My wife's sexual fantasy..?!


Question: My wife's sexual fantasy!.!.!?
My wife has been under a lot of work related stress lately and I believe this is affecting her emotional health!. A few days ago, she revealed to me, a fantasy of hers!. She wants me to "deflower" her as a virgin and teach her about sex!. This is my 42 yr old wife of 5 yrs!. She insists that she's always had this fantasy, but I doubt that, since we've always been very open about our sex life and she has never told me about this!. She often regresses sexually and acts like she's a teenage girl and I find this a turn-off and not to mention disturbing, she's becoming extremely submissive in bed, and I'm not used to this, as I'm quite submissive myself and like being dominated!. Could the stress be causing this or like she says, has it always been there and I've never seen it!? Www@Answer-Health@Com


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If she is regressing, I think it's more than just stress!. It sounds like what I've learned about and experienced from having been molested!. My personal feeling is that she has a repressed memory of being raped or molested as a child/young teen!.
She probably has no conscious idea that this has happened yet, as it can be unbelievably painful to realize and much easier to forget!.
I recommend you get her into counseling (with a certified professional who is experienced in adult molestation victims, not just a pastor or friend)!.
Tell her that you're concerned about her and why!. And when/if you do play these games, verbally remind her before and after that
1!. You love her
2!. This is just a game
3!. You would never do anything to hurt her in real life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

s and m 101 she has no control in her life and needs to be submissive right now to regain the control psychologically, It's a normal reaction and if you allow it and work through her problems it will probably only be temporary your submissive and being greedy you are submissive because you want to control everything a relationship is give and take so put your own desires to the side for the short term, and help herWww@Answer-Health@Com

Was she raped or molested!? That seems like the most likely cause is having lost her virginity in bad situation!. I'm the same way!. Have had sex but still feel clueless about it, never learned about it in a way that I should have!. And am extremely submissive!. Cant enjoy sex at all unless a guy can take control!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

probably always been there

except for the underage bit I say go for it

In 5 - 10 yrs there will be menopause and these will be the good old days becasue libido will be gooooooone
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Can you not trust her and believe that its been a fantasy of hers!? She might have issues about getting a little older!. If you say that you're quite submissive, then maybe you're threatened by that!.
Your question!. It may have always been there and you haven't seen it!. All you have to do is be gentle and considerate with her if she wants to "regress" to being a teenager!. Be the LOVER that she never had when she was a teenager!.
Take her at her word!. Maybe she just wants to be reassured that you want her!. It may be a midlife crisis, Do whatever you can to help!.
Could it be a power struggle here(i!.e!. you are submissive) and she beat you to the submissive punch!?
Maybe you could work something out with her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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