Constantly feeling low and guilty (serious answers only please)?!
Question: Constantly feeling low and guilty (serious answers only please)!?
It's taken alot for me to come out and say this, so I wouldnt appreciate some troll on here leaving me a stupid answer!. I am always feeling low and guilty!. I have depression and am on anti depressants!. The depression has rocketed since I moved house with my Mum into the village and my Dad up and left (he and Mum are practically separated) and we sold our old house!. Everyone says my feelings are normal, as I lived there for 15 years and am not used to new surroundings, but my family have in one way or another, myself included, all lied to one another in the process or manipulated things; my Mum hid the fact the house was getting sold from me to start with and lied that nothing was happening, my Dad is behaving very suspiciously, since taking on a new female "tenant"!. He hasnt bothered to help my Mum out with finances and is being very cagey about this new "woman"!. My sister, who is working as a vet down in Kent took on a dog last year and now wants to go to Australia for a year and says that she would "do anything or blackmail our Dad to taking on her dog for that time"!. I am also to blame, and am doing things that arent necessarily illegal, but would hurt everyone around me if I told them!. I do these things for coping!. I hate hurting people, which is why I hide these things!. My Grandad is very ill in hospital, so I put on a brave face everyday for my families sake!. The only time I show anger now is to the tenants that are renting our old house out!. I do not like them at all, they left us expensive flowers weeks ago, and go about in their posh gear and car, as though to look down on us!. I tell my GP about the things I do, including my anger towards these people!. He explained it is good for me to have insight as to why I do these things, but since I have a dream to become a GP myself one day, is worried I may fall into a trap of self destruction again!. I hate lying to people, but I feel as though my family to some extent have done the same to me!. I am currently doing Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, but this takes time, and I dont expect a miracle instantly!. Not sure where to go from here, does anyone know how to help in some way!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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The fact that your grandparent is ill, your parents are separated, your father is living with someone else, you have moved house and you are living with your mother have contributed to your current feelings of being overwhelmed at the moment!.
However you are seeing a doctor, getting therapy and taking on CBT which is great stuff!. Well done you and keep up the good work!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
However you are seeing a doctor, getting therapy and taking on CBT which is great stuff!. Well done you and keep up the good work!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Check your IM for a chat - will help if possibleWww@Answer-Health@Com
You poor thing!. It sounds like your going through a lot of stuff!. Change is hard and dealing with your parents splitting up is also hard!. When I was younger and my parents split up my mom lied to me and said that we where going on vacation to my aunt's house!. She told me later that they where getting a divorce!. You lying back is a coping mechanism and it's normal!. Feeling angry is normal!. I would be more worried if you felt nothing!. Admitting things is hard but a very important first step!. The therapy will help!. What also may help you is to get a journal or a notebook and when your angry write down what you feel!. It sometimes helps to get it out even if its on paper!. Good Luck and hang in there!Www@Answer-Health@Com
you will have to change your self for your self!. if you sustain your self and you will have the stamina to help others!. prayer will help you much and if you can meditate that will solve most of your problems!.please try and experience!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hi , i'm sure u must be feeling a lot depressed and i'm sorry for it!.!.!.but wat u currently need is sum relaxation of mind !.!.!.!. cuz no one leads a perfect life but though it seems so !.!.!.!. i have a friend of mine who has complex and thinks that every one ignores her but still you have to live in this world for sake of it!.!.!.!.!.!. underand the situation and for sure life's not easy unless and untill u want it to be !.!.!.!.!. think that ur life is far more better than others (u must have been reading the newpaper) !.!.!.!.!.!. and i'm sry that i'm unable to give you a proper suggestion cuz i'm not expert in this though just want to say that lead life as it comesWww@Answer-Health@Com
well done, i think yr so brave to open up to yr feelings!. i think that writing down what yr going thru was a really big step in the right direction!. i can appreciate yr frustration at the length of time therapy seems to take to get anywhere also!. (feelings are now, not in a few weeks!) yr anger at tenants is letting out yr feelings!. as long as you don't act on this anger, it's ok to feel like it!. it sounds like a lot of the untruths yr family have told you were a misguided attempt to protect you!. sorry not much help!. hope everything works out ok for you though!. Www@Answer-Health@Com