Should i accept the group therapy they might offer or insist on individual psych!
Question: Should i accept the group therapy they might offer or insist on individual psychotherapy !?
because obviously i have complex issues dont i !?
heres what happened the other day at therapy assessment and circumstances for me in general :
ive been waiting months for therapy, ive had a tragic horrific life so far - im 30 now - i have borderline poersonality disorder and ptsd!.!.
my life has been one long tradgedy so far !.
earlier this morning i went for my therapy assesment where they asked me a group of questions about my life so far!.
ive been told in general that the correct therapy for bpd is dialectal behaviour therapy !.!.!.!.
however at this stage dr andrew told me its not certain whether their psychotherapy centre can help me yet!.!.!.!.!.its just an assesment!.
and that they can only offer group therapy - what the hell !?
can anyone advise what to do here, because where i live, this is the only therapy unit available!.!.!.!.
and i thought i might get dbt or individual psychotherapy!.
i really battle with my disorder and rage and feeling alienated from society and just want to move ahead with my life!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.ive already missed out a great deal in life!.!.
so what do i do, do i take their therapy if they offer it me !?
im so annoyed - plus heres my circumstances in general :
i exist alone, living in a one bedroom flat on disability benefits in england- i feel ostracised and alienated from society!.
i have no one except an aging mother whos always stood by me and done her best for me, shes 58 now and cant get up to see me like she once did!.
i have alot of aggression problems that ive improved with all by myself over the years!.!.!.!.!.i used to have rage outbursts in public that i didnt plan, but comes from years of severe bullying!.
ive basically had a horrifically hard life, missed out on forming ' any ' relationships with anyone!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. missed out on ever being employed or gaining any qualifications!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.missed out on an education!.!.
im extremely lonely, abandoned!.!.!.!.forgotten about by society!.!.!.!.!.!.i sit in my apartment every night and no one seeks me out, tells me im worth something!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.its like i dont matter to anyone in society!.
i feel people are aloof and standoffish to me like they were to me in the past , like no one wants to know me!.!.
i feel stigmatised as somebody to avoid because of my criminal mental past and rage problems!.!.!.!.
no one to phone!.!.!.!.no one to phone me!.!.!.!.!.no one to turn to!.!.!.!.a tormented, disadvantaged past!.!.
i feel angry at people with happy lives, jealous, aggressive , it represents everything ive never had!.!.
im 30 now, i own nothing!.!.!.!.live on disability!.!.!.!.!.have a dusty old pathetic computer!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.no carpets on the floor!.!.!.!.!.have borderline personality disorder and ptsd!.
wait for therapy!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.have torn ankle ligaments an injured ankle!.!.!.!.!.was told it will take a while to heal!.
ive aged prematurly in my face!.!.
have physical imperfections : 2 missing teeth - front bottom row- saving for dental treatment- cant afford anything right now!.
this happened after i headbutted a wall years ago through anger!.
cracked, broken skin , tears in the skin ' covering ' the ' head ' of my penis,
an itchy, smelly sweaty scrotum, im waiting to see a dermatologist, she doesnt know what it is or wether the cracks can be cleared yet!.
the tears and cracks dont hurt, but the skin is sensitive and looks terrible, all broken cracked skin covering my penis head!.!.plus discoloration of the head part!.
i know its nothing sexually infection because i was checked out at the clinic months ago!.!.
my little finger is crooked and droops over due to an injury years ago!.
my only goalsin life is to attain a good paying computer job!.!.!.!.to live a peaceful life near the coast!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.to leave england!.!.!.!.!.!.!.to find a loving partner!.!.!.!.to eventually live in spain or another part of europe!.
but tell me in my position, at 30, starting from zero, how will i do that !?
im despairing right now!.
its like no one cares about me and societies moved on and left me behind!.
people reject me, especially girls because i have major low self esteem!.!.!.!.!.i get clingy!.!.!.!.expect to much to soon!.!.!.!.!.!.dont no how to maintain a conversation!.
