I don't know what to think or do about this?!
Question: I don't know what to think or do about this!?
We met randomly about 14 months ago, fell hard for each other!. He then wanted space as his life fell apart!. I gave him space, then he was back!. We kept things pretty light, spent weekends together, just dated basically although we were loyal to each other!. I went away from a month this year overseas and we had no contact in that time!. When I came back things were better than ever!. I'm normally at his place more often than I'm at mine!. His life really fell apart this year, with being evicted, losing his dog, job, falling out with his family, suffering from depression/suicidal thoughts - I helped him through everything, I helped him move, I put food in his fridge when he had no money!. He told my sister he loves me but hadn't told me because he "doesn't know how" - he still hasn't told me!. We get along great and are there for each other so why all of a sudden doesn't he care!? He's always saying I deserve better and he doesn't know why I stick around because he can't give me what I need, yet I never ask for anything!. He says I'm probably the best thing that's ever happened to him but that he's confused!. I said he doesn't need to be, we're just there for each other and he needs to stop putting pressure on himself (can't expect him to know which way is up when he's hit rock bottom)!. I don't really know where I stand!. We had a fight yesterday and I said "So that's it!?" and he said "Yeah I guess so"!. When I spoke to him later on the phone he said "If we could be friends, that would be great" I said "Well what were we before!?" and he said "F**king friends"!.!.!.ouch!. What do I do!? I don't understand why he's being like this!.
I feel it was more than sex (apart from the fact he's been really depressed and not often up for it) because he's always there for me!. He gets worried if I ever have to go to the doctor and comes with me to make sure I'm okay!. He's there for me through everything, and I'm there for him! I'm at a total loss!. Why is he being like this!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I feel it was more than sex (apart from the fact he's been really depressed and not often up for it) because he's always there for me!. He gets worried if I ever have to go to the doctor and comes with me to make sure I'm okay!. He's there for me through everything, and I'm there for him! I'm at a total loss!. Why is he being like this!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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well it sounds like he's being selfish, but he's also in need!. ditch him for a while, and believe me if you told the truth about his situation, he'll realize how much he really needed you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Not sure why he is being like that but what I think is more important is to ask yourself are you willing for things to stay like they are (you putting more into this relationship than him, the back and forth stuff, etc)!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
You don't need this crap!. There are plenty of guys who would cherish a relationship with you and even more than that appreciate you!. Just ditch him and find the guy who deserves you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com