near and dear!. I hope you run into someone with a background like mine, in which the seemingly impossible has been done!. Life really is what you make it!. May God bless!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
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idk what u shud do to move on, but it is normal to feel like that, and i feel the same way some timesWww@Answer-Health@Com
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well if you had a bad child hood then yes it is natural to have bad feelings towards alcohol i had bad dreams all the time about being trapped underwater now i'm afraid of waterWww@Answer-Health@Com
I feel the same way!. Try seeing a different counseling,you may see new ways to move forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Give Dr!. Phil a call, aaa ,etc, yes it is normal,Www@Answer-Health@Com
How about al-anon!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
turn genetics against ittselfWww@Answer-Health@Com