theres this rusian girl on my messenger list, ive spoke to twice!.!.!.!.!.she seems nice!.!.!.!.!.but im scared to go talk to her again incase she rejects me because of how iam!.
with all this, and in general ; what am i going to do !?
people have treated me aloofly and standoffishly for years now like their conveying the message im below them and that theyre rejecting me!.!.
like theres a STIGMA that follows me around!. and im being SOCIALLY EXCLUDED from society!.
people treat me like a sad charity case and convey i would only be accepted because society would feel soory for me!.!.
i get spoken down to, belittled, condescended!.!.!.!.prople!.!.!.!.females, shop workers , authority figures are all aloof with me!.
i have severe low self esteem which means im constantly rejected!.!.!.!.i get clingWww@Answer-Health@Com
heres what happened the other day at therapy assessment and circumstances for me in general :
ive been waiting months for therapy, ive had a tragic horrific life so far - im 30 now - i have borderline poersonality disorder and ptsd!.!.
my life has been one long tradgedy so far !.
earlier this morning i went for my therapy assesment where they asked me a group of questions about my life so far!.
ive been told in general that the correct therapy for bpd is dialectal behaviour therapy !.!.!.!.
however at this stage dr andrew told me its not certain whether their psychotherapy centre can help me yet!.!.!.!.!.its just an assesment!.
and that they can only offer group therapy - what the hell !?
can anyone advise what to do here, because where i live, this is the only therapy unit available!.!.!.!.
and i thought i might get dbt or individual psychotherapy!.
i really battle with my disorder and rage and feeling alienated from society and just want to move ahead with my life!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.ive already missed out a great deal in life!.!.
so what do i do, do i take their therapy if they offer it me !?
im so annoyed - plus heres my circumstances in general :
i exist alone, living in a one bedroom flat on disability benefits in england- i feel ostracised and alienated from society!.
i have no one except an aging mother whos always stood by me and done her best for me, shes 58 now and cant get up to see me like she once did!.
i have alot of aggression problems that ive improved with all by myself over the years!.!.!.!.!.i used to have rage outbursts in public that i didnt plan, but comes from years of severe bullying!.
ive basically had a horrifically hard life, missed out on forming ' any ' relationships with anyone!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. missed out on ever being employed or gaining any qualifications!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.missed out on an education!.!.
im extremely lonely, abandoned!.!.!.!.forgotten about by society!.!.!.!.!.!.i sit in my apartment every night and no one seeks me out, tells me im worth something!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.its like i dont matter to anyone in society!.
i feel people are aloof and standoffish to me like they were to me in the past , like no one wants to know me!.!.
i feel stigmatised as somebody to avoid because of my criminal mental past and rage problems!.!.!.!.
no one to phone!.!.!.!.no one to phone me!.!.!.!.!.no one to turn to!.!.!.!.a tormented, disadvantaged past!.!.
i feel angry at people with happy lives, jealous, aggressive , it represents everything ive never had!.!.
im 30 now, i own nothing!.!.!.!.live on disability!.!.!.!.!.have a dusty old pathetic computer!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.no carpets on the floor!.!.!.!.!.have borderline personality disorder and ptsd!.
wait for therapy!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.have torn ankle ligaments an injured ankle!.!.!.!.!.was told it will take a while to heal!.
ive aged prematurly in my face!.!.
have physical imperfections : 2 missing teeth - front bottom row- saving for dental treatment- cant afford anything right now!.
this happened after i headbutted a wall years ago through anger!.
cracked, broken skin , tears in the skin ' covering ' the ' head ' of my penis,
an itchy, smelly sweaty scrotum, im waiting to see a dermatologist, she doesnt know what it is or wether the cracks can be cleared yet!.
the tears and cracks dont hurt, but the skin is sensitive and looks terrible, all broken cracked skin covering my penis head!.!.plus discoloration of the head part!.
