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Hi,

It sounds like you do have a lot of issues going on!.

I can relate to some!. I was an abused child mentally and physically!. The part that made it even worse is that it was by my father who was a Psychiatrist!.

I have gone to therapy most of my life!. It has helped me very much!.

Cognitive therapy is something to look into!. It was/is very helpful!. I had a lot of rage issues too because of my upbringing!.

I remember thinking just like you that the whole world was out to get me!. I thought everyone was giving me funny looks or where talking about me etc!.
The truth of the matter is that it was my insecurities and general low self esteem that I imagined most of it!. Granted there are those people that do stare at one for whatever reasons, but they do it to everyone!.

Another thing is when you do have low self esteem or whatever label one uses you project it to others!. So maybe people feel your anger or maybe you act a bit insecure when out in public that makes people pay attention!.

If you are living in a small town it could be that people remember things from the past, but that's just it, it is in the past and you have to remind yourself of that!.

I also think it's a cultural thing!. I lived in Germany for many years and found that people were always quick to look down their nose at one!. They seemed to have a I'm better than you attitude!. When I moved back to the USA that didn't happen as much!.
So maybe folks are just more judgmental in the UK also!. The thing for you to do is not to worry about others and what they think, say etc!.
You need to think about yourself and all the positive goals you are setting for yourself!.

Don't dwell so much on the negative things that have happened in your past and start thinking about how positive you can make your life!.

You sound like a very smart person and you can go as far in life as you want!. Just don't let the past weigh you down!. Start loving yourself and stop bullying yourself!. I beat myself up too for a longtime until one day I was thinking about committing suicide!. Then it dawned on me that I never did anything wrong or to deserve the way I was treated as a child!.
It was not my problem but the people that inflicted the abuse!.

I also got tired of giving my abuser the power of destroying the rest of my life!.

You can buy workbooks on Cognitive therapy in the meantime or look it up on the web until you do get some therapy!. Inform yourself on how to improve your self esteem and how to deal with your anger!.

Take back control and make a better life for yourself by doing your very best!.

Don't act out on your feelings/anger!. It will only make those people feel like they are right ( if they really are judging you )about you!.

I would also go to the dermatologist!. Sounds like it could be taken care of!.

You're a good person!. Follow through with your plans and focus on the positive future that you can lead!.

Take good care of yourself!. I wish you all the best!.
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I'd see a doctor, a psychiatrist or psychologist for your brain a least!. Go to a general practitioner for recommendations, and maybe for your skin issues too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I think some medication may help you tremendously!. I would talk to whoever is available to you in the medical field about at least trying a medication and give it some time to work!. I certainly do hope things work out for you!. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through!. Good luck!.


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