How can I stop dwelling and feeling guilty about EVERYTHING?!
Question: How can I stop dwelling and feeling guilty about EVERYTHING!?
So I seem to have a very guilty conscience!. I have a weird thought and obviously it turns into something else and then I feel guilty about it and dwell on it for days at a time!. Last night my husband got mad at me and took the cords out of the laptop I was on and threw them but since the cords were already stretched they had nowhere to go except my face, he didn't mean to do it and I know he didn't he was just mad, but I was telling my mom about it and she wasn't very happy about it and now I feel guilty that I said something to her because I know he didn't mean to do it!. I've also had random thoughts which I'm sure everyone gets!.!. I'm pregnant and I always think what if I ever hurt someone I love like physically!? Not that I could or would but it goes through my mind because I'm scared I'm a bad wife, or going to be a bad mom (I'm 24 weeks pregnant!.!.) Could this just be the hormones!? I also have an anxiety disorder!.!. What could be making me feel so guilty all of a sudden!? Normally I could just brush the thoughts off and never think about it again!. Whats going on!?! HELP!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Sounds to me like you're practicing feeling guilty and getting really good at it!. Whatever we practice we tend to become good at!. So in terms of being good at stuff - congratulations!
The good news is that you can get just as good at being confident and relaxed by practicing that instead!. It'll be awkward at first, but your brain is an amazing learning machine and it'll soon catch on til you're doing calm and relaxed without even thinking about it!. The biggest trick is - every time you find yourself feeling guilty, distract yourself that second with something, anything, even counting or singing a song - I promise, it works by breaking the cycle!. It's OK to do this because your guilt is excessive and unfounded, so it's OK to let it go!.
Is someone helping you to feel guilty!? Is someone encouraging it!? If they are, then this is their problem and don't let them put it on to you!.
Hope this helps
Lee-Anne
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The good news is that you can get just as good at being confident and relaxed by practicing that instead!. It'll be awkward at first, but your brain is an amazing learning machine and it'll soon catch on til you're doing calm and relaxed without even thinking about it!. The biggest trick is - every time you find yourself feeling guilty, distract yourself that second with something, anything, even counting or singing a song - I promise, it works by breaking the cycle!. It's OK to do this because your guilt is excessive and unfounded, so it's OK to let it go!.
Is someone helping you to feel guilty!? Is someone encouraging it!? If they are, then this is their problem and don't let them put it on to you!.
Hope this helps
Lee-Anne
www!.MentalHealthMadeEasy!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com
Why not try doing something different with your spare time that you would normally spend on the computer!. Read a good book on how to take care of a newborn!. Fix up a crib or room the baby will be in!. You know like stenciling the wall or painting (well ventilated room) one wall in a pastel color!. Do things that will focus your energy on helping your marriage and getting ready for your baby!. It will help you and your husband to start bonding with your baby before it's ever born!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's the hormones! Be good to yourself and not so hard on yourself!. You've got much to look forward to but much work too with a new baby!. All new parents worry about whether they will be good or bad parents!.
Honestly, I think all women ruminate! I mean roll things over and over in their head to try and resolve them or figure them out!. I'm glad you have your mom to confide and air your thoughts with - that is so important with anxious feelings and thoughts!. Talking can help relieve your emotions too!. I can relate to the guilty feelings!. I feel that way myself at times in my own relationship - like do I bring on disapproval myself!. But that is about self-esteem!. And I need to work on that!. I hope that your husband apologized to you and that you can talk to him when he's in a good mood and ready to talk!. I wish you strength!. If you really feel you are in danger from your anxiety or other thoughts, talk to your family doctor/obgyn - he/she may be able to refer you, give you advice, prescribe something to get you through, or just let you know that you are normal and to hang in there!. Talking to a professional might give you further comfort!. I talk to my mom a lot but sometimes she gets so upset if I am hurt that it can be counter productive (she makes me even more anxious because she's too sympathetic)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly, I think all women ruminate! I mean roll things over and over in their head to try and resolve them or figure them out!. I'm glad you have your mom to confide and air your thoughts with - that is so important with anxious feelings and thoughts!. Talking can help relieve your emotions too!. I can relate to the guilty feelings!. I feel that way myself at times in my own relationship - like do I bring on disapproval myself!. But that is about self-esteem!. And I need to work on that!. I hope that your husband apologized to you and that you can talk to him when he's in a good mood and ready to talk!. I wish you strength!. If you really feel you are in danger from your anxiety or other thoughts, talk to your family doctor/obgyn - he/she may be able to refer you, give you advice, prescribe something to get you through, or just let you know that you are normal and to hang in there!. Talking to a professional might give you further comfort!. I talk to my mom a lot but sometimes she gets so upset if I am hurt that it can be counter productive (she makes me even more anxious because she's too sympathetic)Www@Answer-Health@Com