i know its nothing sexually infection because i was checked out at the clinic months ago!.!.
my little finger is crooked and droops over due to an injury years ago!.
my only goalsin life is to attain a good paying computer job!.!.!.!.to live a peaceful life near the coast!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.to leave england!.!.!.!.!.!.!.to find a loving partner!.!.!.!.to eventually live in spain or another part of europe!.
but tell me in my position, at 30, starting from zero, how will i do that !?
im despairing right now!.
its like no one cares about me and societies moved on and left me behind!.
people reject me, especially girls because i have major low self esteem!.!.!.!.!.i get clingy!.!.!.!.expect to much to soon!.!.!.!.!.!.dont no how to maintain a conversation!.
theres this rusian girl on my messenger list, ive spoke to twice!.!.!.!.!.she seems nice!.!.!.!.!.but im scared to go talk to her again incase she rejects me because of how iam!.
with all this, and in general ; what am i going to do !?
people have treated me aloofly and standoffishly for years now like their conveying the message im below them and that theyre rejecting me!.!.
like theres a STIGMA that follows me around!. and im being SOCIALLY EXCLUDED from society!.
people treat me like a sad charity case and convey i would only be accepted because society would feel soory for me!.!.
i get spoken down to, belittled, condescended!.!.!.!.prople!.!.!.!.females, shop workers , authority figures are all aloof with me!.
i have severe low self esteem which means im constantly rejected!.!.!.!.i get clingWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Although group therapy isn't for everyone, the vast majority of people find it very helpful, depending, of course ,on what kind of therapy is offered!.
I've worked with people diagnosed with both BPD and PTSD in groups who have benefited hugely!.
There are many sound therapeutic reasons for offering people groupwork, what have you got to lose!? Give it a go, and if after a few sessions you don't find it useful you can ask to have your treatment reviewed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've worked with people diagnosed with both BPD and PTSD in groups who have benefited hugely!.
There are many sound therapeutic reasons for offering people groupwork, what have you got to lose!? Give it a go, and if after a few sessions you don't find it useful you can ask to have your treatment reviewed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
group therapy can be powerful and really effective!. you will also meet other people in your same situation!. you need people now!. being alone is not good for you!. a group is always more powerful than one on one!. i think you would get alot more out of a group!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Several things here come to mind!.!.!.!.
1!. Well done for going to the assessment!.
2!. They want to help you but can only offer you group therapy!. Fine!. Take it!. It is better than nothing and at least they are trying to help you!.
3!. Group therapy will involve meeting other people!. And I think you need to meet other people to widen your social circle!. You said yourself that you are isolated!.
So go!. It just might help!.
After the group therapy has finsihed, if you still feel that you need some support you can ask for individual therapy then!. That will be some months away and it may be available at that stage!.
You sound very lonely so please don't turn down what they are offering you!. Thanks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. Well done for going to the assessment!.
2!. They want to help you but can only offer you group therapy!. Fine!. Take it!. It is better than nothing and at least they are trying to help you!.
3!. Group therapy will involve meeting other people!. And I think you need to meet other people to widen your social circle!. You said yourself that you are isolated!.
So go!. It just might help!.
After the group therapy has finsihed, if you still feel that you need some support you can ask for individual therapy then!. That will be some months away and it may be available at that stage!.
You sound very lonely so please don't turn down what they are offering you!. Thanks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd say go to the group therapy - what have you got to lose!?!? If it's not for you then stop going, but if you don't try it you won't know!.
When I was severely depressed and in hospital I was asked whether I wanted 1 to 1 counselling/therapy or to go to the Open Therapy ie group therapy!. I was adamant that Open Therapy wasn't for me and said that I only wanted 1 to 1 therapy!. It's worth noting that sometime before going into hospital I had had 1 to 1 Psychotherapy which was meant to be CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)!. However, we did a bit CBT but mostly delved into my childhood and upbringing!.
