What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?!
Question: What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents!?
I know quite a few adults in their late 20's or early 30's who start to see their parents as humans rather than a role model/authority figure!. Many realize that their parents psychologically and emotionally abused them and are still doing it!.
Maybe your parents discouraged your aspirations and now you live with low self-esteem, an unsatisfying career; your actions based on fear and self-doubt!. If this has happened to you, please describe what made you decide "enough!' and what gave you the strength to take your power back!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe your parents discouraged your aspirations and now you live with low self-esteem, an unsatisfying career; your actions based on fear and self-doubt!. If this has happened to you, please describe what made you decide "enough!' and what gave you the strength to take your power back!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I think you hit the nail on the head yourself!.
One day you realize they are a person,, another human being!. Not just a role model/ authority figure!.
I eventually "grew" up,, for some that takes longer then others with thoes parents lording over you!. But they are just people not Gods & they dont "own" me!. I begin to learn alot about my parents own childhood & abuses & after being so mad at them for so long I pitied them "both"!. One for the abuse the other for allowing it!. And that was enough for me,, that was the end of the abuse loop snipped clean & dead!.
My son knows his grandparents & I am civil to them!. He will never be allowed to be unsupervised with them & any advise they give me on raising kids is kicked out with the trash!. I have no self-doubt when I look at my son's eyes & smile, when I hear him laugh & giggle!. I have all the strength in the world & I will give it to him to be a strong young healthy boy to live his life the way he would choose!. I used to dream of having a Mommy that would!. Now I am his!. That is my strength!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
One day you realize they are a person,, another human being!. Not just a role model/ authority figure!.
I eventually "grew" up,, for some that takes longer then others with thoes parents lording over you!. But they are just people not Gods & they dont "own" me!. I begin to learn alot about my parents own childhood & abuses & after being so mad at them for so long I pitied them "both"!. One for the abuse the other for allowing it!. And that was enough for me,, that was the end of the abuse loop snipped clean & dead!.
My son knows his grandparents & I am civil to them!. He will never be allowed to be unsupervised with them & any advise they give me on raising kids is kicked out with the trash!. I have no self-doubt when I look at my son's eyes & smile, when I hear him laugh & giggle!. I have all the strength in the world & I will give it to him to be a strong young healthy boy to live his life the way he would choose!. I used to dream of having a Mommy that would!. Now I am his!. That is my strength!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I Started "getting the power back" when I was 15 I am 23 now and we get along great!. My strength came from a desire to get out of my parents house!. My mom was kind of a control freak and it drove me crazy!. I had all the time in the world ( because she grounded me all the time) to think about stuff!. I finally started using logical psychological games against my parents to get what I wanted out of them!. It worked!. Www@Answer-Health@Com