How can I improve my self confidence?!

Question: How can I improve my self confidence!?

I'm a student in my second year in a university; we are studying our entire subject in English as a second language!.
first of all , I feel like I can't use English as well as I should that why I turn myself in a silent mood all of the time and what really broke me is the girls who are in my class!. They were in a high schools that taught there subject in English that why they are speaking English fluently :(

Another thing is that there are some girls in my class who hate me because of a shallow reasons that I've got a higher mark that them in our previous year!.

Also there is a girl who lies about everything in her life!. She always talks as she is a princesses and she has a lot of valuable things like gold and brands stuffs, while her family's level of living is low!. I guess she do that because her friends are more wealthy that her!. She always hates me and starts a conversation with my just to hurt me while I ignore her and avoid any thing make me talk to her!. Last time said that I
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Don't get depressed over not being able to speak the language as good as others!. Think of how many people there are that can only speak one language!. You are way ahead of them!. And if they don't like you because you got a higher mark than them, well that is jealousy and you aren't going to change their shallow thinking!. You're better off not being friends with them anyway!. You don't want to end up being like that!. When these girls grow up they'll be hit with a dose of reality and realize their pettiness doesn't do them any good in the real world!. Where you will already be a step ahead of them for not falling into that childish behavior!. Sounds like these girls are acting like they are 12 years old, not university level!. Forget about them, why would you want to be friends with people like that!? Sounds to me like you are better than them!. Stay that way, don't fall into their narrow ways of thinking!. It may hard, but in the end you'll be better off!. REAL people will like you a lot better than they would like immature girls like those others!. You sound like you have a good heart!. Hold your head high, stop thinking of hurting them, because then you will be just as low as them!. You're better than that!. Tell yourself that, and realize it!. And realize there is no reason to hate yourself!. You should instead love yourself for rising above that pettiness!. You will find friends that are above that kind of thinking, and will like you for the sweet girl that you seem to be!. If I knew all of you, I assure you that those girls would be ignored by me, and I would be concentrating my attention on someone like you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Practice extra hard so you will speak it better, you write in english better than half the people on here and that's their first language!. If people are teasing you or being mean to you it's only b/c they are insecure themselves, so just try your best to ignore them!. You wont be in this school forever, you can get through it!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would talk to a school counselor if you can!. In the past I have talked to many psychologists and psychiatrists, and found that it does help to talk to someone about your problems!.

Plus they will often give you exercises such as keeping a journal, writing affirmations, etc!. A lot of the things they ask you to do will probably sound like it wont help, but trust me it usually does!.

Some of these "skill" handouts were fairly helpful for me with raising my self-esteem!. ( http://www!.dbtselfhelp!.com/html/dbt_skil!.!.!. )

Also, write one affirmation a day!.

Examples of affirmations:
I am beautiful!.
I am happy being myself
Etc, but as you go on try to be as specific as you can about what you feel you struggle with in your daily life!. Be sure to read them aloud(or silently to yourself if you prefer) frequently!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

For your english problem!.You need a private instructor with whom you can practice your english one on one until you become confident that you are good enough speaking it!.There is much less anxiety speaking with one person in a foreign language then a large group of people!.Small steps until you conquer your fear of not being good enough!.Facing your fear is the only way of conquering it!.

Many teens struggle with self esteem issues!.Those who feel inadequate in certain parts of their lives can abuse others psychologically and/or physically to hide their own inadequacy out of fear of being rejected!.To diver attention from themselves!.

I went through similar experiences in school!.I was also abused by my classmates because they feared my adequacies will expose their inadequacies!.I was very disciplined in class and some of them hated me for that because they had no discipline!.

I survived!.What does not kill you makes you stronger and i am much stronger because of these class experiences then i were before them!.They made me become more then i am so i can avoid being abused again!.Today i have power and respect!.

There is not much one can do in these situations!.Wherever you go there will always be the ones who feel inadequate or insecure!.Physical confrontation will only get you expelled and hurt physically!.Reporting your abusers to the teacher can only increase their hate toward you because their inadequacies will be exposed!.

Tell your parents to talk to the parents of your abusers!.Only their parents can control them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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