I'm afraid to make eye-contact... Help?!
Question: I'm afraid to make eye-contact!.!.!. Help!?
I am literally afraid of making eye contact with people unless I know them very well AND trust them with my secrets!. Even people I've known for a long time or some family members I can't make eye contact with!. I attempt sometimes but then it just ends up being a moment of locked eyes then me quickly looking away, which must appear weird to others!. My friends said this might give guys the wrong impression too, like I'm afraid of eye contact with them because I like them or something!. But that is not the case, I'm just generally afraid of meeting eyes with others!.
I think it has something to do with me thinking eyes are like the gateway to the soul and mind!. It's probably similar to my slight (very slight) fear of there being mind readers out there!. (Yes, I know that is an odd fear!.!.!.) I don't know, but it's starting to get on my nerves!. I don't want people to think I'm anti-social, or that I like them when I don't, or that I don't like them at all! There are many different impressions this problem can give!. Please help me if you can!!! Thanks!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think it has something to do with me thinking eyes are like the gateway to the soul and mind!. It's probably similar to my slight (very slight) fear of there being mind readers out there!. (Yes, I know that is an odd fear!.!.!.) I don't know, but it's starting to get on my nerves!. I don't want people to think I'm anti-social, or that I like them when I don't, or that I don't like them at all! There are many different impressions this problem can give!. Please help me if you can!!! Thanks!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Avoiding eye contact is a common way for someone to reduce stress!. Sometimes the visual cues from someone's face can be overwhelming!. In the animal kingdom avoiding eye contact is a sign of submissiveness!. It's no different with humans!.
You're right there are many ways this avoidance can be interpreted!. Working on your self-esteem and confidence would help very much with this!.
Speaking of mind reading; could it be that you've trained yourself or been trained to assume that people won't like you, and you try to fade into the background by avoiding their gaze!?
It can also be a sign of one's emotional state!. I do the same thing when I'm feeling depressed!. It is fixable if you're willing to work on it!.
Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're right there are many ways this avoidance can be interpreted!. Working on your self-esteem and confidence would help very much with this!.
Speaking of mind reading; could it be that you've trained yourself or been trained to assume that people won't like you, and you try to fade into the background by avoiding their gaze!?
It can also be a sign of one's emotional state!. I do the same thing when I'm feeling depressed!. It is fixable if you're willing to work on it!.
Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi,
I had a same problem, someone suggested that i should lock at peoples faces there cheeks, eyebrows, there lips, there hair and not to concentrate on their eyes!. At first i was nerves but it worked slowly i improved my confidence!. Now after four Mont's practice i am ok!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had a same problem, someone suggested that i should lock at peoples faces there cheeks, eyebrows, there lips, there hair and not to concentrate on their eyes!. At first i was nerves but it worked slowly i improved my confidence!. Now after four Mont's practice i am ok!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't know if I'll be any help but I know what you mean!. I was once in a very long, abusive relationship that began when I was 14!. By the time I had enough courage to end it once and for all, I was just like you!.
With lots of struggle, determination and will power I got over it because it really bothered me!.
Nowadays, I look people straight in the eye!. They are usually the ones to look away first!.
I agree with you about eyes being the window to the soul!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
With lots of struggle, determination and will power I got over it because it really bothered me!.
Nowadays, I look people straight in the eye!. They are usually the ones to look away first!.
I agree with you about eyes being the window to the soul!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do you think maybe this could have something to do with your self esteem!? I mean, like maybe you lack confidence!. Do you feel like sometimes when people look at you, they maybe judging you or something!? I think you should really talk to someone about this, Maybe a therapist or a counselor!. I will say this, nobody knows really knows you but you!. Making eye contact says alot about you!. That you are confident, you take pride in yourself!. It also helps you remember faces!. No eye contact says alot about you also!. It makes people think you have something tho hide!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have the exact same problem with eye contact, and when i was younger the same paranoia with mind-reading stuff!.!.!. but if anyone was a mind reader you'd know it!. They'd be rich and/or famous probably or spreading your juicy secrets everywhere w/o anyone telling them that, a mind-reader would be powerful and everyone would know it!.
What i do, is whether people like it or not is i do not look at them!. I talk to them without looking at them, not appearing shy or anything, and when it get comfortable enough i look at them more and more until, with my friends i stare at them just for the fun of it!. Sometimes i even have problems looking at teachers! honestly, if you don't look at someone there is no fear, because you are only being comfortable with yourself!. but just so long as you can talk to people, that's what's important!.
anyway, GOOD LUCK! =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
What i do, is whether people like it or not is i do not look at them!. I talk to them without looking at them, not appearing shy or anything, and when it get comfortable enough i look at them more and more until, with my friends i stare at them just for the fun of it!. Sometimes i even have problems looking at teachers! honestly, if you don't look at someone there is no fear, because you are only being comfortable with yourself!. but just so long as you can talk to people, that's what's important!.
anyway, GOOD LUCK! =]Www@Answer-Health@Com