A while later one of the staff persuaded me to try the Open Therapy, and I attended many sessions and much preferred it to the 1 to 1 therapy I received whilst in hospital!. You feel less alone, you realise you are not the only person with problems albeit different ones, it's more interesting and you learn about other conditions etc, you can contribute thereby helping others which in itself helps you because it raises your self-esteem!. No-one else will judge you or look down on you because you are all in the same boat!. You can choose when to join in and when you don't want to them you just don't!.
You say that you have problems socialising with people, the only way this can improve is to actually socialise and doing it in group therapy is doing it in a safe environment!.
I say, give it a go because if you don't try it you won't know whether it was for you and whether you would have benefitted from it!.
Also, ask the assessor or therapist whether there are any groups specifically for low self-esteeem because a friend of mine has been referred to one by her therapist and it is helpful!. I thought my self-esteem/confidence wasn't great until about 8/9 years ago until I did a Confidence and Assertiveness Course with MIND and discovered there were people out there who had lower confidence etc than me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I was severely depressed and in hospital I was asked whether I wanted 1 to 1 counselling/therapy or to go to the Open Therapy ie group therapy!. I was adamant that Open Therapy wasn't for me and said that I only wanted 1 to 1 therapy!. It's worth noting that sometime before going into hospital I had had 1 to 1 Psychotherapy which was meant to be CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)!. However, we did a bit CBT but mostly delved into my childhood and upbringing!.
A while later one of the staff persuaded me to try the Open Therapy, and I attended many sessions and much preferred it to the 1 to 1 therapy I received whilst in hospital!. You feel less alone, you realise you are not the only person with problems albeit different ones, it's more interesting and you learn about other conditions etc, you can contribute thereby helping others which in itself helps you because it raises your self-esteem!. No-one else will judge you or look down on you because you are all in the same boat!. You can choose when to join in and when you don't want to them you just don't!.
You say that you have problems socialising with people, the only way this can improve is to actually socialise and doing it in group therapy is doing it in a safe environment!.
I say, give it a go because if you don't try it you won't know whether it was for you and whether you would have benefitted from it!.
Also, ask the assessor or therapist whether there are any groups specifically for low self-esteeem because a friend of mine has been referred to one by her therapist and it is helpful!. I thought my self-esteem/confidence wasn't great until about 8/9 years ago until I did a Confidence and Assertiveness Course with MIND and discovered there were people out there who had lower confidence etc than me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Everything about your letter says ME!.
You may benefit from meeting others and sharing experiences, find support groups and who knows you may even make some friends!.
It's not good to sit at home feeling sorry for yourself!.
Give group therapy a chance!. It may help you, at least try it!.
Don't dwell on the negatives!.
Have you been in touch with MIND!? They may have a club in your area!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may benefit from meeting others and sharing experiences, find support groups and who knows you may even make some friends!.
It's not good to sit at home feeling sorry for yourself!.
Give group therapy a chance!. It may help you, at least try it!.
Don't dwell on the negatives!.
Have you been in touch with MIND!? They may have a club in your area!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
from this question and every other question you have written, i would suggest the group therapy!. at least if you go for the group therapy you can meet people and stop saying that society is excluding you!.
sorry about the lack of sympathy, but you write the same question every day about 3 times a day!.
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sorry about the lack of sympathy, but you write the same question every day about 3 times a day!.
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i was never a believer in group therapy until i started it about 10 weeks ago!. i do also attend individual psychotherapy,but the group part made me realize that i am not the only one in the world with my issues!. there are some people far worse of than me!. my group has formed a very tight network and we help each other out!. i personally would recommend both!. best of luck to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
Group therapy is a cheap fob off!. The only person that thinks its a good idea is the heath care trusts accountant!.
One to one is best!.
Groups should not exceed three people!.
I know
I've done the group thing
It didn't work 'cause its a waste of time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
One to one is best!.
Groups should not exceed three people!.
I know
I've done the group thing
It didn't work 'cause its a waste of time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com