My friend is ruining my life!!?!
Question: My friend is ruining my life!!!?
Should I cut him out of my life!?!?!?
I have a friend (of 13 yrs!.) who is making me hate men!.
I have issues with men anyway (bad father, bad brother, bad boyfriends), but I am trying to get over them and let them go!. He has sooo many double standards when it comes to men and women!. He is charming and intelligent and very good looking!. So he gets a lot of women!. Then once he is 'done' with them he never calls or sees them again, and even further he has no respect for them!. He treats women all like cheap sluts whether they are or not!. He likes me because he was obsessed with me in high school and I have been the only girl who he says respects myself (because I don't have sex very often and only with my boyfriends and have rejected his advances)!. I believe that if a woman wants to have sex it is right and shouldn't be looked at as if she were a ****!.
I have also out grown him!. I have matured a lot in the past year and he still wants to sow his wild oats!. I have stopped talking to him; I have written letters expressing my views, but he becomes belligerent and nasty, calling my phone and texting me non-stop, using our friendship as a guilt trip!. He also had a really hard childhood and is arrested at the age of 10!.
I care for him but I can't stand him anymore!.
Should I wait for him to grow up!?
Should I give up on him like his mother and father did!? Am I being a bad friend!?
HELP ME, PLEASE!!!
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I have a friend (of 13 yrs!.) who is making me hate men!.
I have issues with men anyway (bad father, bad brother, bad boyfriends), but I am trying to get over them and let them go!. He has sooo many double standards when it comes to men and women!. He is charming and intelligent and very good looking!. So he gets a lot of women!. Then once he is 'done' with them he never calls or sees them again, and even further he has no respect for them!. He treats women all like cheap sluts whether they are or not!. He likes me because he was obsessed with me in high school and I have been the only girl who he says respects myself (because I don't have sex very often and only with my boyfriends and have rejected his advances)!. I believe that if a woman wants to have sex it is right and shouldn't be looked at as if she were a ****!.
I have also out grown him!. I have matured a lot in the past year and he still wants to sow his wild oats!. I have stopped talking to him; I have written letters expressing my views, but he becomes belligerent and nasty, calling my phone and texting me non-stop, using our friendship as a guilt trip!. He also had a really hard childhood and is arrested at the age of 10!.
I care for him but I can't stand him anymore!.
Should I wait for him to grow up!?
Should I give up on him like his mother and father did!? Am I being a bad friend!?
HELP ME, PLEASE!!!
Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Drop him!. It sounds like he's pretty immature and you staying around and putting up with his BS isn't going to make him grow up anymore!. Next time, don't write him a letter!. Just start slowly cutting off contact with him until there is no more!. Ignore texts and calls!. You'll be doing yourself a favor if you get rid of the negative people in your life so that you can focus on the positive and start healing yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com