My dad always talks very negatively..?!


Question: My dad always talks very negatively!.!.!?
and often uses phrase, and expressions describing things, that give me the creeps, it's like he chooses the most denigrating, or scarring terms, to describe situations, and people!. I try to joke with him about it, (to lighten it up, a bit, for me) but he just thinks that I'm making fun of him!. What can I do!? This doesn't seem to have a solution!. Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
How you see the world depends on what you choose to focus on!. Some of us only see the rain while others search for the rainbow!. It really is a choice and it becomes a habit after a while!. Try to share the rainbows with your dad and don't get caught in the rain with him!. There really isn't anything else you can do if he doesn't think there's a problem!.

I'm going through the same thing with my mom!. She always sees the worst in a situation and loves the words "terrible" and "awful"!. I've come to realize that she's intellectually bored and builds these great dramas put some excitement in her life!. She doesn't see it and calls me a "tree-hugger" but I'm too busy watching butterflies and smelling flowers to be dragged down!.

And you need to focus on the good qualities your dad has or his "bad" ones will be all you see someday!. Even he has a rainbow or 2 within him!. Be well!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I agree that your father will do unto others what has been done unto him!. It will be hard to change him although you can let him know that his words can build up or tear down in ways he may be unaware but you may need to add that they have hurt you whether directed at you or someone else!.

I would urge you to speak with a counselor on your own and if possible
ask your father to come in even if to 'give his opinion' on life at home as a way to engage him in a joint session or more with you!. Maybe the counselor can tap into his past and resulting unmet emotional needs as a child or abuse and encourage him to have a place to be heard and perhaps learn ways not to injure others with his words as he apparently is with you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

OH MY GOSH!

same with my dad!. like my mom says something and he's like!. Ummm!.!.!.!. I think you mean that your work was tough, not hard because if it was hard you aren't good at your job!.!.!. and my mom starts to cry in another room!.

I know they still love each other but he's constantly putting my mom down with with bad, degrading, and sometimes a little bit chilling terms!. He does it to everybody, and when he isn't doing that!. He usually tells me what I'm doing wrong in my life!.

I love him, but he's kind of!.!.!.i don't know

Try to explain to him what you feel, it didn't work with me, but you can give it a shot:)

Best Wishes,
BellaWww@Answer-Health@Com

Try to understand that your dad loves you and cares about you, and this might be the only way he knows to show it!. Most of us parent by the example we were given by our parents!.!.!.!.and it is hard to break the cycle!.

But I like your idea of using humor!.!.!.!.but the other method might be to ask for suggested solutions or actions (ask "what do you want me to do!?") instead of just criticisms!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

same with my dad! wow!. hah,
well- what i do when he does that i slam my door and lock it, but you might not want to!? hah

just tell him to use different words, let him know that it bugs you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

try talking to him about it, he may be depressed and need some counseling or medicationWww@Answer-Health@Com

Tell him to SHUT THE F**K UP! And then wack him in the head!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

kill him simple as thatWww@Answer-Health@Com





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