How do I deal with my manic depressive friend.?!
Question: How do I deal with my manic depressive friend!.!?
She leans on me and only me, and it is becoming so hard and frustrating!. She has no insurance and cannot afford thereapy, she wont talk to anyone else about her problems!. Makes me come over in the middle of the night to talk and save her from herself!. Sleep over and calm her down from her paic attacks throughout the night, help her put away all her knives so she doesn't cut, and most of all when she's around our friends she pretends to be fine but she's constantly texting me about what is wrong!.
I feel like her depression is taking over my life too!. She has no insurance and can't afford therapy, so I pay the $150 for her to go every couple weeks!. I paid for her medication, I pay for almost everything and her mom helps her with rent and stuff!. She isn't in school right now because she can't focus, she can't find a job so she isn't working right now!. And she refuses to talk to her mom about everything because she says it wont help, and her mom can't afford to get her treatment!. She doesn't want to worry her when she knows she can't pay for anything!. And she wotn lean on anyone else, but she seems to be fine with me putting her before myself every moment of every day!.
I am at a loss and I try so hard to be there all the time but it is taking over my life and it's hard to take care of myself when I'm streched so thin trying to care for her!. And on top of that she thinks I am selfish every time I take a step away for a few hours to take care of myself!. i have a lot to worry about to and I can't keep making her life my own, but at the saem time she really needs something constant and caring and good in her life so I am there!.
If anyone has any suggestions, stories, advice, or!.!.!.words of comfort!.!.!.I'd much appreciate it because i feel like i am falling apart these days!. I just need to know someone out there understands or knows what i can do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I feel like her depression is taking over my life too!. She has no insurance and can't afford therapy, so I pay the $150 for her to go every couple weeks!. I paid for her medication, I pay for almost everything and her mom helps her with rent and stuff!. She isn't in school right now because she can't focus, she can't find a job so she isn't working right now!. And she refuses to talk to her mom about everything because she says it wont help, and her mom can't afford to get her treatment!. She doesn't want to worry her when she knows she can't pay for anything!. And she wotn lean on anyone else, but she seems to be fine with me putting her before myself every moment of every day!.
I am at a loss and I try so hard to be there all the time but it is taking over my life and it's hard to take care of myself when I'm streched so thin trying to care for her!. And on top of that she thinks I am selfish every time I take a step away for a few hours to take care of myself!. i have a lot to worry about to and I can't keep making her life my own, but at the saem time she really needs something constant and caring and good in her life so I am there!.
If anyone has any suggestions, stories, advice, or!.!.!.words of comfort!.!.!.I'd much appreciate it because i feel like i am falling apart these days!. I just need to know someone out there understands or knows what i can do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Sounds like she knows just what to say to you to get you to rescue her!. And it sounds as though you are falling short on setting boundaries for her!.
Wish there were some words of comfort for you!. There aren't!. Only some hard truths that jump off the page when I read your story!.
Your friend is manipulating you, and you are allowing it!. Your giving in to her demands at the cost of your own needs is enabling her to continue some truly destructive behaviors!. There are resources out there for folks with mental illnesses who are uninsured and unable to pay for treatment!.
In the meantime, she invests a good deal of her own energy into manipulating you (and maybe her mother!?) into being responsible for her!.
I have no doubt she needs treatment!. She also needs to learn the skills necessary to manage and support her own life!. I won't discount depression as a diagnosis!.!.!.I don't know her!. I will offer that maybe she has an additional diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)!. Depression and BPD are both treatable!.
You need to work on some skills yourself!. Like making your own needs your priority, setting limits on what you can provide for your friend in terms of time and money!. For you to continue to allow her as much power over your life as you have outlined is to engage in a very destructive behavior yourself!. And while your heart is in the right place (you want your friend to survive), you are enabling your friend's destructive behavior to continue!.
It would be good for you to research the mental health services available in your area!. Locate the suicide hotline, post it by the phone at your friend's home!. When she is talking self-harm and/or suicide!.!.!.refer her to that number!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wish there were some words of comfort for you!. There aren't!. Only some hard truths that jump off the page when I read your story!.
Your friend is manipulating you, and you are allowing it!. Your giving in to her demands at the cost of your own needs is enabling her to continue some truly destructive behaviors!. There are resources out there for folks with mental illnesses who are uninsured and unable to pay for treatment!.
In the meantime, she invests a good deal of her own energy into manipulating you (and maybe her mother!?) into being responsible for her!.
I have no doubt she needs treatment!. She also needs to learn the skills necessary to manage and support her own life!. I won't discount depression as a diagnosis!.!.!.I don't know her!. I will offer that maybe she has an additional diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)!. Depression and BPD are both treatable!.
You need to work on some skills yourself!. Like making your own needs your priority, setting limits on what you can provide for your friend in terms of time and money!. For you to continue to allow her as much power over your life as you have outlined is to engage in a very destructive behavior yourself!. And while your heart is in the right place (you want your friend to survive), you are enabling your friend's destructive behavior to continue!.
It would be good for you to research the mental health services available in your area!. Locate the suicide hotline, post it by the phone at your friend's home!. When she is talking self-harm and/or suicide!.!.!.refer her to that number!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
help them find a higher power i'm bi-polar and spirituality is a great boost for my depressive!. Also finding an outlet like reading, games, movies, drawing, ect!. that really helps to but it has to be something that you can get a sense of accomplishment out of!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get her to use the public hospital system!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Marry her, be special to her, she needs you!.
i wish someone needed me that much!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i wish someone needed me that much!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
u need to speak up and tell her it's takin a toll on u!~Www@Answer-Health@Com
She diffinetly needs more help!. Local Health Departments have a system for helping people like your friend!. My mom was in financial rut and she went to the Health Dept and it was $10 to see doc and $1-$5 for her meds!. Most people in this state of neediness can also be suicidal so be careful on approaching this subject with your friend!. I would make a deal with your friend that you are happy to help but you need some time to gather your self each day!. There are anonymous help lines that your friend can call to have someone to talk to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know what you're going through!. My best friend is manic depressive with DID and PTSD!. Luckily, she qualifies for medicare so she gets therapy but she isn't being treated for her DID because medicare does not pay for that!. If it is too much for you, you need to tell her that she needs to seek help!. It sounds as though she qualifies for SSI and I would pressure her to get that to pay for her rent, therapy and pills!. My best friend moved in with me so whenever I went to the bathroom, she would put her hands in the door so I could see what she was doing at all times!. That did not stop her from swallowing a bottle of pills while I was doing my homework once though!.!.!.
Do all you can for her but remember that you have to draw lines!. She should understand that you have to put yourself first!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do all you can for her but remember that you have to draw lines!. She should understand that you have to put yourself first!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com