Question for all those with EDs out there?!
Question: Question for all those with EDs out there!?
I need advice!
OK this is my 4th attempt of recovery from anorexia and bulimia!. (had it on-off for nearly 12 years now!.) Its been 10 months in my last attempt of recovery now which in my experience is still early days- and feels like it!. I still feel on the verge of relapse all the time but have geneally been doing ok!.
But tonight something really shook me up- and I am normally pretty resiliant to many things (the medias pictures of kiera knightly for example I can just about take)
Ok so I work out!. Alot!. All at my gym where I do classes and use the gym itself!. I like my classes, it gives me a chance to cut los and forget who I am, just focus on the movements!.
I normally see about 3 other anorexic looking people whenever I go to the gym!. I tend to ignore them, they ignore me!. I have my ipod, I am ok!. Just about!.
But tonight was another story- I had noticed one of them appearing more and more, in the past month alone she has gone from being in maybe one of my classes every other week to nearly all of them, Shes always in my face!. I try to rise above it!. Just like with the others!. Just like with the medias pictures of Kiera Knightly et al and just like with the models on catwalks!.
But this evening, she decided to compete with me!. Racing me and cutting me up on the warm up fr example, standing directly in my eyeline!. Copying the moves I had altered for myself!.
I gave in!. I caved!. I ended up rising to the bait and competeing with her!. I was SO ANGRY! For me the gym is a place where I gather my mind!. It helps massively with my mood, (depression and anxiety) and although I do go quite a bit, I have managed to maintain a healthy BMI of about 22!. I am not doing too badly!. But still want to loose weight desperatly so I am still in a fragile position!. I am holding my ground, but this girl is sevearly rocking the boat!.
I want to apporach her but I can see her saying "I don't know what you mean" whilst knowing EXACTLY what I mean but just trying to make me look paranoid!.
I am not paranoid!. I have lived with the other anorexic looking girls in the gym for over 5 years now!. Its only in the last month that she's been in my face!.
Has anyone got any advice!? she is in nearly all of my classes now!. I don't see why I should change the classes I enjoy just to avoid her!. I do try to avoid her but she does things like try to compete with me, its so hard not to want to thrash her!. I HATE her!
Anyone got any advice!? I don't want to get sick again, but I don't want her to think she has beaten me!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
OK this is my 4th attempt of recovery from anorexia and bulimia!. (had it on-off for nearly 12 years now!.) Its been 10 months in my last attempt of recovery now which in my experience is still early days- and feels like it!. I still feel on the verge of relapse all the time but have geneally been doing ok!.
But tonight something really shook me up- and I am normally pretty resiliant to many things (the medias pictures of kiera knightly for example I can just about take)
Ok so I work out!. Alot!. All at my gym where I do classes and use the gym itself!. I like my classes, it gives me a chance to cut los and forget who I am, just focus on the movements!.
I normally see about 3 other anorexic looking people whenever I go to the gym!. I tend to ignore them, they ignore me!. I have my ipod, I am ok!. Just about!.
But tonight was another story- I had noticed one of them appearing more and more, in the past month alone she has gone from being in maybe one of my classes every other week to nearly all of them, Shes always in my face!. I try to rise above it!. Just like with the others!. Just like with the medias pictures of Kiera Knightly et al and just like with the models on catwalks!.
But this evening, she decided to compete with me!. Racing me and cutting me up on the warm up fr example, standing directly in my eyeline!. Copying the moves I had altered for myself!.
I gave in!. I caved!. I ended up rising to the bait and competeing with her!. I was SO ANGRY! For me the gym is a place where I gather my mind!. It helps massively with my mood, (depression and anxiety) and although I do go quite a bit, I have managed to maintain a healthy BMI of about 22!. I am not doing too badly!. But still want to loose weight desperatly so I am still in a fragile position!. I am holding my ground, but this girl is sevearly rocking the boat!.
I want to apporach her but I can see her saying "I don't know what you mean" whilst knowing EXACTLY what I mean but just trying to make me look paranoid!.
I am not paranoid!. I have lived with the other anorexic looking girls in the gym for over 5 years now!. Its only in the last month that she's been in my face!.
Has anyone got any advice!? she is in nearly all of my classes now!. I don't see why I should change the classes I enjoy just to avoid her!. I do try to avoid her but she does things like try to compete with me, its so hard not to want to thrash her!. I HATE her!
Anyone got any advice!? I don't want to get sick again, but I don't want her to think she has beaten me!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
i know exactly how you feel! but in my case, you have it easy! i always feel like im competing, but with everyone!
the only advice i would give you is to ignore her like you're doing!. im sure shes thinking the same thing!. 'i gotta be better!. shes watching me!. shes looking at me!. SHES JUDGING ME!.' both me and you know what its like to feel like you're being judged!. all the time! well at least that's how i feel!
if you think that shes got ana like you, i don't recommend talking to her, for anything! that would be like a crack head talking to another about their 'problems'!. its not gonna help anything!
if she shows up to class, wait till it starts and then move so she cant see you!. if they start at other times, then show up at another time!. if shes already centered her attention on you and you're her motivation to work harder, then shes not gonna leave you alone!. but DON'T give in!. omg, how hard is recovery!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
A NEVER ENDING FREAKEN STORY!!!! so y let some stranger sabotage it for you!? don't give in!! stay strong and smile!. best wishes!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
the only advice i would give you is to ignore her like you're doing!. im sure shes thinking the same thing!. 'i gotta be better!. shes watching me!. shes looking at me!. SHES JUDGING ME!.' both me and you know what its like to feel like you're being judged!. all the time! well at least that's how i feel!
if you think that shes got ana like you, i don't recommend talking to her, for anything! that would be like a crack head talking to another about their 'problems'!. its not gonna help anything!
if she shows up to class, wait till it starts and then move so she cant see you!. if they start at other times, then show up at another time!. if shes already centered her attention on you and you're her motivation to work harder, then shes not gonna leave you alone!. but DON'T give in!. omg, how hard is recovery!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
A NEVER ENDING FREAKEN STORY!!!! so y let some stranger sabotage it for you!? don't give in!! stay strong and smile!. best wishes!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
go for it, compete, have an ED for the rest of your life you will love it, it will be the best and worst friend youve ever had!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
dang this question is long!!!!
the answer is yesWww@Answer-Health@Com
the answer is yesWww@Answer-Health@Com
hi j,your one of my contacts,and there are many questions that i have answered and asked and you have also answered them,I just wanted to say that you sound so grounded and sincere and sound like a great person!.I'm sorry that your feeling the way that,my advice will be to avoid her and try going to ur gym at different times so she cant keep up and will give up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
wow she sounds like someone really nasty minded!.
there is physcially ebating you and mentally beating you!. She has managed to twist your psyche - if you don't get out from under her - you have lost !.
She is callling the shots naming the game and oyu are being played out like a fish on the line - ou have gone from moderation to excess!.
I seriously understand I am competitive and anorexic!.
She has got under your guard and invited you to join her on her ground so that she can feel better about herself!.
I think the first step is acknowledging that you have the trigger to be pulled and strengthen that place!.
I would avoid her for a while till you can be sure that oyu can hold hte psychological shape that you want to - Bullies depend upon you holding the secret of what they are doing - tell someone else -
Look up online what to do about being bullied at the same time as dealing with your own psychological triggers!.
Winning in this case is about keeping your balance - not being faster than etc!.
She sounds like a psychopath - give her a really wide berth!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
there is physcially ebating you and mentally beating you!. She has managed to twist your psyche - if you don't get out from under her - you have lost !.
She is callling the shots naming the game and oyu are being played out like a fish on the line - ou have gone from moderation to excess!.
I seriously understand I am competitive and anorexic!.
She has got under your guard and invited you to join her on her ground so that she can feel better about herself!.
I think the first step is acknowledging that you have the trigger to be pulled and strengthen that place!.
I would avoid her for a while till you can be sure that oyu can hold hte psychological shape that you want to - Bullies depend upon you holding the secret of what they are doing - tell someone else -
Look up online what to do about being bullied at the same time as dealing with your own psychological triggers!.
Winning in this case is about keeping your balance - not being faster than etc!.
She sounds like a psychopath - give her a really wide berth!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can understand how you feel, that would drive me nuts!.
I would do my very best to avoid/ignore her, but if it is impossible,
I would just ask her if she has a problem with you or something!.
Try to act like she doesnt intimidate you and show her that you wont back down!.
The gym is supposed to be a place where you can clear your mind and work on your own goals, and not have to deal with a competitive psycho!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would do my very best to avoid/ignore her, but if it is impossible,
I would just ask her if she has a problem with you or something!.
Try to act like she doesnt intimidate you and show her that you wont back down!.
The gym is supposed to be a place where you can clear your mind and work on your own goals, and not have to deal with a competitive psycho!.Www@Answer-Health@Com